This is definitely something I struggle with. I don't really have any suggestions for how to overcome it exactly. I won't say that it's completely gone away for me, but I will say that something has changed about my attitude since starting BR (I don't htink it has anything to do with the program directly, more like I was just mentally in a different place, which probably allowed me to accept the challenge of BR in the first place).

I always used to get too close to what I wanted (not just in weight loss or fitness, but in all parts of my life) and then just stop. Give up. That way, I might be failing, but at least I was failing BY CHOICE. For a long time I thought that was the better, safer option.

I don't think that anymore. I am willing to put myself out there. I'm willing to work hard for what I want and believe that I deserve it. I don't know how that change of perspective happened. I just decided that I was keeping myself miserable the other way. I wasn't safer. It wasn't better. It actually really freaking sucked, and I didn't want to make myself feel that way anymore. After all, I would NEVER let someone else make me feel that way and get away with it. It was time to apply the same standards to the way I treat myself.

It's still hard. And I still find myself beginning to head down that path. But now I have avenues of support, and I reach out to people when I need help and validation. I wish I had some success plan I could offer to you. I've so been where you are and it sucks.