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La_Amazona
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It's happened again. Why must I be boy crazy!?
I met him through online dating. He asked me out. 1st date went great! We kissed.. Lots of chemistry. I couldn't stop smiling, neither could he. He's the Italian stallion, educated, sweet, a gentleman, loves his family and is very close to them (like I am), he calls every night and actually talks for an hour or 2. He is open and talks about how he wants to see me again, he tells me he thinks of me during the day and that he likes me.
Of course I had no intention of meeting someone and liking them. I figured casual dating would be fun. Especially since I just moved here and am barely settling in. I keep trying to purposely meet other men to not single him out but he is standing out so far.
He told me tonight he wanted to see me over the weekend and how he wishes he could see me more often. We don't live too far but he works until 7-8 so his schedule gets in the way. Anyway, I did the unthinkable and invited him out tomorrow night to see me while out with friends since some of them might bring Bfs/ husbands. He said he'd be there. We might do lunch the next day and he told me to plan being with him Saturday night.. We might go meet up with his friends.
I'm enjoying it and not overthinking. I'm also taking it slow this time and so far he doesn't seem like he's in a rush which is good. I hadn't been letting myself feel the butterflies though because I got burned last time (Ex bf started dating someone immediately after our break up and are even living together... Yeah guess I wasn't "that" special as I thought I was) but he's getting to me. :bigsmile:
So maybe I've been bit again!?!? I can't wait to see him tomorrow!!
I met him through online dating. He asked me out. 1st date went great! We kissed.. Lots of chemistry. I couldn't stop smiling, neither could he. He's the Italian stallion, educated, sweet, a gentleman, loves his family and is very close to them (like I am), he calls every night and actually talks for an hour or 2. He is open and talks about how he wants to see me again, he tells me he thinks of me during the day and that he likes me.
Of course I had no intention of meeting someone and liking them. I figured casual dating would be fun. Especially since I just moved here and am barely settling in. I keep trying to purposely meet other men to not single him out but he is standing out so far.
He told me tonight he wanted to see me over the weekend and how he wishes he could see me more often. We don't live too far but he works until 7-8 so his schedule gets in the way. Anyway, I did the unthinkable and invited him out tomorrow night to see me while out with friends since some of them might bring Bfs/ husbands. He said he'd be there. We might do lunch the next day and he told me to plan being with him Saturday night.. We might go meet up with his friends.
I'm enjoying it and not overthinking. I'm also taking it slow this time and so far he doesn't seem like he's in a rush which is good. I hadn't been letting myself feel the butterflies though because I got burned last time (Ex bf started dating someone immediately after our break up and are even living together... Yeah guess I wasn't "that" special as I thought I was) but he's getting to me. :bigsmile:
So maybe I've been bit again!?!? I can't wait to see him tomorrow!!
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Aww he sounds cute.
My advice if you're worrying about getting burned again: take it slow and listen to your instincts. 0 -
Will someone please pass the popcorn?0
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So ex bf moved on fast!
I just got word ex husband got married!!! He's only known the chick since Feb, started long distance in April and married July 4th. :noway:
Why do some men do that? I think "unstable" when I hear about it. I took a month off from dating after Smiley. He took like 4 days?
I'll have you know that popcornight not be necessary. I'm determined to not overthink and over analyze this time. Is it possible?? Hope so!0 -
I may get booed off the forum but I think you should take a step back and look at this. You're talking to him every night for an hour or two, taking him out with your friends on Friday to do what looks like couples stuff, hanging out during the day Saturday and with his friends on Saturday night doing couples stuff. Is that really taking it slow? It sounds like you are slowly isolating from others and rapidly moving towards most of your free time being with him. When are you taking time for yourself? How isn't he standing out versus all the other guys? They can barely get a moment of your time.
