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Fabulous! You look incredible--so healthy and happy. Your arms and shoulders in the 52 shot look ansolutely ideal to me! You hear so often from people about how their best years are behind them, youth is beauty, blah blah blah, and that clearly doesn't have to be true--you prove it. :) I look forward to seeing more…

Congratulations! Getting out there is so difficult if your confidence has taken a beating. I hope you meant "public", though, or you could get in some serious trouble! ;)

I learned how true this is yesterday, when my first food scale arrived. I found that I was seeiously OVER-estimating how many calories I was eating by 40-50% (!), and had been starving myself on accident. Don't do the same boneheaded thing I did--get a scale and get those nutrients!

A Rather Haunted Life, her biography, is also recommended, then!

Not right now, but I recently read The Twelve Chairs by Ilya Ilf. I read it because The Little Golden Calf is one of my favorite Russian novels. I got a lot of laughs out of it, it was very funny. What struck me is how universal certain archetypes are--the lovable rogue, the hapless beaurecrat, etc., even across temporal…

Let Me Tell You: New Stories, Essays and Other Writings by Shirley Jackson. Lucky that so much good material was published postmortem, sad that there can't be more.

Yeah, but my mom says I should start thinking about solids. I kid, I kid. ^_^

Good work! I started at a similar place (a bit higher though) and am not quite where you are yet, but I'm working on it and look forward to looking as good as you! Keep it up!

Great start! Keep going!

I'm the sort who would rather not be noticed at all, especially for my physicality, so I feel for you and totally understand.

"Ugh, you again." I need to work on this, clearly.

No, that's not what I meant at all but maybe you're not at a place to understand what I mean yet. Very best of luck to you!

^ I got it from the library!

Here's something that helped me once: That feeling that you get when you think of Tengfei? It's actually you. You made that feeling; you made that version of Tengfei. The real human Tengfei--though no doubt a lovely, thoughtful person--has very little to do with that spark you're experiencing. Could you love yourself for…

Neil Gaiman's Norse Mythology is a fun read. If you're into American Gods, you will enjoy it.

My daughter's current favorite!

Hi! I'm Sarah and I love speculative fiction, particularly from the 70's. I also love the funny books with all the kooky draw-rings!

I am so excited to see the critical revaluation of Stephen King. I knew it'd come one day!

The Water Knife by Paolo Bacigalupi.

It's really tempting to use weight loss as an outlet when other things are out of control. You look great; I recommend setting fitness goals rather than weight goals. Master new strokes or try to beat your lap records. As others have pointed out, using clothing size as a metric when 99% of the people for whom those clothes…

I bought and rocked a size 12 dress. I haven't been size 12 since 6th grade.

Be all like, "Too strong... for you?" :sunglasses: In a totally joking though, just like he was!

WHAT. You are made of the strongest stuff, sir. Incredible work; I am so happy for you.

I've been thinking about your post a lot. I typically refrain from engaging with men who get on rejection trips, because, man, that is a deep, dark well and at the bottom is MRA tumblrs and loan wolves gone rabid and I don't even have the stomach for all of that. That said, I've seen you around here a lot, and I feel so…

Good work!

The best advice I've ever heard on this topic is from Dan Savage. "“I think the best thing for you to do is just live your life. Live a life that’s worth living, one where you do what you want to do, pursue your passions. That way, if you meet someone, they’ll be joining a life that’s already really good. And if you don’t…

It's s tough nut to crack, but you'll get there! Keep an open mind and try new things. It's not so bad if you look at it like a science project! 3 weeks is an excellent start--you've been working hard so far, you can keep going and making modifications to see what happens. Why not, huh? Also, you'll see there are a lot of…

Add me if you're a talker. :)

Just to add: Quitting Facebook has been the best thing I ever did for my mental health and stress levels. Better than leaving a bad relationship, better than quitting smoking, better than losing weight. And easier than either three by a long shot. If it's an option for you, I recommend cutting out the chatter.

They might feel like you're being passive aggressive rather than inspirational. I don't bring it up, my goals aren't other people's' goals and I would feel terrible if my rah-rah-weight-loss thing made my friends think I was picking on them--even if I wasn't.