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I can relate! Every time I get around 185-190, I get complacent. Losing weight can be cumbersome especially if you've been at it for a while. I do diet breaks where I keep the same level of exercise, but I may cheat a lot more on my diet. I think this may be beneficial for you.

I'm just curious...is your profile pic on MFP similar to the ones on a dating site? Sometimes people will treat you in a way that you project to them. Because a guy with a great body like yours may be projecting to others as being nothing but eye candy.

Just because you are at the top level of fitness doesn't mean everyone who isn't are lazy and not dedicated. I think you should go back and re--read some of the posts. The gist of it all was that some ladies don't really care to meet people just based on their looks, since in some of our experience the guys who were the…

THIS!

I don't think anyone was discriminating, per say, against the pretty boys. I never dated a man who I initially considered unattractive either. However, in my experience the pretty boys sometime have an entitlement issue where they think looks will get them a date. I would definitely date someone who is average looking with…

Yeah, interesting enough I dated a guy who my friend had a crush on. I didn't find him super attractive when I initially met him, but his "personality" and charm increased my attraction for him. However, as soon as he started to act like an *kitten* it faded..lol....I never think long term with men who are oh so beautiful.…

Hmmm..I think not having the companionship. Its different hanging around a girlfriend and a potential guy you are interested in. I've never been in a relationship, and I tend to gravitate towards people who are still single and never married. It gets frustrating to be somewhat successful in my professional life, but my…

For me its indicative of his value system in regards to relationships and monogamy. Unless you are into poly amorous relationships, I would NEXT him and keep it moving.

I've heard enough about this guy...Next him and tell him to lose your number! Never let a man think he is in the driver seat to choose you.

I know plenty of doctors, and date one previously...every one has time! Believe it! Regardless, I did talk to the guy today so we shall see what happens.

Ok- This is guy is obviously not shy. Therefore, at the very least he is insecure if he is worried about her dating other men. Secure men and women don't get routinely jealous of potential other suitors. If he wants to date her, then he should pursue her like a gentlemen. Most guys who like a girl is nervous in their…

Are you insecure? I am not trying to be rude, but how do you classify that a girl is unattainable if you don't put the work in to find out? Some girls hold back a little because they are worried about being used by men or have been hurt in the past.

This guy seems like he is out for sex. Its actually pretty common: the forced intimacy and pet names to get you to feel special. Its all a ploy to get you to sleep with him. If he wants to date you, he will.However, he seems to want to get you emotionally close, so you will sleep with him if the opportunity arise. That's…

The thing is he texted me on Sunday when he wasn't working, and then a few minutes after 9 he said he was tired. Then I didn't hear from until the next evening. No goodbye...nothing, I did date a doctor before him briefly, and I work in the health profession, and I do understand they are busy. However, no one is that busy…

I think its a time and place for the sexual comments/innuendos. The first 1-3 dates the person may not even like you as much but is willing to give it a try. That's when you want to be on your best behavior. Its sets the standards for the rest of the experience regardless of the outcome. I've been on plenty of dates where…

I personally find offline dating more satisfying than online dating. I just renewed my match subscription, but I never meet anyone or have any meaningful interactions on there. Prob was a waste of money to do so. Anyways, I find it more organic to meet someone just by leaving the house or at a random place rather than…

I guess the acceptance of sexual comments or innuendos is correlated with an individual's comfort level with sex itself and its perceived importance in a relationship. I personally see sex as an additional bonus to a great emotional relationship. With dating I'm generally turned off to men who go straight to the sexual…

I don't know how people can have FWB without getting attached. I am a virgin, and sex is a big deal to me. I just don't want to give my body to someone who really doesn't value me as a long term prospect. To each its own though! Not judging...!

Last time I weighed myself I was 187...I am 5'9 and wear a size 8/9/10 :)... Somewhere in between there!

That article is so true~ In my experience men who text try to keep an emotional distance because they fear rejection or they try to control the relationship. It gives a false sense of intimacy and topics are easily misconstrued . For example, I once had a guy who texted me "Well....?" I said, well what? I knew he was…

Basically! I had a loser who did that to me often! He would ask me what's up...then I would respond and asks what's up, and then he would go silent. Its almost a ploy to leave you hanging and seek control because they know more than you do. I say get rid of him because he is obviously showing that being polite isn't a…

In reference to the above post, I think this guy is the type who wants to control the situation. I am pretty sure he saw the message when you sent it, but rather not answer it he just went silent. Then he probably changes the subject because he doesn't feels you deserve an answer.

Honestly, people who are so preoccupied with having an attractive spouse generally tend to be insecure. Hence, they use their spouse to build their self esteem and their personal shortcomings. Why would a man try to change a woman's approach to life? If he wants something different, then I think he needs to communicate…

Mines is about 175-180. If I get any lower, people may think I look sick. My lowest adult weight was 175, and people thought I was starving even at my height. I am between a size 8/9 right now, but a size 6 would be wonderful. However, no lower :)

Regardless, he should be proud to stand next to his girl regardless of the circumstances. I think he's insecure that his family/friends don't like how she looks. He may have superficial family members or friends, IMO!

Its funny because all the men I meet while I am out, I always have NO makeup on. I do have acne scars, but I don't know. I think its more of reflection of the man himself. Obviously your friend is secure without makeup.

Hmm..sounds like this guy is insecure. She needs to break up with him. Eventually he's going to cheat on her for "something better" because he is not comfortable with his choice. Sorry, that is the way I see it. This situation has disaster all over it!

That's an interesting thought. I rather beat someone at their own game rather than be used. I had an experience with a man in a similar situation. The crazy thing is our first date was filled with sex talk from his part. I thought I over exaggerated because of my sexual inexperience, so I gave him another chance. Low and…

I know its 2013, but I would probably reject a man afterwards if he suggested within the first 5-10 dates that I pay. Why? I am very traditional, so I expect a man will provide for a woman regardless of how much he or she makes. Therefore, paying for dates shows me you are a good provider without expectations of something…

1. No sex talk or jokes 2. No inappropriate comments 3. Be on time 4. Dress like you actually care 5. Engage in the conversation 6. Refrain from inquiring about income, who the person live with, or any other personal question I had someone who did the opposite of above and was def a pre-cursor for what was to come.