losingitandkeepingitoff Member

Thanks everyone! I've read each and every comment here and I believe I'm going to try and just do my thing and say 'thank you' when he compliments me "as I am" and see where it goes. I appreciate all of the advice and input! :)

I know. And that is part of MY problem. I have a hard time with 'wasting' things, so I eat and/or drink it if there's no one to pass it off to. :(

Amazing idea! :smiley:

I was about 155-160 when we met, have had 2 pregnancies with him where my weight has gone up to as high as 240+, and for the last 3-4 years before and after the pregnancy I've hovered around 170-175 or so. He's seen me as low as 150 and as high as 210 (not pregnant).

I have vented about going back up from 168 to 179. Case in point: yesterday I walked into the bathroom with a pair of jeans that SHOULD fit me - they did when I was 170-ish before, and I couldn't pull them up or button them. Venting ensued. I said "I would just like for the clothes I already own to fit me AT LEAST" or…

I was also raised a part of the clean your plate club - I know what you mean! I guess it's high time to start putting my body/my self ahead of $$ wasted or food wasted. :wink:

Yes! It's not 'permission' at all - thank you! This is the 1,254,345,634th time I've attempted to lose weight (overexaggerated of course), but this is my most successful time also. I was up to 210 in December of 2015 and got to 175 by July/August of 2016. I've been stuck here for a while - up to 180, down as low as 168,…

I don't have to tell him. He's not dumb. He can see the food scale - he can see me weighing/measuring my food - he can tell I'm not eating 'normally' (which got me this way to start with). You know what I mean? It's not about approval at all - its that he knows I'm trying to lose weight and hes either intentionally or…

Yes. So much yes. This exactly.

That is awesome! I've actually thought of just doing what I have to without saying a word to him, as other posters have suggested, but he's a stay at home dad - so we see each other a lot when I'm home. :wink: He sees my food scale, we do the grocery shopping together, we eat our meals together, etc. Ya know? Thank you!

Thank you!

Definitely love the way you worded this - thank you!

Thank you! I have told him that I'm obese and he doesn't believe it. I do carry my weight fairly well, but still. Thanks for your input - much appreciated!

I LOVE :heart: your response. thank you! I do agree there is some insecurity there. I will definitely be talking to him tonight to make sure we're on the same page with this. :smile:

Yes! Maybe I didn't title this very well? I was having trouble with the wording and how to say what I was thinking, Ya know? In all honestly, I'd rather he just say "you need to lose some weight", but I honestly think he really believes that I don't need to - because HE doesn't want me to. Does that make sense?

Honestly? I think he is trying to get me to keep the weight on. Like there have been times he specifically said 'I don't want you to lose any weight." BUT he follows that with the 'I love you the way you are', and how can I be mad at that. Ya know? I do think he has fears of me leaving if I get tiny - but they are…

Love this - thank you! I've definitely said that more than once. :wink: He is very sweet. :heart: I do love that he loves me even when I look like this, but I hate that sometimes it seems like he's purposely (even if unintentionally) sabotaging me. [If that makes ANY sense? lol]

I'm working hard to lose weight. I was at 210 in December of 2015, and have kind of stalled since July 2016. When I say I don't want something, he pushes and pushes until I eat it. He purposely buys me pop and snacks knowing I don't 'want' them (and also knowing I won't waste them). He's not a bad guy and I don't think…

Thank you! That's actually not a bad idea. :wink: