I can hardly stand being over on the regular MFP anymore
graysmom2005
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UGH! There was a girl who was asking about eating 1000 calories a day. Everyone was appalled and then said for her to eat 1200. A whopping 200 calories more. Everyone's calories seem so, so low and I know they are going to end up stalling out like I did, and it's so frustrating. I almost can't go over to that forum anymore. Bums me out. Vent over. :flowerforyou:
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I know whatcha mean.
I have an MFP friend who was ranting about how she doesnt want to eat more, she wants a negative net every day, yet was frustrated because she hadn't lost any weight!?
People can be stupid. End of story. I try to help and be patient but it's hard when they're like "lolz no u dont kno wat ur talkin bout" after they ask for help. *facepalm*0 -
I know how you feel. I posted a question in the forums before I found this group. My weight loss had stalled and I asked if anyone had any thoughts to start it back up. Not one person said eat more. Almost all of them said eat between 1200-1500 calories (max/no eating back exercise calories). I did that for 2 weeks before finding this group. Thank goodness I did! I was starving!0
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I am so thankful that I found this group! I just FINALLY broke a 7 week plateau today and I can't explain how happy I feel to have a better understanding of how to fuel my body!!!0
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There are some days I can't handle being on the EM2WL boards either- so I pick where I can spend my energy that day and how I can help. Maybe I'm not supposed to help on the main boards that day- perhaps there is someone on my friends list who needs some extra care. Perhaps I'm supposed to spend time with me today and working on myself-
I get frustrated only when I feel I have to do it ALL
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I hear you lol
I don't even know myself how I could ever eat that little for so many years....*shakeshead* :noway:0 -
UGH! There was a girl who was asking about eating 1000 calories a day. Everyone was appalled and then said for her to eat 1200. A whopping 200 calories more. Everyone's calories seem so, so low and I know they are going to end up stalling out like I did, and it's so frustrating. I almost can't go over to that forum anymore. Bums me out. Vent over. :flowerforyou:
I KNOW!!!
It's like being in the "Land of Anxiety" vs. the "Land of Freedom".
When I think of what I put myself through...........0 -
Oh yes definitely! there is a girl on my list who is eating 800 calories!@ I had to delete her because she was so happy about how much she ate and how much she works out. she lost couple of pounds. I can't stand seeing her starve herself because I'm much happier right now. so I told her I am sorrY I can't support that kind of lifestyle... and deleted her 0
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I feel the same way. I get so frustrated reading the forums over there. It is always the same questions over and over and people who under eat. I now find myself only reading the forums in this group. 0
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yeah ... i start to think maybe i can enlighten them to eat more and feel better but so many haters out there too. their just hungry!!!:bigsmile:
I need to focus on me for now but I also feel the overpowering need to help when they seem to be struggling ... ho hum!0 -
Me too! I have a friend on here who's super addicted to running right now, and she's still decently overweight and eating 1200-1400 calories a day and every time she posts about being burned out and exhausted and frustrated that the scale isn't moving very fast, I try to tell her to eat more, that she's tired because she's starving. And it goes completely unheard amongst all the other people going "just push through, you're doing great the way you are". Sigh. I love the EM2WL boards, they are my sanity oasis on MFP 0
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This is the first group I found--thank goodness! I did a google about plateaus, found a message on the min forums, which lead me here.
You all seem much more articulate, intelligent and thoughtful than the MFP masses. I love it! I don't really visit the other forums because this has what I need 0 -
I know what you mean. I ate 1025 calories a day for 3 months and I never want to go back to that. It is hard to bite my tongue when I see my friends or other MFPers going down the same pathway. So, I tend to stay away from the other boards.0
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I was one of those (idiots). I cannot believe I was taking in usually less than 800 calories by the time I finished exercising. I am SO glad I found this group as well. I am able to eat, mind you, not gorge myself, but I am able to have a good amount of filling nutritious food!! I cannot go back to that lifestyle. I don't care how long it takes me to shed all my weight. I am so happy that I am doing it the healthy way!!! Thanks to all of you in this group, I could not do it without you guys!!,0
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Amen! I was eating right at my bmr and under before. I lost several pounds and then got stuck. Upped my cals and scaled moved again (and I'm happier because I'm eating more!). I'll never forget that one lady I saw in a thread who bragged about eating only 800 cals a day (said her doctor put her on it!) and was horribly vicious to anyone who said it was unhealthy. Probably crabby because she was hungry though lol0
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I completely agree...Especially when I first started eating more and then reading all the different "advice" then I would question myself and over think.....
Then I would think of cutting back on calories and laugh and go eat.:bigsmile:0 -
It seems sad that there are all these people out there that don't really want to understand how their body works. I love this group and all of the information I can find. I also moved past a plateau once I started reading.0
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this group is awesome!!! i feel so much better since i started eating more and can see improvements big time.0
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We need our own exclusive website!!! I had a conversation today with a girl who is trying to eat more, and oh, the horrid advice that gets handed out in the name of "theres no one-size-fits all solution". I wish people would stop throwing that around because it is simple science!!!! I have to just make my one or two comments, and then back away. The things that people believe are truly amazing! I had this girl today tell me you wont lose muscle on less than 1200 calories a day, as long as you are doing plenty of cardio. Grrr...
