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Trip Canceled... Would you believe me?
JanieJack
Posts: 3,831 Member
I landed from my business trip today and find out that instead of climbing into the car to hit the beach with a friend, I'm going home (she had an emergency pop up). She has to cancel our trip. Trying to make me feel better, she said I could now go out with those guys I turned down for the weekend. I think I still may drive to the beach, but it got me thinking:
If a man told me we couldn't go out for a week or two because he was gonna be out of town, then called me Friday to have a date/hang out that weekend, I would actually think he was not truly interested in me, that I was just filler/backup plan. I might still go out with him if I didn't have plans (and didn't need a sitter) but I wouldn't expect the "date" to lead to any relationship.
What would you think?
If a man told me we couldn't go out for a week or two because he was gonna be out of town, then called me Friday to have a date/hang out that weekend, I would actually think he was not truly interested in me, that I was just filler/backup plan. I might still go out with him if I didn't have plans (and didn't need a sitter) but I wouldn't expect the "date" to lead to any relationship.
What would you think?
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It is called not rushing to judgment, explaining a situation and trusting another person.
The Machiavellian games are annoying. Sure, the majority of singles do them, but all singles need to be a little bit more real with each other. Direct and honest communication.0 -
I think you have a pretty valid reason, I would contact them and explain what happened... if they don't want to go out, I'd say it wouldn't have worked out anyway.0
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My first thought if it happened that way with me and the lady was trying to re-up would be "nice,she must like me".0
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I'd also add that us guys are a little more forgiving when it comes to rescheduling!0
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I'd also add that us guys are a little more forgiving when it comes to rescheduling!
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I also think its not that big a deal. If a guy I was "dating/seeing/hanging with or whatever you want to call it called me on friday and said his trip was cancelled and I didn't have any plans I would damn sure go out with him. I mean whats the big deal. I prefer to go into things asuming that everyones being as honest as they can be. I really don't like trying to play games or think about what if hes playing games. I graduated high school a long time ago. Dont read so much into it . JUst text the men or call them and go have fun :bigsmile:0
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Yeah, def not a big deal if they actually listen to you.
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No, I only assume they don't like me if they turn me down for a date and never try to reschedule or offer a different day.0
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It wouldn't be a huge deal, I'd get a giant ego boost if a lady I was interested in got in contact with me and told me that she wanted to spend time with me, even at a spur of the moment thing if I wasn't already doing something I'd be frigging ecstatic. Go ahead, call the dudes, make their day.0
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I think it would be perfect!! Kind of an ego boost to him that you thought of him after your trip was canceled. Shoot go for it I would say0
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I love anything spontaneous!! If the phone rang/text now, I'd be out with whoever was offering. I wouldn't have to think about it for a second! The only time I'd say no is if I was working/ill/skint/had other plans.
Goddam phone hasn't rung tho!! :grumble: Friday night :grumble: Single and eating choc biscuits :grumble: :sad:
Have fun :flowerforyou:
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Well, at first I was gonna still go... just find someone else to drive with me. The problem is all my chicas had busy weekends planned (they generally plan at least a week out so I'm not surprised). The two guys who I would feel comfortable making a road trip with (that aren't currently involved in a relationship) are both out of town themselves.
I thought about what you guys said and sent out a bunch of texts saying my trip was canx whatcha doing this weekend and got a bunch of "let's hang out" replies. One of the guys actually offered to drive me to the beach (5 hr trip)! I honestly wasn't expecting that.
So yeah, I guess guys don't care as much...?0 -
One of the guys actually offered to drive me to the beach (5 hr trip)! I honestly wasn't expecting that.
Marry this one!!! :bigsmile:0 -
Well, at first I was gonna still go... just find someone else to drive with me. The problem is all my chicas had busy weekends planned (they generally plan at least a week out so I'm not surprised). The two guys who I would feel comfortable making a road trip with (that aren't currently involved in a relationship) are both out of town themselves.
I thought about what you guys said and sent out a bunch of texts saying my trip was canx whatcha doing this weekend and got a bunch of "let's hang out" replies. One of the guys actually offered to drive me to the beach (5 hr trip)! I honestly wasn't expecting that.
So yeah, I guess guys don't care as much...?
We just don`t try to find hidden meanings into things. :flowerforyou: 0 -
I prefer to go into things asuming that everyones being as honest as they can be. I really don't like trying to play games or think about what if hes playing games.
This.
I think everyone, including myself, reads into things so much. Sometimes it does take an outside perspective to say "yeah, it's okay."0
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