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My sister is 6’3 and her type is 5’8 💯 I married a guy who online said he was 5’10 (I didn’t ask, I didn’t have a requirement, but it was listed under description) and when we met he was maybe 5’9. We were married 30 days later. He’s amazing, attractive, and all the things, to me. We exist I promise you! The more negative…

Wait, you have the same political beliefs as your family, your partner, AND their family? You won the family lottery right there lol.

How do you know you are only eating 1200 calories? Is it food labels, guesstimating, measuring cups and spoons, a food scale? I’m sorry, I didn’t see it if it was stated.

This is a promising post, like it’s sinking in a little. Believe me, it’s hard to unlearn all the myths and trends passed down to us. I’ll tell you what I did. I got a food scale to keep myself honest about how much I was actually eating, and logged everything with calories. I ate 1-2 meals a day because that felt most…

Sorry yes! Got married over a year ago and it was time to take off the “ms”, so I refreshed it 😊 msalicia07 Sunday’s PW: 132.4 CW: 132.4

What does your diet look like? As someone else questioned, have you cut anything out? How steep is your deficit?

I don’t have access to a scale, haven’t for a few days, can I weigh in tomorrow?!

Congrats on 25 years!

The advice here is more important than you realize. I’ll try to highlight things I’m afraid you might glaze over: 1. Only calories matter when losing weight. 2. What foods you eat do not matter. Of course, balance is preferred for proper nutrition, but nothing is off limits! It also helps when it is time to maintain. 3.…

WTH!!! Wow. That makes me so upset, especially because my husband is younger, aside from the fact that it’s blatantly sexist! I believe now women and men get to pick their preferred age range online.

You’re right, humans should stay with humankind. Animals, not so much.

I had a feeling this would come out eventually. Typically when one has these views, they fall back on religion to rationalize their beliefs. Funny thing is they rarely, if ever, have sources.

I think you took my statement to mean they have zero exposure when I’m saying it’s limited. And because of the limitations the families preferences are based off what is normal to them. Unfortunately that gets passed down endlessly until the exposure balances out and change takes place whether it is accepted or not.

I can see that. I don’t believe it’s because of the culture though, even though it might look like it. I think the lack of exposure just means it will take longer for certain places to adapt and accept something different. Change can be scary for people who have only done 1 thing for so long.

It reminds me of the “nice guys finish last” attitude that some guys use to cover up the fact that maybe it’s just them and they’re probably not as nice as they think they are. Perspective and experience can be one in the same if you’re not careful.

Better yet, get a food scale! Those measuring cups/spoons are still off 🤭

I just won the lottery. I’m able to invest and contribute massively to the causes near and dear to my heart! I head to my business because I love what I do. I work with clients and connect on an intellectual and emotional level, and produce for them work I’m elated with. My husband picks me up for a surprise lunch on the…

I was thinking about this earlier. Families in general can dislike someone for a myriad of reasons, but it shouldn’t stop us from dating someone because there might be a personal clash. Sorry you’ve had *kitten* family support from the partners side.

There in lies the vicious cycle for some- family doesn’t support the couple, puts pressure on the relationship, the couple ends it, and the family says, “See! I told you!” It’s a self fulfilling prophecy, all based on race and not on true compatibility. One generation at a time we are breaking barriers, trying to be part…

Yep, water. Also, are you keeping track of your calorie intake, if so how? I did low carb for 10 years and gained weight, so it’s important to monitor your calories.

Genuinely curious- so the mere chance that this may happen, due to outdated thinking of older generations, it’s just easier to date your own race? This doesn’t seem like a compatibility issue, this seems like an ethical issue in the family, and that cycle needs to be broken. My husband’s Asian Buddhist family has embraced…

This speaks volumes on how generational norms try to influence the decisions of younger generations without having an understanding of the evolving culture. Even if they mean well, everyone has to take responsibility for asking questions and doing research before passing down racial and sexist belief systems. Your approach…

This is precisely my point and thought process. There’s so many variables to consider, and it’s even more important to note that not all interracial relationships can be put in the same box. Thank you for breaking down the source so well, as it’s important to have a more well rounded understanding, especially for those who…

Thanks for sharing your experience. Could you give us some more information? I’d love to know the statistics and also the years the study was taken. I think back then there was an uphill battle and culture was very different. The world was more segregated and less accepting. This is the POV that gets passed down just…

Someone recently referred to us as #whasain, I had never heard #whasain or #blasain before. I looked on Instagram and sure enough! Some really beautiful families, no question 💯

This!

I’m so bummed, I had written out a long response to you yesterday and I lost the whole message 🤦🏼‍♀️ I just wanted to basically say how your story resonates with me. We too are from pretty progressive places, but when we moved it was just different. I realize how naive I was, not that it’s all bad at all! In fact most of…

Cambodia huh?! No kidding! Wow, I love that. We are currently in the south as well (temporarily) and it sounds like we are having mirrored experiences. People are generally great to us, it’s what I hear from my husband when I’m not around that floors me. Fortunately we have thick skin and a zen attitude towards life, but I…

I follow IF accidentally 😬 I will either eat at 3pm or wait until dinner, depending on my hunger cues. Never had trouble getting all my calories in though, so 🤷🏼‍♀️

So true, and these beliefs are just more prominent than I realized, being the modern woman that I am. Granted, I don’t believe the person making the comment saw it as racist, but that’s how it made me feel. Preferences are fine, we all have them. But to spread belief systems that aren’t true, I have to ask why and…