violetta88 Member

I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this - divorce is never easy, for any of the people involved. I think at age 3, your son most likely doesn't understand what's happening, no matter how much you try and explain it. Most children that age thrive on routine, and when things change they naturally become unsettled.…

Awkward. So many factors to this. How old is he? How old is your daughter? Do you get on well with him? Aside from this has he been a decent guy? You say "I found out ..." Now I'm guessing this is from your computer history or the google search drop down, which is easy to check whether you intend to or not. But be careful…

Casually hopping on the scales to see how much I weighed, purely out of interest, and being horrified to find I was clinically overweight :(

Sugar free jelly. I can eat a whacking great bowlful and it only comes to about 30 cals. Fills me up too!

The problem with yoga is that different instructors set their sessions up differently - I do some classes where I feel like I've run a marathon by the end, and others where I feel like I've done little more than some intense stretching. Tbh though for me yoga isn't about the calorie burn, it's about the other benefits. So…

Tell your friends in advance you're watching what you eat. Hopefully if they're good mates they'll sort some healthy options for you and not leave junk food lying around. It also has the added bonus of making yourself accountable - if you've told your friends you're being healthy, you'll be less likely to reach for the…

Yes, I lost a lot of weight eating less than 1200 a day. Didn't keep it off though :) Problem is you can stick to 1200 for months, even years sometimes, and you will lose weight. But the vast, vast majority of people won't be able to stick with it in the long term - and the minute you flounder it'll all pile back on. What…

I'm in! Started today to allow for a 3 day business trip in September. Let's do this!

Some tips I've picked up: - Water. All the time. When I snack it's just to have something to do with my hands - a water bottle serves the same purpose but without the calories. - Snack little and often. I usually have a snack every couple of hours of around 100 cals or so - fruit, crackers, cereal bars, etc. - If you're…

I'm 23 and have never had a serious relationship. I'm totally fine with that :) What I love: - Controlling the TV, the fridge, my finances ... - No one messing up my pristine apartment - Not having to make conversation when I don't want to (which is most of the time) - Jumping on board last minute plans without having to…

I have no problem with a customer being wrong. As long as they're polite about it. Now, the ones that are rude, disrespectful, think I deserve to be spoken to like I'm beneath them, make snide comments about my intelligence/appearance/attitude, threaten to report me to some higher power simply for doing my job, think they…

I don't ban any friend requests, but I guess I can understand why people would. Yes, MFP is totally a support forum for those who have issues with their weight - but most want to lose in a healthy, sustainable fashion. I personally do not have the knowledge or the education to provide support to those with serious eating…

I'm totally with you. Two years ago I was 120lbs, size 8 (US size 6, I think ...?), and people told me I looked gorgeous, fit and healthy. I also ate around 500 cals a day and exercised every second I wasn't at work. For me it comes down to two things - one, who you surround yourself with. I worked in fashion retail at the…

2 ginger cookies, every evening, without fail. 120 cals :) And half a packet of Skittles, if I can squeeze it out of my daily goal!

I do this with M&Ms too! And Skittles, Smarties ... only my order is brown, green, yellow, orange, red, blue. I might be even worse though because I tip them out and make a rainbow across my desk! I also hate most sauces, won't have milk on my cereal, deconstruct biscuits and lick the cream off, bite a cross shape in my…

I always say that no one has the right to judge another person's body until they've seen them naked :blushing: Clothes can hide so much. Keep with the weights and the toning. You've done a phenomenal job so far, there's nothing stopping you from achiving what you want. Take the time to work on yourself and relearn those…

All the time - it's one of my biggest gripes! I usually get it off family - they seem convinced that "healthy lifestyle" is synonymous with "eating disorder". But I feel like I may be to blame for that because of stupid crashing dieting in the past. I also get it off co-workers, I think because I changed jobs a few months…

Things I ate during my uni years, including but not limited to: - Coke (at least once a day) - Take out pizza and KFC (only when I couldn't be bothered to cook - aka all the time) - M&Ms (could get through a family pack in one study session) - Cookies (my housemate worked at a bakery and always got to bring home big bags…

London girl here :) Anyone's welcome to add me x

I think you need to look at why you're snacking - is it boredom, emotional eating, genuine hunger? But here are some generaly tips that helped me: 1. As someone already said, water. As much as you can handle :) 2. Plan your snacks around your day. Have you seen Supernanny when she puts the kids daily snacks in a jar so…

I totally feel for you - this was me last week. I went to stay with my mum for a few days, it was her birthday, we had people round and meals out and piles of homemade cake ... etc. etc. And Monday I was totally bummed because EVERY TIME I've tried to lose weight this has been when I fell off the wagon - when I have a…

One week to go - anyone still on board??

If the malnourishment or obesity was severe enough that a legal team could make a case for neglect, then yes. Though it would take an extreme case for that even to be discussed. But please, please try to understand - we do not have the resources to intervene to that degree. Do you have any idea what is required to…

I can only speak for my organisation - but we do provide this. Obviously not within CP, but as part of our parenting programmes. The resourses are there for people who want them, but it's what's described as early intervention - designed to educate parents before the problem takes hold, or help them reverse developing…

I work in child protection. Trust me, we have more important things to deal with.

Your workout finished half an hour ago, but you're still lying on the floor, unable to move ...

I've been in a car when the driver, texting, smashed into an oncoming vehicle. I've also been in a car when the driver had been drinking, with similar results. (I should point out that I was a child in both instances and didn't have a choice about getting in the car - I don't just have really irresponsible friends!) I…

It's hard. Of course, in an ideal world parents would only feed their children nutritious meals, the kids would eat them without complaint, the parents would take the kids to the park every day and swimming every weekend ... Reality is that it's easier to heat up a ready meal, and sometimes kids scream and refuse to eat…

I was 11, which in retrospect was probably way too young (I'm 23 now). But my dad had just got a big promotion and desperately wanted to buy me all the stuff he couldn't before, bless his heart. I was the only kid in my class with one, which made me pretty "cool", whatever that means nowadays. Of course that meant I had no…

Hi Emma! Feel free to add me - I'm 23 (is that still considered young?) and from London x