I FINALLY found a solution to online dating!!!!!
Gionni
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Here what I did .. I deleted all my online site profiles and unsubscribed to all emails . It's been 3 weeks and I don't think I've ever been happier. Online dating is terrible and is inherently disappointing for men. For women it's the opposite it seems... Because guys have much lower standards, even a pig on OKC can get a guy to sleep with it. Guys virtually parade themselves in front of semi attractive women, whom get the first right of refusal and without dignity! I hate people that are cowards and online dating has made it easier for people just like texting.
I really think deleting all my profiles raised my self esteem a few points and removed my good name from something that is so evil!
I really think deleting all my profiles raised my self esteem a few points and removed my good name from something that is so evil!
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I'm really sad to hear that.
I totally recommended my friend get online because both times I've done it, it was a boost to my ego.
Did you take the tips we gave you before (less intense pictures, less intense writing)?
What I mean with the writing is: when I read things like, "even a pig on OKC can get a guy to sleep with it. Guys virtually parade themselves in front of semi attractive women, whom get the first right of refusal and without dignity!" I get the sense that the attitude in your writing is an immediate turn off to women who might otherwise have been interested.
What I mean by the pictures is more smiling, more you doing fun stuff that she (whoever she is) might like to do with you0 -
Because guys have much lower standards, even a pig on OKC can get a guy to sleep with it . Guys virtually parade themselves in front of semi attractive women, whom get the first right of refusal and without dignity!
I think I may see part of the problem.0 -
Well, if you're going to have that attitude, good riddance.
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One of the "Pigs" from OKC...
One who, btw, doesn't get laid from it.0 -
Well, if you're going to have that attitude, good riddance.
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One of the "Pigs" from OKC...
One who, btw, doesn't get laid from it.
Hey now, it's not like he labeled anyone specific.0 -
sounds like OP is just frustrated.
my advice - just based on what i've seen from the posts in this forum is that you do come off as wee bit intense - is you get some new photos, and rewrite your profile, then sit down with a female friend or family member and ask them to give feedback.
as for the pigs being able to get laid via online dating, i disagree with that otherwise most of the creepy guys on those things wouldnt have any issues.0 -
Hahahaha...
Even a pig.. I dont think he was referring to the woman of OKC as pigs but just using it an example of how easy it is for woman on the online dating scene for people to be interested. Which is totally correct.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...0
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Because guys have much lower standards, even a pig on OKC can get a guy to sleep with it.
LOL! This made me laugh outloud.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
No.
Im sorry you are finding it hard. But if you compare messages sent to recieved from a males perspective... Woman as a whole, have the clear upper hand. Fact.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
No.
Im sorry you are finding it hard. But if you compare messages sent to recieved from a males perspective... Woman as a whole, have the clear upper hand. Fact.
Supported 100%, at least with women in their 20s.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I'm with ya there. I wasn't exactly inundated with messages on POF or OKC. In three months on Match, I had about two. It's not easy for anyone. Liking one who likes you back is the hard part. It takes a lot of patience and self esteem. I've been fed up many times0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
No.
Im sorry you are finding it hard. But if you compare messages sent to recieved from a males perspective... Woman as a whole, have the clear upper hand. Fact.
unless you're a black woman, then you're pretty much the female equivalent of the guy who admits to be 5 feet tall online :laugh:
part of the reason i dont do online dating as much is that it's not really worth my time. I do far far better irl than i do online. a sister can't get no e-love :sad:0 -
Because guys have much lower standards, even a pig on OKC can get a guy to sleep with it . Guys virtually parade themselves in front of semi attractive women, whom get the first right of refusal and without dignity!
I think I may see part of the problem.
um...yeah...wow...:huh:0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?0 -
unless you're a black woman, then you're pretty much the female equivalent of the guy who admits to be 5 feet tall online :laugh:
part of the reason i dont do online dating as much is that it's not really worth my time. I do far far better irl than i do online. a sister can't get no e-love :sad:
Sad but true... I get a lot of male interest, but it often fades they find out I'm not Puerto Rican or Indian. As if I am a totally different woman than the one they were talking to 5 minutes prior :sad:0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
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Well, if you're going to have that attitude, good riddance.
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One of the "Pigs" from OKC...
One who, btw, doesn't get laid from it.
Hey now, it's not like he labeled anyone specific.
True. But that kind of generalizing attitude is a huge turnoff. If someone came across like that either in online dating OR in real life, I would run far away, no matter how attractive or successful they appeared to be.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
Huh? I feel like I missed something...0 -
2Stepz and Showgirl, I don't get it... You both look good and (from your comments in this forum) have a lot to offer. Seems to me you should at least be getting one decent contact a week (amidst tons of chaff). Maybe there's not a lot of guys where you are?0
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Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
Huh? I feel like I missed something...
