TheLegendaryBrandonHarris Member

You seemed angry.

amyrebeccah, Am I condescending, or am I reciprocating? Ultimately, all I can do is try to address what was a part that I left out but you brought up. And, while you won't like it, perhaps someone else may find it useful: if a man will not honor a polite request, if he ignores a firm refusal, and then begins to escalate,…

I have intervened in multiple situations. Not as macho-man stuff, but more like, "Hey man, dial it back. She's not into you." And then only after checking with the woman to make sure it was ok.

amyrebeccah, I understand that no matter what I say, you will not like it and will take an adversarial approach in your replies to me. That's ok, I am not upset by it. I do hope you feel better. If you politely let a man know that you are not interested in him and he continues the behavior, you very well may have to be…

Sorry! I missed this: No, I don't any suggestions to politely tell a tenacious male that you are not interested. If he doesn't back off when you politely let him know that you're not interested, treat him like you would a misbehaving dog. If he doesn't get a clue when you tell him politely, he's stupid. You can't fix…

I want to be Bryan Cox in the body of John Cena.

:p

And you sound like a huge nerd.

lol, ok. We lose so many parts of communication when we only use text---tone of voice, inflections, pace, etc.

Seriously, if an article from The Onion causes you distress, you're going to have a rough life.

lydiakitten, it's a joke.

lol, The Onion gets my point: http://www.theonion.com/articles/girlfriend-changes-man-into-someone-shes-not-inter,1507/

Kalici, yes. If the sales clerk was that far out of touch with reality then he/she suffers from delusion. But if the sales clerk had a good record of sales and happy customers, then I'd be more inclined to listen.

I think you missed a comment of mine: "...I don't know what anyone else thinks. I do, however, go by the response I get and have to extrapolate thoughts or feelings from there." We are talking about dating. So, I don't know what is going on in her mind, but I can tell if she is reciprocating, just being nice, or being…

I agree with every letter of this except for the claim that the 'friend zone' doesn't exist. It does, and we all know it---I just don't understand what's so difficult to accept. Man likes Woman Woman likes Man Man wants a physical relationship. Woman does not want a physical relationship They both continue to spend time…

Because of those dreamy legs!

Because I'm smitten. Sigh.

I'm so lazy I generally let my feelings be known up front. Games? Ain't nobody got time fo dat. "I think you are wonderful. I really do hope you like me...I'm excited about you!"

Kalici, my comment was directed at you. I'm still doing poorly with using names. The comment was asking you to make an effort to recognize that there is not a male consensus on this thread.

I agree. If you are being decent because you want the panties to drop, you're gonna have a bad time. They can figure you out pretty fast. It MIGHT work a time or two, but ultimately you'll be found out as a chump. It's got to be genuine.

Because I love this girl, oh my goodness!

Read all of the replies, please.

His scowl!

Because they are both gorgeous!

Because she is adorable! OMG look at her face!

Because she's a spanker!

Because of those guns!

So yes, I agree that being direct would mitigate these repercussions, it's often easier said than done!!!

Well, in their defense, it's often difficult to reject someone outright. You're inflicting pain on someone you actually do like, and that can be tough. I've done it. "Well, maybe if I don't make sexual comments, or of I don't reciprocate these physical advances, she'll get the point..." Most of the time that doesn't work…

Become those things and you'll only be single when you choose to be single.