argh I want it to be official
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I feel like its different of what we have vs being in a relationship because he knows that hes not "demanded" to do anything like come over to my apartment when Im not feeling well and I cant call him freaking out at him about something because thats over stepping I feel it
Are you demanding and a bully like that?0 -
I learned my lesson on this the hard way dont ever assume what a man is thinking you need to talk to him about it. You are thinking "wow its been for whole months" and he is thiniking "its ONLY been four months" and may not feel commited to you.0
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in my experience whether a guys asks u to be his girl or not, he will introduce u as such if he wants u to be that, his friends will know about u and so will his family.
if its just u two hanging out at ur place and ur friends know him but his friends dont know u then ur prob not his gf.
but just in case....bring it up one day like....someone asked and u werent sure what u were...so where does he think u stand or what does he want u to say or something to that effect.
i dont suggest ultimatums or anything crazy like that lol0 -
I feel like its different of what we have vs being in a relationship because he knows that hes not "demanded" to do anything like come over to my apartment when Im not feeling well and I cant call him freaking out at him about something because thats over stepping I feel it
Are you demanding and a bully like that?
are you serious???0 -
I understand it's a process but honey, fake it till you make it. There's a difference between humility and low-self esteem.
Another great piece of advice. You've clearly packed a lot of living in those 24 years...
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I feel like its different of what we have vs being in a relationship because he knows that hes not "demanded" to do anything like come over to my apartment when Im not feeling well and I cant call him freaking out at him about something because thats over stepping I feel it
Are you demanding and a bully like that?
are you serious???
What I mean is, if you are demanding someone come over and take care of you because you are sick, or harassing him for not being around enough... that's not the "right" of being in a relationship. Someone should want to do those things for you, and if they don't without any good reason then something is wrong. Being a bully doesn't solve problems like that, it creates them.
When you gave those as examples for why he might not want to be in a relationship, I asked if you are really like that? If you are then reevaluate how you treat people because that's not positive, healthy or loving behavior. If you're not then he has no reason to worry about that.0 -
I feel like its different of what we have vs being in a relationship because he knows that hes not "demanded" to do anything like come over to my apartment when Im not feeling well and I cant call him freaking out at him about something because thats over stepping I feel it
Are you demanding and a bully like that?
are you serious???
What I mean is, if you are demanding someone come over and take care of you because you are sick, or harassing him for not being around enough... that's not the "right" of being in a relationship. Someone should want to do those things for you, and if they don't without any good reason then something is wrong. Being a bully doesn't solve problems like that, it creates them.
When you gave those as examples for why he might not want to be in a relationship, I asked if you are really like that? If you are then reevaluate how you treat people because that's not positive, healthy or loving behavior. If you're not then he has no reason to worry about that.
no im not like that0 -
I feel like its different of what we have vs being in a relationship because he knows that hes not "demanded" to do anything like come over to my apartment when Im not feeling well and I cant call him freaking out at him about something because thats over stepping I feel it
Are you demanding and a bully like that?
are you serious???
What I mean is, if you are demanding someone come over and take care of you because you are sick, or harassing him for not being around enough... that's not the "right" of being in a relationship. Someone should want to do those things for you, and if they don't without any good reason then something is wrong. Being a bully doesn't solve problems like that, it creates them.
When you gave those as examples for why he might not want to be in a relationship, I asked if you are really like that? If you are then reevaluate how you treat people because that's not positive, healthy or loving behavior. If you're not then he has no reason to worry about that.
no im not like that
Then why did you mention it as something he might be afraid of when it comes to being in a relationship?0