Be careful. You know better than us about how it ended the last time you felt like this. Good luck.0 -
I say enjoy the time you spend with him if you are having fun, and as others said listen to your instincts. seems sometimes with Smiley you put misgivings you had to back because you liked him so much. Listen to your gut and have FUN!!!0
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I see what you're saying. I won't be seeing him Saturday during the day after all. I had the same thoughts. I guess I meant "taking it slow" in my head, as in not overthinking, not daydreaming about the future, etc. I also wouldn't be so fast to commit to exclusivity with him. I'd wait a bit longer this time and get to know him more if it were to go that route.
I love our talks! I'm getting to know him by just talking vs being with him everyday. And he usually calls around 10 since he gets home late so I have been on a date and back home before his call. I'm not putting all my eggs in one basket yet.
Still, yes im very aware of last time and the burn hurt so I'm being cautious.0 -
Wow!!! Your ex did move on fast!
How long have you and this new guy been dating?? It all sounds good, and fun!!, to me :-)
From what I have read and heard from men, is that they often are looking and we are not the one. So, they break up w us or string us along, and then BAM they meet " the one.!" A friend's hubby was telling me about this girl he dated right before he met his wife ( my friend). He had been w this girl, a LonG time. Was not interested in living w her or marrying her. Apparently it was getting old for
The girl. She wanted to get married, he didn't. So, they broke up.
A month later, he randomly met my friend. They moved in together really fast and were together 6 mo when he proposed and6 mo later they were married. That was 12 yrs ago :-)
It wasn't that he didn't want to get married. It's that he didn't want to marry the other girl.
Plus, I think some men ( not all) have a harder time being alone, ie. not in a relationship......
Enjoy this new guy!! Relax, have fun, get out of your head!!!0 -
I dont know why people are so afraid of hurt. It's one of life's inevitability! Perhaps I'm just used to it? :huh: :bigsmile:
This is my fave saying:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Basically, life is just too short to hold back! People die every day and dont live a full life. Why?
Another one:
Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon!! :bigsmile:
GO FOR IT!! Forget the ex's, they are your past! ENJOY your life! Just know that you WILL be hurt again in life!! But why think about that now? There is too much fun to be had.....:flowerforyou:0 -
Well apparently it's not only men that do that. After dating one of my ex's for about a year, she was sleeping with someone the next day, and we were still living together. My other ex after about 2 years I think she waited a month before she started dating her current bf.So ex bf moved on fast!
I just got word ex husband got married!!! He's only known the chick since Feb, started long distance in April and married July 4th. :noway:
Why do some men do that? I think "unstable" when I hear about it. I took a month off from dating after Smiley. He took like 4 days?
I'll have you know that popcornight not be necessary. I'm determined to not overthink and over analyze this time. Is it possible?? Hope so!
I also agree with D-bright. Taking it slow in your head is still not taking it slow.0 -
I may get booed off the forum but I think you should take a step back and look at this. You're talking to him every night for an hour or two, taking him out with your friends on Friday to do what looks like couples stuff, hanging out during the day Saturday and with his friends on Saturday night doing couples stuff. Is that really taking it slow? It sounds like you are slowly isolating from others and rapidly moving towards most of your free time being with him. When are you taking time for yourself? How isn't he standing out versus all the other guys? They can barely get a moment of your time.
Be careful. You know better than us about how it ended the last time you felt like this. Good luck.
booooo!!!
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Well the plan is to have fun with the Italian stallion. I'm not intoxicated, not trying to make it work... etc. I'm going to let things flow and just have a blast... After all, I think every woman should date an Italian hunk once in their lifetime!!0
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Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Love this! Thanks.0 -
I say, have fun with it but be careful. You tend to go heart first, then head. 0
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I dont know why people are so afraid of hurt. It's one of life's inevitability! Perhaps I'm just used to it? :huh: :bigsmile:
This is my fave saying:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Basically, life is just too short to hold back! People die every day and dont live a full life. Why?
