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I'm trying things different this time. I will be dating casually. IF one guy so happens to make me want to stop seeing other guys (by my level of interest) then so be it but so far it hasn't happened. I don't feel guilty and if one of the guys were to ask me I would be honest and tell them I was dating other men.
I know me. I will stop dating others naturally (don't even think about it, it just stops) when I'm really interested in someone. And usually if I'm still talking to others or am open to meeting other guys, usually means that I'm not that into him.0 -
This is the problem with today. Why cant a person just meet someone and focus on getting to know that one person and if it doesnt work then move on to the next. Most people can tell if there is going to be something there or not within a few dates. I dont understand the need to date multiple people. Women call men players if we do it but if women do it, its called dating. I know men do it too but men dont have as many options as women do and men do tend to want to settle down quicker than women.
How many of you have been on a date with a guy and he tries to be your man on the first date? I think its games, how can you get to know someone truely if you are dating multiple people and also what if both end up liking you alot and then you have to hurt one of them. Im sorry, im not trying to judge or be rude, I just think dating has become this realty tv kind of competition t
to compete for ones love. Its silly to me. Things would be simple if people would just be interested in one person at a time. This has destroyed online dating.
I am old school, i miss the days when you met someone and it was on. You know how sweet it is when you see old couples holding hands in the park, it is sweet, dating today has lost that sweetness. I also miss when you meet somone amazing and you talk on the phone till sunrise laughing, talking, and getting to know someone, now its about texting multiple people, Its just no the same. I am no way judging people but I do miss the romance and sweetness meeting someone amazing. Its like when you used to buy a cd and waited in the store and then opened up the art work and you can smell it and loved reading it, now its just not the same buying a cd in itunes. Something is just missing.
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I dont know if any of this makes sense. Sorry0 -
Also Its different how men and women view casual dating, we see it as hooking up and women see it as a date as friends.0
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This is the problem with today. Why cant a person just meet someone and focus on getting to know that one person and if it doesnt work then move on to the next. Most people can tell if there is going to be something there or not within a few dates. I dont understand the need to date multiple people. Women call men players if we do it but if women do it, its called dating. I know men do it too but men dont have as many options as women do and men do tend to want to settle down quicker than women.
How many of you have been on a date with a guy and he tries to be your man on the first date? I think its games, how can you get to know someone truely if you are dating multiple people and also what if both end up liking you alot and then you have to hurt one of them. Im sorry, im not trying to judge or be rude, I just think dating has become this realty tv kind of competition t
to compete for ones love. Its silly to me. Things would be simple if people would just be interested in one person at a time. This has destroyed online dating.
I am old school, i miss the days when you met someone and it was on. You know how sweet it is when you see old couples holding hands in the park, it is sweet, dating today has lost that sweetness. I also miss when you meet somone amazing and you talk on the phone till sunrise laughing, talking, and getting to know someone, now its about texting multiple people, Its just no the same. I am no way judging people but I do miss the romance and sweetness meeting someone amazing. Its like when you used to buy a cd and waited in the store and then opened up the art work and you can smell it and loved reading it, now its just not the same buying a cd in itunes. Something is just missing.
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I dont know if any of this makes sense. Sorry
I agree completely. The sweetness does seem to be gone. Since I started dating 2 1/2 years ago, it has been one person at a time. I don't feel good doing it otherwise. But in this day and age of online dating, it seems that people are constantly looking for the next better partner, like the grass is always greener so I won't settle for this great person because there could be someone better on the sites. The whole process is pretty frustrating because there is zero security in the dating. I have to assume that any guy I am seeing might also be seeing other women. That just sucks because I want to be the special one, I want to be the one that stands out.0 -
Yeah, but didn't you hate when you actually listened to the cd and ended up being disappointed and feeling ripped off because there was only like one good song on it, and it was the one you've already heard. Then you regretted not buying one of the dozen other cds you were thinking about buying instead. These days you can sample an album to see if it is actually worth buying, I actually like it much better (and you can still buy cds you know).This is the problem with today. Why cant a person just meet someone and focus on getting to know that one person and if it doesnt work then move on to the next. Most people can tell if there is going to be something there or not within a few dates. I dont understand the need to date multiple people. Women call men players if we do it but if women do it, its called dating. I know men do it too but men dont have as many options as women do and men do tend to want to settle down quicker than women.
