Will power...

nelliemagine
nelliemagine Posts: 27 Member
Hi all. I tried to do a paleo challenge for 30 days back in March and failed miserably. I was working full time, in nursing school, trying to balance family and friends and a relationship with my boyfriend. I know these are excuses, as if I REALLY wanted to make a change in my life I would find a balance. But the truth is, I do want to make the change...I'm just really struggling to stick to it. I just graduated last week and have a job already, so I feel things should be slowing down.

Since starting school I have gained 10-15 pounds and I feel miserable with myself. My self esteem is at a pretty low level right now. I know what I need to eat and I joined a crossfit gym in January. I know what needs to be done, I just need to DO IT!

I'm just wondering how you all stick with this and if you have any advice for me to stick with it once and for all. Thanks in advance :)

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  • impyimpyaj
    impyimpyaj Posts: 1,073 Member
    It's like I wrote on another post on the main forum. It's all about priorities. Do you want to be healthy in the long-term, or do you want this tasty treat in the short term? If the short term pleasure is the higher priority, that's absolutely a valid choice. As long as you realize that you're making the choice. You have power to choose whatever you put in your mouth. Own your choices, rather than believing (falsely) that you can't control yourself. Whether you make a healthy choice or an unhealthy one, you're always exerting willpower, because it's always ultimately your choice.

    I'm new to paleo, but not new to trying to get healthy. For me, sugary treats are always the hardest. But if I just don't have any for about a week, I suddenly don't crave them anymore. If you really want to change your eating, push through for a while. The cravings will pass. But keep in mind that especially with paleo, this isn't a short-term thing. There's no need to rush into making a zillion changes all at once. Make one change at a time, slow and steady, so you're more likely to keep up with it. If you take away everything you're used to eating all at once, and if it feels like deprivation to you, you're more likely to have a relapse.

    Above all else, take things one moment at a time. If you give in to that treat, you haven't failed in anything. Just dust yourself off, and make a different choice next time.
  • twinmom01
    twinmom01 Posts: 854 Member
    One step at a time....seriously

    It has taken me over 2 years to get to the point where I am at...I started slowly - cut out soda...then moved on to lessening breads and pastas...moved on to replacing "healthful" snack bars with actual whole foods...then to replacing Healthy Choice lunches with actual food...slow and steady...

    Ease yourself into it - I think to many people try and make 101 changes all at once and wind up failing...

    Read and research and make choices about what is best for you....take a look at your daily eating habits and figure out where the easiest changes can be made and start there...do that for a few weeks and then tweek some more...

    Don't expect overnight results....it may take time for results to show - it can get frustrating but you have to ask yourself why are you making a change...

    I just read this article this morning and it helped me put a lot of things into perspective that I have been struggling with lately

    http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2011/07/21/meet-staci-your-new-powerlifting-super-hero/
  • MikeFlyMike
    MikeFlyMike Posts: 639 Member
    Do you follow primal blueprint at all? Marks 21 day transformation book is a nice way of easing into a change.
    For me I just tossed all grains first, then moved through other things.
    Rewarding myself with excellent protein and good fats made up for any sugar and bad carbs I was giving up.

    You have to transform from believing you are on a diet, to knowing you are in a lifestyle.
  • MrsAbles
    MrsAbles Posts: 117 Member
    First of, congrats on graduating AND finding a job! You have to realize how awesome your life is and what a terrific person you must be to have gotten this far!

    I think sometimes we procrastinate because we think something is going to be much harder than it actually is.

    You have to eat regardless of your job or people in your life. You already have your Crossfit membership. Just make a little plan for next week only. Write it down: I'm going to Crossfit on such and such days. Check it off when done. Write down a basic meal plan for the week, or just a few days even, make a list and go to the store. You have to go shopping anyway.

    And don't feel like you have to be perfect, in your paleo lifestyle or anywhere. When we try to be perfect, we just set ourselves up for failure. Just get back on the horse. And seriously, take it one step at a time.
  • kecarlto
    kecarlto Posts: 49 Member
    Congrats! Nursing school can be pretty tough and getting through it is quite an accomplishment. Good work.

    Planning, planning, planning...oh, and logging have helped me stick with my goals the most. Plus, I like to think that I'm being stubborn as opposed to having will power because I really have no will power at all. I REALLY struggle for a week every month and if I don't at least look through a cookbook or someone's diary for ideas I end up buying crap at the grocer. Most importantly if you do "fall off the wagon," don't feel bad about it, just don't stay off the wagon. One of my nurse friends takes healthy snacks with her to work and about once week takes a planned "cheat snack." She calls it "hanging her feet off the side of the wagon." It seems to work for her...lol.

    I also set mini-goals or weekly goals and then celebrate when I reach them. I will admit that quite a few celebrations are just me bragging to my family and friends but they're always encouraging and supportive which helps keep me on track.

    Good luck. I hope you enjoy your new job!
  • nelliemagine
    nelliemagine Posts: 27 Member
    Thank you so much for all the advice! It's so nice to hear how others maintain this lifestyle. After reading your posts, I think my biggest problem is that I was trying to take on too much at one time. I am somewhat of a perfectionist and I wanted the full benefits RIGHT NOW! Making mini goals for myself and checking them off sounds like it would number one keep me focused and number two make me feel like I was making progress.

    Yes, I starting reading Primal Blueprint. I actually borrowed it to my sister's mother in law while I was finishing school this past month. Time to get it back so I can focus on me now :)

    Thanks for all the kind words about school too. It's been challenging, but so worth it!