I can only really talk from experience within my age group I guess. Ive been involved in online dating through my 20's on and off. Now at 29. I feel as if the girls in my age bracket, I woudlnt say spoiled for choice, but they have the upper hand. Girls I know, get soooo many messages, one girl Im friends with has gotten 50 messages in one day. I wouldnt have gotten 50 messages in 10 years!!!0 -
My point is ... Online dating is stupid ! It's whole purpose is to give women the ability to reject men easier and build THEIR ego. So **** that I'm better than that ! I'm not gonna be a bulleye for 20 year old BORES that I probably couldn't even hold a conversation with. The last girl that I dated from OKC was so retarded we had to leave the restaurant I took her to because the menu NO PICURES on it!0
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I don't think you are going to meet the smartest most quality people on a free dating site. I think you said in the past you tried match or eharmony, so maybe you have to pay for those again.0
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Want to know why the statistics come out that way? (My numbers aren't exactly right, but close enough to get the picture across)
1.) Men are more apt to make the first step and send an email.
2.) The top 10% of females will receive messages from 80% of men.
Therefore: the top 10% of women get swamped with email and the rest of us are pretty much ignored.
3.) Women who DO make the first move, tend to message guys who are only interested in that top 10%
Lesson to be learned? Humans have high expectations and try to reach outside of their league. We're all victims of this process, and it's entirely ridiculous.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
I'm 26 and I get a couple of emails a week- however some of them are not what I'm looking for or just odd for example- "I think I see you around town but I'm not very good- looking so you probably won't notice me" ( he has no photo and lives 30minutes away).0 -
I don't think you are going to meet the smartest most quality people on a free dating site. I think you said in the past you tried match or eharmony, so maybe you have to pay for those again.
Hey I'm on a free dating site (okc) and I consider myself smart and a quality person so I won't stereotype that.0 -
I finally took my "what I'm doing now" off of my profile, because evidently getting a PhD in engineering is too intimidating. I still MIGHT get one or two emails a month.0
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Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
I'm 26 and I get a couple of emails a week- however some of them are not what I'm looking for or just odd for example- "I think I see you around town but I'm not very good- looking so you probably won't notice me" ( he has no photo and lives 30minutes away).
Sounds like you have a stalker lol0 -
I appreciate that. Well apparently being over 30 limits responses according to the guys here. I'm all shriveled up. Lol I'm in Los Angeles. Plenty of people, maybe too many to choose from. And probably a boatload of actress/models under 25 getting all the messages. I get if everyone is competing for that top 2%, then yeah they do have the pick of the litter so guys shouldn't be surprised if there aren't high responses. But for everyone but that 2%, it is not easy and can be very discouraging2Stepz and Showgirl, I don't get it... You both look good and (from your comments in this forum) have a lot to offer. Seems to me you should at least be getting one decent contact a week (amidst tons of chaff). Maybe there's not a lot of guys where you are?0 -
Want to know why the statistics come out that way? (My numbers aren't exactly right, but close enough to get the picture across)
1.) Men are more apt to make the first step and send an email.
2.) The top 10% of females will receive messages from 80% of men.
Therefore: the top 10% of women get swamped with email and the rest of us are pretty much ignored.
3.) Women who DO make the first move, tend to message guys who are only interested in that top 10%
Lesson to be learned? Humans have high expectations and try to reach outside of their league. We're all victims of this process, and it's entirely ridiculous.
Yeah I get that, that makes sense.
I tend to be not one of those guys though, I know my limits haha. I push the boudries of league a little bit. Not to sound my own horn, but I would say I seem like a pretty good dude as in not a douche bag compared to other guys in my area. I get knocked back though 9/10 i'd say. I do some knocking back myself but not nearly as much as im on the receiving end of. I think internet dating is far more attraction based, I very rarely send a message to someone with out photo's or a girl Im not attracted too. Have done it before, to a profile, that was funny and had a lot in common, worked out well as she was gorgeous and had her photos hidden as she said on a later date she was getting way too much attention and I was the first guy to send her a message since she took her photos down.. Winning. Didnt work out though lol.0 -
Do you WANT to view my inbox? Easy my *kitten*...
I know, right?
In between to 20-30 yrs old then
I'm 26 and I get a couple of emails a week- however some of them are not what I'm looking for or just odd for example- "I think I see you around town but I'm not very good- looking so you probably won't notice me" ( he has no photo and lives 30minutes away).
Sounds like you have a stalker lol
I took it as a bad attempt for a pick up line but it did come across as very creepy.0
