tomnev1 Member

21 day fix? Sorry but there's no shortcuts or 21 day fix, etc. That's why you have no will power. If you want to feel really bad here's the truth you must face. Losing weight long is a long term commitment. It's hard to change your lifestyle. It's also hard being fat and unfit. Choose your hard! By "mother nature" I assume…

Thanks. Actually now I'm buying branded sportswear (Nike, Underarmour, Cantebury, etc) and no longre go for the really cheap jogging pants etc. I look good so I want to look good when I'm jogging too.

Freaking awesome.

Just back myself but I did weigh in. Gained 1 kg. It is what it is. Back in the saddle now.

Cycling is great. It's low impact and it's cheap. You'll pick up a second hand bike for 50 eur/usd and can do just a couple of miles at a time if you don't want to splash out big bucks just yet.

Really shows in your face too. You look healthier.

Read it and re-read it. Everybody will have sympathy with you, but here, as far as I can see, are the facts. 1. Your husband loves you. 2. Your husband is insecure that you don't love him and your kids enough to want to get healthy. 3. Your husband has not reacted in a way that many would consider appropriate, helpful or…

Wow. You've been through a lot and well done for remaining so upbeat. Not sure of the merits of paleo etc. Work with your doc, but virtually everybody who loses weight and keeps it off talks about a lifestyle change. If it works for you, go for it, but ask your doc to refer to you to specialist dietician (not a…

Makes me (almost) wish I weren't married. Great job.

"If it is to be, it is up to me." You can do it.

You're one breath away from saying "real beauty comes from within." You shouldn't marry someone based soley on what they look like, but let's be honest here, physically fit people are more attractive. It doesn't matter whether you're straight, gay, bi or whatever.

Married now to lovely woman whom I love dearly. However in my younger days, I wished I had exercised more. It's quite disheartening to get rejected when all your mates and evenyour female friends tell you that you're a great guy. We all took a moment when we see someone beautiful with someone more ordinary. That in itself…

Your body will lose weight if you stick to the plan. The hard bit is sticking to it because it is soul crushing when you don't lose pounds instantly. There's a few tings you can try and I'm a big advocate of getting your doctor or therapist to help. I'm Irish and live in a country where only crazy people see aa therapist…

I'm not a marriage counsellor but some fights are worth having. Just tell him "I'm doing this. I have to do it. I love you but we're not even debating this."

You've made the fist step. Thehardest thing you'll do is keep motivated. The bad news is yes, you appear to be addicted to food. Food addiction (unlike nicotine, alcohol or heroin) is primarily psychological. That doesn't mean it's any less of a problem, it is very real. The good news is you can cure it by therapy, will…

Great work....for a moment I thought it was two different people who just happened to wear the same glasses. In the second pic you've got the shirt'n'tie, hipster beard, cool jeans and belt, hair gel, etc. You look good dude. Keep it up.

I'm not as super fit as you, but yes I agree that everything is better. For me, I get more kudos at work. I work in a high pressure job and even though we're not suited and booted, all the top brass come to work every day looking super sharp. I think when you look better, your confidence goes up and you actually do a…

Not sure if you read the opening post, but I felt the entire opposite of wanting to brag.

Lol. I didn't get rejected all the time by girls. However that's a bit like saying "real beauty comes from within". It might be true, but let's be honest, we all judge people based on looks. It's not right, it's not wrong, it just is. However your confidence builds up as well when you feel good. So if you look good and you…

I'm happily married now.

You nailed it.

Well done on the zumba. If you enjoy it, go for it. As regards the calories, it is really hard but there are two things which I find really help me. 1. Do not under any circumstances eat mainstream boxed breakfast cereals. Even low sugar cereals like Bran Flakes and Cork Flakes contain sugar, give you a sugar rush and…

Buying new regulat clothes is great....but forgot about workout swimming trunks and wetsuit until I went on hols. Now I've just realised that my dress suit (Tuxedo) might not look good on me.

Wearing a crisp white (expensive) shirt, it looks good and you no longer need to "buy for your shape".

Wuhoo! Good for you.

That's a very fair point. It's not healthy to feel sorry for yourself as I did when I got rejected. However it's only now that I am empathising with people who rejected me because of my weight and I no longer view those girls as shallow. Most of the time I don't even think about it and I do it for my own reasons to feel…

Lol...I meant to say "the people who are in your life now"....not just "the people" in general.

If you are single and he asked you out now (and assuming the only reason you rejected him was physical and not because of his personality), would you say yes?

Don't use this set-back as an excuse to give up. Nobody here will tell you something you already don't know or can't google for yourself. 1. Exercise more and faster - try cycling if you feel that running is not for you. Less impact. 2. Talk a walk with headphones and some wrist weights. Go about 2 miles (3ks) but don't…

You can do it. It's hard to stay motivated when you face stress like that but you can do it.