kerrymh Member

Not sure about anyone else but I'm in single peeps because I've never found a match and really never had a hot guy try to take advantage of me lol...so not sure where you are getting the impression that all women have this abundance of opportunity. But I'll agree and just figure I'm an unlucky anomaly in the female…

lmao if only we actually liked being taken advantage of...not a fan personally..

Men like the sexy librarian fantasy..I get lots of compliments on the glasses too.

My best friend always picks on me for being alittle shallow. I know it stems from her own insecurities about when she was single and felt unattractive. She doesn't like that I use looks as part of the criteria of who I want to date. The funny thing is its not like I have ever dated someone who anyone else would consider…

First of all..I can't have low self esteem with you girls boosting my ego..thanks :blushing: And Oh boy I never make the mistake of not atleast having a picture to go by now days. And I hope its fresh. I am so used to meeting up now for that first meeting that I don't get nervous very often any more. I just go as I am,…

I just make sure I have full body pictures on my profile. That way no surprises. They can't tell me they didn't know what to expect. You look great in your profile pictures on MFP why don't put them on POF? I don't think you have anything to worry about. Also don't make the classic self esteem mistake of being focused…

That is awesome.. I'm actually hoping I can learn from your example because if this last person that I chatted with for 2.5 hours on the phone from POF turns out to be a flake/fraud or just not a good match..I'm getting off the online dating scene for awhile again. I still want to date though..so I have a feeling that…

I don't think like that. There was a reason I was obese..I was addicted to food, I didn't cope well with life with out a crutch, I was physically incapable of doing more than minimal activities. I was tired, would have made an unexciting sexual partner. I was full of self doubt and loathing about my body. Heck I wouldn't…

I have never had a man approach me in that manner..just out of the blue..but if I found him non creepy..and attractive..I would be all for it! I tend to smile alot as well when I'm in a setting that is comfortable for me..work/coffee shop/shopping ect. When I become alittle more closed off is when its a potential meeting…

Great! Love NC!

Seriously unless I knew a man well...I would never venture to his place on a first date. If I knew him that well that's fine..I'd also know that he was broke and take it pretty easy on my expectations of a first date.

I have never gotten a man hater vibe from you. I see intelligence, and curiosity about different peoples views about relationships and the male/female dynamic. I would never say you are a man hater..but maybe you just aren't ready for this stage of the relationship with this person. Seems that he kind of ambushed you. But…

I think its a excuse. I'm not intimidating. I have flaws and faults just like the next person. I just think that if a man doesn't ask me out..he's not into me. I don't think it can be seen any other way. I think with a model or an actress/actor or someone who is in the top 5% of physically beautiful in this world…

Oh wow, this wow I so feel this way..shy away from people with "obvious" running bodies..and I'm very shy when in running gear. When I started running I was fortunate to be with friends I was safe. Now I'm about to go into a running club with NO ONE i know..and attempt to train for a half marathon..I built up to 10k with…

Hehe!

Lets see..my mother would probably throw a party but remind me that she`s not paying for the wedding, my father would want to make sure I`m happy and not settling.. My brothers wouldn`t really say much and my 102 yo grandmother would start praying for more great grandchildren to give her something new to live for. Needless…

Lol..heading to NYC Thursday and Albany for Friday and Sat next week catch me while you can haha

I can not imagine my life with out a dog..I don't have one now because I don't have the space and I really don't like it. Heck if I can't have kids I really really need a dog even more. Lol Something about furry unconditional love that a dog brings to my life that I can't imagine my life with out long term...if he's…

I do totally realize I can't have it all. I won't compromise on several things though: lifestyle in terms of health (doesn't have to look like a model, but must be active and able to do physical activities with me) Must have brains..can be street smarts..doesn't have to be university educated but must have something to…

To Qualify. #1 type of guy I've dated..good conversation, I'm attracted or find something attractive about them, physically active and want that in a partner, has a decent job and lives on his own. Aka an equal...this man doesn't want to date me again after meeting me once. #2 type of guy I've dated...nothing in common,…

I live in a smaller city. But maybe its the difference between genders and the closeness of their friendships. I don't know...I certainly don't have the same relationship once a partner comes into play as before..I shouldn't. They should be more focused on their significant other...but I still care about them and want them…

Lol so you leave behind all your life long friends who have found a partner in life and only visit them once in a blue moon? I mean I get going out and meeting new people but I won't abandon my best friends just because they have men in their lives...I certainly see them less but still on a weekly basis. I don't abandon…

I think expressing concern as a friend who cares about him about his health is ok..you should want your friends to be healthy and around for a long period of time. I would never approach this from a judgemental approach though. But I would not say if only you were not so obese we could date..NO!

I wish I knew..because you can`t insult him like that. Even though I get it! Just don`t try and force it..hey atleast you know what you want personality wise..sometimes that is hard enough.

You look AMAZING. If I could post pictures I would but no idea. I think our wt effects our self esteem greatly so it is an important topic in single peeps. You have a beautiful curvy body..be proud and keep working on being healthy..

Thanks for the feedback on here everyone... I just find the concept that I'm actually doing this right hard to believe I don't think I have to meet Mr Right to get a second date. But I also realize that no one here can tell me what it is since you can't see me with these people..it was just a thought put out into the…

Some people are talking about a wedding when marriage is a completely different concept. I don't care about HOW I get married..if its in Vegas, or in front of a local judge..with no one there but me and my man. The wedding doesn't matter to me..so much as the commitment to one person to love and cherish them above all…

What does your Med Onc say? I wouldn't try to lose wt unless encouraged by your Med Onc...usually 10% wt loss while on treatment has a negative prognosis...now if you are already obese..your doctor might be encouraging but I would seriously not do anything with out medical supervision right now.

I do completely understand why up until 3 years ago I had very little male attention. I was morbidly obese my whole life up until 3 years ago. I don't judge men for not wanting to seek me out as a partner. I did not understand how someone might want to enjoy a sexual relationship with me at that size...when my body was the…

I think my chances are 33% lol I don't know its not that I don't want marriage. I DO (see practice) I just think at almost 36 yo..that I haven't ever had a man fall in love with me..chances are pretty low that this will happen, since past is a predictor of the future. Most men who look at me as date-able have one broken…