How many of you have been on a date with a guy and he tries to be your man on the first date? I think its games, how can you get to know someone truely if you are dating multiple people and also what if both end up liking you alot and then you have to hurt one of them. Im sorry, im not trying to judge or be rude, I just think dating has become this realty tv kind of competition t
to compete for ones love. Its silly to me. Things would be simple if people would just be interested in one person at a time. This has destroyed online dating.
I am old school, i miss the days when you met someone and it was on. You know how sweet it is when you see old couples holding hands in the park, it is sweet, dating today has lost that sweetness. I also miss when you meet somone amazing and you talk on the phone till sunrise laughing, talking, and getting to know someone, now its about texting multiple people, Its just no the same. I am no way judging people but I do miss the romance and sweetness meeting someone amazing. Its like when you used to buy a cd and waited in the store and then opened up the art work and you can smell it and loved reading it, now its just not the same buying a cd in itunes. Something is just missing.
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I dont know if any of this makes sense. Sorry
I think it's the same way with dating. You can actually talk to a few different people before you decide which one is right for you, then you can take her home and unwrap her.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying it's okay to go out on 5-6 dates with multiple people at the same time. But one or two dates is fine until you figure out which one you have the most chemistry with and want to focus on. I certainly hope that if I exchange a few emails with someone and then ask them out that doesn't automatically make us exclusive.0 -
But in this day and age of online dating, it seems that people are constantly looking for the next better partner, like the grass is always greener so I won't settle for this great person because there could be someone better on the sites. The whole process is pretty frustrating because there is zero security in the dating. I have to assume that any guy I am seeing might also be seeing other women. That just sucks because I want to be the special one, I want to be the one that stands out.
I'd like to encourage you (and others reading this) that to the partner who will find you special you WILL stand out. The pull to you will be irresistible and drown out all other potentials. Someone with the mindset that there's always "Something Better" out there hasn't yet (IMHO) come to grips with the reality of their personality and life and will, I suspect, never be happy with you anyway. Thus, you are better off without them and holding out for the one who, when they meet you, is so enthralled all others pale in comparison.0 -
It isn't wrong of you to do so, but if it feels wrong and makes you uncomfortable... Don't do it.
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This is the problem with today. Why cant a person just meet someone and focus on getting to know that one person and if it doesnt work then move on to the next. Most people can tell if there is going to be something there or not within a few dates. I dont understand the need to date multiple people. Women call men players if we do it but if women do it, its called dating. I know men do it too but men dont have as many options as women do and men do tend to want to settle down quicker than women.
How many of you have been on a date with a guy and he tries to be your man on the first date? I think its games, how can you get to know someone truely if you are dating multiple people and also what if both end up liking you alot and then you have to hurt one of them. Im sorry, im not trying to judge or be rude, I just think dating has become this realty tv kind of competition t
to compete for ones love. Its silly to me. Things would be simple if people would just be interested in one person at a time. This has destroyed online dating.
I am old school, i miss the days when you met someone and it was on. You know how sweet it is when you see old couples holding hands in the park, it is sweet, dating today has lost that sweetness. I also miss when you meet somone amazing and you talk on the phone till sunrise laughing, talking, and getting to know someone, now its about texting multiple people, Its just no the same. I am no way judging people but I do miss the romance and sweetness meeting someone amazing. Its like when you used to buy a cd and waited in the store and then opened up the art work and you can smell it and loved reading it, now its just not the same buying a cd in itunes. Something is just missing.
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I dont know if any of this makes sense. Sorry
I totally agree. I won't date a girl who is seeing other dudes, I don't do it and I expect the same.
She gets all of me, I want all of her.0
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