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buy and eat in 10 ([minutes]. just lately, though.)

what, no. you have obviously never been a thirty-something formerly overweight woman. (or have you?) you definitely have to make a choice. unless you find the best compromise. for me, i felt like that was 23% bf.

also i forgot to mention, i wonder whether it's even possible for people who consistently, over a lifetime, follow generally accepted exercise recommendations for health (30-60 mins 3-5x/wk, with some resistance, some cardio) and even general nutrition recommendations for health (whatever - fibre, folate, vit c - the…

Inasmuch as health can be achieved while being overweight, I guess it'd be ok. I mean I'm definitely pro people not hating themselves. (Wheird it's probably geared toward women because our self-esteem, as a group [by gender], is documented as mostly being in the toilet; whether that's also true for men in general (don't…

i never work out to music - great idea!! will give it a try :)

i don't know, but i think maybe this idea (bolded), applied to myself, might be what is making me want to hurl. i have no problem looking at medical illustrations/images, watching surgeries on tv/seeing bloody procedures live, helping others when they're hurt, or thinking about being a body in an abstract way.. i feel like…

thank you! well, i have been given some easy strengthening exercises from my physiotherapist (who's the one who gave me orders to bike). like cafeaulait, i'm hypermobile & also have chrondomalacia (officially crunchy knees) & arthritis. appreciate the link, that's kind! hope you get yours sorted out! @cafeaulait: agree, it…

@trust :flowerforyou: i think at least some (occasional) crunch is kind of normal for a lot of people, of any age :) this was kind of like popcorn popping *inside my body* :sick: and i thought about gristle and... idk, i kind of made myself lightheaded, lol. was a change from last time i tried to bike, too. ah well!

i don't really get what's happening - i kind of just roll it up right to my armpits, then slip out one arm, (keep rolling the thing up), then slip out the other (and final roll up, bra removal complete). maybe you need to roll further up before getting your arm out? there are sports bras with hooks. you could also probably…

idk, she's all right. bit affected & nasally imo. maybe that's just my taste (prefer less stuff, more emphasis on phrasing, tone etc) - but not bad, all the things are there, she might find more direction with time. (gah, i'm trying to be open to her, but in honesty i heard three girls in my neighbourhood sing at least as…

10 lbs ago i lived in lightweight denim skinnies. bootcut jeans (most normal-weight jeans!) feel like waaaaay too much fabric (& too stiff) after that. it's like pants jail. am now comfier in looser & lighter pants (ie trousers ie pleated + tapered) or leggings. or else dresses. can't think properly when my thighs feel…

coupled friends are marginally happier when all their single friends are also suffering :) also people get a charge out of thinking they help other people, by connecting them with boyfriends, flight deals, doctors, etc. hooking up two friends together = twofer

where's "the broken"? i'm normal but my envy targets are people who can do not-boring things. previously, also not listed, was "the furious" i.e. had olympian focus driven by breakup fuel

very popular now; much, much less so when i was growing up. i didn't like having a unique name, but now it feels crowded ;)

Thank you - I hope the same happens for you soon :) I did try medication for a few years. I did not like it and stopped after 2, but can't say how it affected me, for better or worse, in the long run. It did not materially change my situation on its own, whatever it did. The most dramatic changes, I think, happened with…

it's been a long time since i felt the way you describe; i feel very different now, and can only remember it a little. i didn't try exercise at that time, and i can't say to what extent i would have been able to follow the advice i'm giving now, so apologies if it sounds ridiculous. but: - i would try to make exercise the…

she knows that whatever she's done to try to lose weight (if she did) didn't work for her, that's it. your MIL is probably from a generation that was inundated with really damaging fads, which messed up people's motivation and habits and what they think is possible.

Fat cells (& obesity) are still not that well understood. Some studies have found that obesity can (researchers think) permanently alter fat cells (size is one of the ways; there are others). While some of what's known can explain part of why weight loss is difficult for many, it doesn't mean it's impossible to change your…

to do: dancing, dancing, dancing, and volleyball to watch: only the olympics, sometimes - gymnastics, diving, ski jumping, shot-put (so weird!)

No not at all! I'm just saying, if you start developing the lovey-dovey feelings, be honest about it. What complicated things here, sounds like, is you kept it to yourself. FWB is hard to do for any length of time without someone getting hurt :(

There's that, of course! I was thinking about how, in living memory (though in the distant past, so far away I'd forgotten it), kids of single moms just got reamed at school, suffered all kinds of judgement.. just awful.

You got attached :( You showed jealousy and an implicit claim on him, that he didn't feel comfortable with. Maybe, according to him, you 'changed the terms' of the agreement. FWB is supposed to be no strings, right? I think a lot of people get attached, though, in those situations, especially if it's any longer than a…

i'm so glad this is (largely?) a historical term of insult. hadn't thought about what someone might mean by it, using it in a strict sense - what an ugly word for an ugly idea.

what if your worry was about, idk, contracting MRSA, and what made you feel safer was consuming just a little bit of arsenic to kill it, at 3 o'clock every day, and then idk clapping your hands six times

lol :)

exactly (well except for stuff around CV risk, but that's more about comparative location of fat, and not so much "shapes that a majority of contemporary westerners might agree would/would not look amazing in a pencil skirt"). the only reason to even think about peartangles or applircles is if a person wants to appear to…

Agree on your latter point (otherwise, why bother making/doing anything?). An artist (if successful in executing his/her intention) hopefully narrows the range of responses; the audience does the rest. But here, I think *a lot* of weight is being put on the audience to define the event as art. E.g.s of commercial artists…

Sorry, I should have been clearer. Sure, you can be a douche and make great art (e.g. Wagner). I do not have an entirely arbitrary definition of what counts as art (but I didn't make that explicit, true). I think a lot of people would say that intentionality is an important determinant - that the puted creator had at least…

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Lol :) Aw. Look, most women don't fit perfectly into the categories. I call myself a pear-rectangle when I want to think of myself as a fruit-geometric shape. If the worry is about clothes, & approximating the idealized hourglass shape, this is what you (or your mom) can do: Method 1 - Take a picture each of front, back,…