Almost to your goal...but ACK!! Losing motivation!

jsapninz
jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
I have been on MFP since February 8th and as you can see from my ticker I have done well (I am 5'5" by the way), almost a consistent 1 lb per week loss since then. My original goal weight was 135, but once I got there I realized it was not at all what I thought it would be so I adjusted goal to 121 (because that is 25 lb loss from my starting weight, with a 20.1 BMI). I may want to gain a few lbs back AFTER I get down to 121 lbs (depending on how I look) but I want to decide that once I get there.

My issue is, I am getting SO CLOSE to my ideal look. When I look in the mirror naked instead of just feeling like "well, there's my body," I now feel like Ron Burgundy in Anchor Man: " HEY EVERYONE!! COME SEE HOW GOOD I LOOK!!" :blushing: It is a wonderful feeling and I am so proud of myself for getting this far and so thankful for MFP and all my support buddies on and off here.

BUT:

I set this goal and I want to STICK TO IT for will power reasons, but I am losing steam! I have never been able to lose weight before in my life and I don't want to give up now just because I am "close enough." But it is SO HARD to stay motivated! I only have 6-7 more lbs left to lose, but more and more these days I feel like "eh, I can have a day where I go waay over goal, I'm in NO HURRY to get to my goal weight anyway." But it sucks because I am just prolonging my eating at a cut longer and longer. I would rather just GET IT DONE and have those maintenance calories to enjoy every day instead of "trying" to eat at a cut for weeks and weeks indefinitely because I keep cheating. UGH!!

And of course it is tough for other people to relate because everyone says "you don't NEED to lose any more weight."
I KNOW I don't NEED to. But I set a goal, and I want to follow through, not just give up because I ALMOST hit goal! :ohwell:

I realized that when people saying "losing those last few lbs are ALWAYS the hardest," while they aren't hard if you have your daily goal set correctly, they ARE more difficult because you lose steam and don't feel as motivated to hit that goal EVERY day because you already look SO much better and you have already come SO far. You are SO CLOSE to your goal it seems like you don't have to work that hard any more because the end is in sight. But then the end just keeps getting pushed further and further back because you aren't working as hard to get there! It is frustrating!!:sad:

Does/did anyone else feel this way? How do you combat it?

Thanks for reading!

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  • stlinares
    stlinares Posts: 23 Member
    I'm here lacking motivation, as well. If you figure out a solution please pass it on. haha! If only it were that simple, right???
  • fishiesintheseaa
    fishiesintheseaa Posts: 45 Member
    Well I am just starting my weight loss journey so I feel like I am not really a good fit to give you advice, but like you said, you have come so freaking far! It would be such a shame to just settle at a weight that wasn't your goal just because its good enough.

    While I was training for a half marathon in November, there were so many times where after my long runs I'd say "eh, I made it to 8 miles, thats good enough, its more than I've ever run before", and I'd seriously consider ending my training there and not running the half marathon. But let me tell you; finishing training and completing the half marathon was one of the most incredible feelings ever. I felt like if I could do that, I could literally do anything.

    I suppose weight loss is similar; as far as you've come and as much progress as you made, when you started this you told yourself you were going to go further, and you should! When you actually get there the feeling will be soo worth it, and you will also feel like you can literally do anything. Which you can! Good luck (:
  • kelseyhere
    kelseyhere Posts: 1,123 Member
    I feel ya' 100%. In the past month I've lost about 5 pounds and 6 1/2 inches. Although I'm not aiming for a specific number on the scale, I probably need to lose about 5 more to get to my ideal look. I'm really starting to like the way my arms look and my abs are showing through now, but my damn thighs are still not where I want them. Because I am SO close and can fit in my jeans again, it has been very tempting to eat dessert and drink alcohol. When I think about baking a huge batch of cookies or want drinks after work, I remember my thighs - oh my lovely thighs and how they are the last to lose, and every cookie or drink I do consume will go straight to them, stalling the progress and delaying the time until I feel 100% confident in my bikini.

    Another way to combat this mentality is to start focusing on fitness goals. Let's take running for an example. Start by running a mile and timing yourself. Then set a goal to improve your time by say, 1 minute. Once you reach that goal, set another goal to reduce your time by 30 seconds. By continually pushing yourself harder in your workouts you'll be able to burn through those last few pounds even faster. It doesn't have to be running obviously, another idea is a burpee challenge where you do 50 burpees everyday for a month. I get the sense that you may be competitive (like me), and there is nothing better than being in a competition with yourself. When you're competing with yourself, no one can hold you back, only you. Don't hold yourself back. I frequently run the same trail near my house and every time I try and push myself harder and faster. I get a rush when I get back home and realize I cut two minutes off my time, AND burned an extra 50 cals. Another approach would be to assign points to your workouts (i.e. 10 points for a Jillian MIchael's DVD, 15 points for 30 minutes jogging, etc.) and push yourself to earn more points every week. This method works very well for groups also because of the competition aspect. We did it at my job and every time I heard some bragging about their points, and made me want to earn more just so I could say that I did.

    I like to think I'm not just doing this to look hot in a bikini, but also because I want to be a bad *kitten* warrior princess who can run fast, jump high, lift heavy things and have awesome endurance. By achieving those things, the hot body will come naturally. The other thing I think about is the fact that I've been here before. I got fat(ish) my junior year of college then lost it all and looked better than I ever had in my whole life. Over the course of two years I gained it all back and when I joined MFP back in November, I was very unhappy and disappointed with myself. I don't want to do it a third time, so that's why I'm more determined this time to build lifelong fitness and healthy eating habits. Learn from my mistake and when you feel lazy say to yourself, "do I really want to have to do this all over again in two years?"