Another one:
Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon!! :bigsmile:
GO FOR IT!! Forget the ex's, they are your past! ENJOY your life! Just know that you WILL be hurt again in life!! But why think about that now? There is too much fun to be had.....:flowerforyou:
Excellence. Now everyone run around their house naked while eating pizza! And I LOVE being reckless in my kitchen! :smokin:0 -
I dont know why people are so afraid of hurt. It's one of life's inevitability! Perhaps I'm just used to it? :huh: :bigsmile:
This is my fave saying:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Basically, life is just too short to hold back! People die every day and dont live a full life. Why?
Another one:
Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon!! :bigsmile:
GO FOR IT!! Forget the ex's, they are your past! ENJOY your life! Just know that you WILL be hurt again in life!! But why think about that now? There is too much fun to be had.....:flowerforyou:
I definitely second my auntie's advice! As long as you don't have any reservations, go with the flow. Don't worry about next week or next month. Just take it one day at a time. It's hard for me too, to also not move quickly with a relationship. I'm a pisces, and I fall head first into emotional situations. Being with Steve has been the slowest relationship I've ever had! But I'm still taking it fast inside my head. I keep worrying about the future.. until I stop and pinch myself and remind myself to just take it one day at a time.
You got this.0 -
Instead of being bitter and scorned, you keep a very positive & high energy way about you which I think is great. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Best of luck to you.0
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I dont know why people are so afraid of hurt. It's one of life's inevitability! Perhaps I'm just used to it? :huh: :bigsmile:
This is my fave saying:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Basically, life is just too short to hold back! People die every day and dont live a full life. Why?
Another one:
Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon!! :bigsmile:
GO FOR IT!! Forget the ex's, they are your past! ENJOY your life! Just know that you WILL be hurt again in life!! But why think about that now? There is too much fun to be had.....:flowerforyou:
I definitely second my auntie's advice! As long as you don't have any reservations, go with the flow. Don't worry about next week or next month. Just take it one day at a time. It's hard for me too, to also not move quickly with a relationship. I'm a pisces, and I fall head first into emotional situations. Being with Steve has been the slowest relationship I've ever had! But I'm still taking it fast inside my head. I keep worrying about the future.. until I stop and pinch myself and remind myself to just take it one day at a time.
You got this.
3 for 3 here .... Have fun dating is not the end of the world .. If you like this guy good. Have fun and smile lol .Its friday after all0 -
I dont know why people are so afraid of hurt. It's one of life's inevitability! Perhaps I'm just used to it? :huh: :bigsmile:
This is my fave saying:
Work like you don't need the money.
Love like you've never been hurt.
Dance like no-one's watching.
Sing like no-one's listening.
Live like there's no tomorrow.
Fear like a stone.
Basically, life is just too short to hold back! People die every day and dont live a full life. Why?
Another one:
Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon!! :bigsmile:
GO FOR IT!! Forget the ex's, they are your past! ENJOY your life! Just know that you WILL be hurt again in life!! But why think about that now? There is too much fun to be had.....:flowerforyou:
I absolutely love your saying: I am so going to borrow it!! I need to read that every day b/c I am so reserved anymore b/c I am scared, embarrassed or afraid of getting hurt as well....Thanks for posting this!!
To OP: It sounds like you are doing the right thing by not keeping all of your eggs in one basket....Just see how it goes and take it day by day....It always seems like you find things when you weren't looking for them and that may be the case this time...Just have fun and go with it!! Best of luck to you!!
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How about this time you don't invest emotionally... look at every time you hangout as just fun, don't dream up scenarios in your head, just see everything as fun. If it stops being fun, then move on. If he's still around in 3-4 months... then you should start taking him seriously.0
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From what I have read and heard from men, is that they often are looking and we are not the one. So, they break up w us or string us along, and then BAM they meet " the one.!"
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It wasn't that he didn't want to get married. It's that he didn't want to marry the other girl.
Plus, I think some men ( not all) have a harder time being alone, ie. not in a relationship......
yep.How about this time you don't invest emotionally... look at every time you hangout as just fun, don't dream up scenarios in your head, just see everything as fun. If it stops being fun, then move on. If he's still around in 3-4 months... then you should start taking him seriously.
