EskimoMark

Sorry it ended that way, I mean I kind of saw it going that way, but I hoped I didn't get too emotional about it. But in my experience, that's not the case. I know guys who want heavier set girls but because they don't meet their physical standards.

Fair enough

Feels bias, Not sure how to answer that since I can't compare it to anything.

Yeah it's damaged. I wonder who did that? Cough 20+ women cough

I'm actually outgoing, I understand online I can type up whatever I want, but what I'm saying is, I'm confident in public. I don't ask any women on dates. I gave up

I don't screw with them, and second, I do listen to them, ask questions about topics they mention. So I don't think that's the issue.

Wallet is a bit empty for that. But yeah I have trust issues probably. The thing is, we don't have any proof that this primitive instinct exists. Look, media glorifies skinny women. But if you look at our primitive selves, we preferred bigger women because that implies they have a lot of food, and are good for child…

Proof right here. I asked for only one thing in order for me to consider dating her, and already I'm being judged. How come you're allowed to list 10+ Traits when I only list one, and get backlash?

Probably, but I really don't understand anymore why I have to lose weight to meet my needs. I mean like I said, I'm 100% dedicated to losing it, but the more issue here is, I'm not sure I can stay motivated knowning the issues about getting attention suddenly.

The thing is, I'm not boring at all. I'm very social in clubs, fairly large friend groups. It's just I have zero relationships coming my way because I'm too big. (Yes I had girls say this before) I don't think it's fair that they would date me, but because I'm big, it means a 100% no even though I have a good ( Bias ) 10+…

That's my only thing I ask for. That isn't picky at all. Compared to that one girl who listed about 10 things I need to just have a chance IS picky.

I'll be honest, with you if I was that picky I would get yelled at, and be named a superficial person. Not many females are going to fill my niche unless I look like a supermodel then maybe I can find a female who is 90% identical to the things I like.

Probably would, but even they are picky. They want some Brad Pitt looking guy.

Handsome and overweight don't go together. That is incredibly picky. Am I allowed to be that picky? Oh wait, all I ask is that she is going to complete college. That's pretty low.

I don't blame you, but I haven't met anyone like that. It sounds rather harsh or doubtful, but I can assure you. It's yet to happen.

Example. If I met the perfect girl, we connected in terms of personality, life goals etc. We are dating lets say, and one day she asks me to lose weight. At that point I don't mind because she is dating me, for me. If I have to lose weight for her to notice I exist, then no thanks.

It wouldn't make a difference if I approached you with an optimistic or pessimistic attitude because in the end you most likely will ignore me anyway.

To be fair, I'm not negative at all. I'm just curious as to why all my potential interests end up in the same spot. In person, you would probably say I'm incredibly optimistic ( Least in public ). I haven't found a female yet that isn't superficial. Then why won't women give me a benefit of the doubt? It's one sided then.…

Not true. Men are more likely to date heavier set females in comparison to vise versa. If you lowered your standards I feel you would have no issues prior meeting your husband.

While I agree here, males are more willing to lower standards to date someone. Women want a Brad Pitt or some supermodel and do not settle for less.

I know so, because It happened to me in the past. Long story short, I dropped to 220 from 300, girls noticed me. I became depressed realizing I'm only being noticed or praised because of the drop. Then some emotional abuse from people around me, and well, I'm back up here again.

Shame I'm not attracted to males.

Yeah I could get a gold digger, but I want to actually feel a connection. But I don't understand why the *kitten* can't a girl realize that just because a dude is big or something doesn't mean he's a bad person.