Yes, it does feel mighty good to rant doesnt it? :P0 -
This group probably has the most sane and sensible people in it lol0
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Keep in mind that many are misinformed and trusting of the advise that is given by the "mainstream". When I started yacking about it, I shared it with love and had patience with those that weren't ready to receive it. Many have come around, so I would say share the information in your feed about how good you are feeling and talk about your progress, take progress pics and continue to drop tidbits of scientific nfo you have learned. People will get curious and ask questions, more questions, the same questions...just keep answering. Ok ok ok sometimes I would post little rants about not fueling the body, and I'm sure I rubbed some the wrong way, but there were those that upped because of some of the ranting on the "soapbox"...lol.0
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I guess we were once like them too lol0
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Keep in mind that many are misinformed and trusting of the advise that is given by the "mainstream". When I started yacking about it, I shared it with love and had patience with those that weren't ready to receive it. Many have come around, so I would say share the information in your feed about how good you are feeling and talk about your progress, take progress pics and continue to drop tidbits of scientific nfo you have learned. People will get curious and ask questions, more questions, the same questions...just keep answering. Ok ok ok sometimes I would post little rants about not fueling the body, and I'm sure I rubbed some the wrong way, but there were those that upped because of some of the ranting on the "soapbox"...lol.
You are so right Lucia and I so admire you for always being so patient! I remember thinking the same way, and Im so glad I
"saw the light", LOL. Still battling so much of that mentally. Just gotta keep pressing on, and hope others will see our example, and that this is working!0 -
The regular boards suck. They make me want to do this when I see the "Hey congrats on eating 500 calories and your awesome pregnancy hormones!"
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The regular boards suck. They make me want to do this when I see the "Hey congrats on eating 500 calories and your awesome pregnancy hormones!"
As kiki says: Fingers of fury!!!!0 -
Heh a bit graphic but thats how I feel on the inside. I dont try and push anyone but I do drop tidbits of info in hopes they may see the light.
This is a TOUGH road to go down, but better overall for the longevity of your health.0 -
I see the am I eating enough/help I'm in a plateau threads all the time. I used to post long explanations of why eating more is the answer. Not anymore. Now I word things simply with a reference to this group. If they want the answer, it's here. You want change badly enough to do what it takes to get it? Go do what we did. Read, ask, learn.0
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Hi..I .I did a thread promoting EM2WL ...The responses reached 500 mfp locks it and starts a part 2. I did the thread outside the EM2WL group. I wanted to reach those who perhaps knew nothing about it. I felt like a baby goldfish among shark. I answer what seemed like a gazillion questions both on the thread in my mail. Some were very open others were confused and some said they refused to eat more than 1200 calories. I definently did not agree with them but I didn't entertain them either... Others tore them to pieces. I vowed not to do that..I felt bad for them wanting 1200 calories but I spent my time and energy with those who were interested.... I simply layed the foundation . Will they build upon it? Some will and some want. But like Lucia expressed you have to be patient with them because no don't always mean never. When they hit a plateau or something most if them will come back wanting know more if they were treated with respect. Im not saying you want get angry. But sometimes in anger it best not to say anything. I try an be carefull about what are how I say something on here because behind these sites you really don't know what these people go through.....0
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I guess we were once like them too lol
I think this is the most important thing to remember. Also- you never know who's reading the threads in our group here. Perhaps someone who is scared but hopeful and just needs some care to come around.
A mommie who's terrified of gaining weight and not being there to see her babies grow up.
A daddy who misses playing with his kids and feels guilty for 'letting himself go'.
A college student who's far away from home, alone and confused with all the BS 'diet and health' ideas that are tossed around campuses.
It's not easy- but we have to try and be kind because being angry doesn't get us anywhere or help nearly as many people. I have to remind myself this often lol0 -
I guess we were once like them too lol
I think this is the most important thing to remember. Also- you never know who's reading the threads in our group here. Perhaps someone who is scared but hopeful and just needs some care to come around.
A mommie who's terrified of gaining weight and not being there to see her babies grow up.
A daddy who misses playing with his kids and feels guilty for 'letting himself go'.
A college student who's far away from home, alone and confused with all the BS 'diet and health' ideas that are tossed around campuses.
It's not easy- but we have to try and be kind because being angry doesn't get us anywhere or help nearly as many people. I have to remind myself this often lol
Exactly, I purposed in my heart that these boards would always remain respectful and welcoming. I don't have time to comment as frequently but I try to read most of it because I rather lock a board and tell you why I'm locking it if it is shifting in a negative direction. There will always be naysayers, but patience is the key. Even if a disgruntled newbie gets rude, don't get defensive they are just struggling, aren't ready to fully commit, and downright frustrated. If we respond negatively we do them a disservice. Say nothing at all and Kiki or I will respond...drop me a PM if need be, but let this group enviroment remain warm and fuzzy:flowerforyou:0 -
I KNOW! I think that's what makes it frustrating. You don't want people going down a long frustrating road. I want success for everyone!I guess we were once like them too lol0
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