Edited to add: If I'm honest with myself, most of the guys who "strung me along" there were signs that I was "just filler." I just didn't listen... because I was trying too hard to stop over-analyzing everything, lol0 -
On ex bf, he asked me very early on if I'd live with him. I declined. Of course it practically seemed we did since we were together alot. He's lived with 2 others so yeah.. Guess he likes having someone there 24/7 and I got old.
Not tooting my own horn but he downgraded. Big time. Not one to judge but I can see how his new gf is just like the exes.. No wonder I was always different in his eyes. All of his exes and now new gf are trashy chicks in every way possible. But enough about him...
Yes no daydreaming, no marrying him in my head, no wondering why he hasn't texted, etc. I'm just smiling along having a great time with a cute sweet guy who seems to be into me and enjoys my company!!0 -
Instead of being bitter and scorned, you keep a very positive & high energy way about you which I think is great. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? Best of luck to you.
Thank you! I refuse to get bitter. I'm too bubbly anyway. I don't think it's possible!0 -
:laugh:On ex bf, he asked me very early on if I'd live with him. I declined. Of course it practically seemed we did since we were together alot. He's lived with 2 others so yeah.. Guess he likes having someone there 24/7 and I got old.
Not tooting my own horn but he downgraded. Big time. Not one to judge but I can see how his new gf is just like the exes.. No wonder I was always different in his eyes. All of his exes and now new gf are trashy chicks in every way possible. But enough about him...
Yes no daydreaming, no marrying him in my head, no wondering why he hasn't texted, etc. I'm just smiling along having a great time with a cute sweet guy who seems to be into me and enjoys my company!!
So what you're saying is... the Titanic has left the dock :laugh: jk. Good luck!!0 -
Well apparently it's not only men that do that. After dating one of my ex's for about a year, she was sleeping with someone the next day, and we were still living together. My other ex after about 2 years I think she waited a month before she started dating her current bf.So ex bf moved on fast!
I just got word ex husband got married!!! He's only known the chick since Feb, started long distance in April and married July 4th. :noway:
Why do some men do that? I think "unstable" when I hear about it. I took a month off from dating after Smiley. He took like 4 days?
I'll have you know that popcornight not be necessary. I'm determined to not overthink and over analyze this time. Is it possible?? Hope so!
This is because most people (both genders) fear being alone. But the truth is that people who hop from relationship to relationship without some alone time and self-discovery will never know who they really are or what they want in life and are doomed to repeat their mistakes. They usually just become clones of the next person they are with and then the next and so on. Taking the break and being alone may feel lonely or painful, but it is usually best in the long run.
Yup, this!I also agree with D-bright. Taking it slow in your head is still not taking it slow.0 -
:laugh:On ex bf, he asked me very early on if I'd live with him. I declined. Of course it practically seemed we did since we were together alot. He's lived with 2 others so yeah.. Guess he likes having someone there 24/7 and I got old.
Not tooting my own horn but he downgraded. Big time. Not one to judge but I can see how his new gf is just like the exes.. No wonder I was always different in his eyes. All of his exes and now new gf are trashy chicks in every way possible. But enough about him...
Yes no daydreaming, no marrying him in my head, no wondering why he hasn't texted, etc. I'm just smiling along having a great time with a cute sweet guy who seems to be into me and enjoys my company!!
So what you're saying is... the Titanic has left the dock :laugh: jk. Good luck!!
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I have a simlar story to someone elses... My fiance was in a relationship for 9 years. He thought she was the one. He ended it. He met me and he said he just knew. We are engaged and living together. Yesterday was our 3 mnth anniversary. so things move fast and sometimes for the better 0
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Will someone please pass the popcorn?
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Epic perpkern image! :laugh:0
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lol YAY Amazona is back normal lol0
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lol YAY Amazona is back normal lol
^ This!0
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