kbmh611 Member

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So everyone else's perception of what was said is right but you deem my perceptions or interpretations as wrong? I never said I assume most people eat squared pizza. Never!!!! I was using it as an example. You took me giving an example and got up in arms about it. Sometimes you use examples to prove points. You shouldnt…

Well that's you, but others might be.

And it seems odd to me that you jumped to conclusion and applied my words to everyone on the planet. Did you see me use the words"I would not be satisfied with two pieces of pizza." How is that all fat people? And I did say that I was speaking of myself several times. Please read everything. It comes down to this, you…

Sorry but I'm going to respectfully disagree. Not knowing what happened in the other thread or in others that I have been part of or viewed to which my examples are derived you can't possibly pick a side (so to speak.) and honestly I can't keep repeating myself. I've explained my point many times, if you disagree then…

But couldn't that argument then be used for any time someone insults you or calls you a name? Then would anything ever be "insulting"? So it's never the fault of the person being insulting? It's the fault of the person being insulted if they choose to take it that way? Sorry but I dont buy that and respectfully disagree.

You're right. It's why I left for a bit. Because I was taking people's behavior too seriously and I would leave the boards angry. It's good advice ya got there.

You're right. Will do

Good point. But I guess since we can't possibly know how everyone likes to take their truth it is a good overall rule to at least not be outright rude or mean. Maybe the best words to be are civil and open-minded. I guess that's the point I'm trying to make

Maybe. So if someone says to you things like, "what don't you get about this?" Or "this isn't hard to understand." You don't think that's a sort of insulting way to speak to someone you are exchanging ideas with?

Well you've been lucky then that you've never been spoken to this way. But I've seen it done to myself and others. Or else I wouldn't feel a need to say something. It blows my mind and I can't believe some of the stuff I see on here. Which is a place to get help.

And again, never said I assumed everyone ate the same pizza. Don't know where you saw me say that. The type I pizza I was referring to was just an example I was using to make a point.

So here is the thing: people took what I said about the burger thing, twisted my words and said I was speaking for everybody! This is my other problem with these boards. I was sharing my mindset on why burgers are a better choice then pizza. I was met with non-sensical comments like "so pizza is what leads everyone to be…

There is a difference between being sickeningly sweet and stating a opinion in an insulting way. No one wants to be made to feel stupid or insulted by someone who THINK they know best and state it as such. You can be a straight shooter without being mean or belittling

Good advice! And a great way to look at it!

Agree! And that's all I'm really saying in the end. Offer help, but be nicer. Don't be insulting or make people feel stupid because they might not have your experiences, mindset, or views. You can state facts, if you know them to be that true, but don't be a prick about it by making statements like "what don't you…

I might sound a little angry because people should not be scared off of here or made to feel bad when they are on these boards for help with their weight loss journey. It's sickening to see how some people are attacked for their opinions and choices when it comes to dieting. Like you said "you do you." Share your opinion…

Good points. I think there are a lot of people who over eat and have dealt with weight issues their whole life can probably trace it back to mental or emotional issues. I know I am definitely an emotional/stress eater. It makes me feeler better to not think about eating healthy and to just eat what I want when I'm down or…

Yes, there seem to be a lot of missy know-it-alls on these boards that have amazing will power. Almost makes you wonder how they got overweight to begin with right? Since they know everything about dieting and eating healthy they should just all get together and write a book called "You're doing it wrong!" Or "How hard is…

I'm not the OP of those threads. But saying my individual view on those foods is not effective is exactly what I'm talking about in the previous points I've made on this thread. Instead of you saying, "I don't like to label foods as good or bad for my own reasons." You just immediately tell other people who might have a…

Agree, but that's not what is in question. I wasn't making any correlation with my argument and sugar addiction. I think the two discussions are some how going on at one time. Some people are talking about sugar addiction while others are discussing labeling food as good and bad :smile:

That makes them bad for you because you can't control yourself with them. So you stay away from them. If they're not good for your overall health or diet then what are they? Bad is the opposite of good. For instance, I love milky ways, I can still technically eat a Milky Way on my diet but it wouldn't be the best decision…

If someone has friends who call them a jerk or any name for not wanting to go out for fast food, then the problem is with the persons choice of friends. I have family who ask me out to eat and when I decline and explain its because I'm dieting, They sometimes offer up "well, why don't you get something off the lite menu?"…

I agree

So you agree that many people have that mindset but calling food bad in a post on here is not helpful? If lots of people think that way, I'm just putting into words that mindset/feelings for some people about food. It sounds like it's all just a mind game. Maybe people who refuse to deem certain foods "bad" worry that…

I do agree with this. You cant expect people to diet with you. I have a co-worker who sits next to me and she orders all kind of high calorie foods for lunch, but I wouldn't expect her to go eat it in another room or for me to leave the room. What would you do if you go to a party at someone's house? Would you expect them…

If you keep the food out of your house so you don't binge wouldn't the food be a "bad" choice for you then? I feel like we are saying the same thing, I just don't need to defend food as if it would be hurting its feelings by calling it bad. There are foods I feel good about eating while on a diet and foods that I know…

Sorry, but you're missing my point. I'm saying that the food is bad in my mind because I can't eat it regularly or have as many as I want because it would tank my diet. I was explaining the mindset that supports some people deeming certain foods as bad. I would wager that there are many overweight people that operate with…

Thank you! This is what I've tried saying on here many times. I hate when some people on here say "there is no bad food," "food shouldn't be vilified," "you can eat what you want in moderation so nothing should be off limits." Yeah...maybe for some people, but not all. If moderation, self control, and heathy eating habits…