Evelyn_Gorfram Member

Yikes! Losing weight is supposed to help with my fibro, and I really don't want to find out it doesn't. I suppose at least the doctors will take me more seriously once I achieve a "proper" BMI, because then I won't just be a "fat chick who brought all her health problems on herself." (Sorry - I'm feeling really cynical…

Well, I'm willing to accept that no one's going to be able to change you. Not until you're old enough to need diapers, anyway. Have fun in your cave. (Oh, and - SMILE!)

I just meant that, in those many moments when you were carrying through the choice to leave - putting your house up for sale, quitting your job, stepping onto the airplane, etc. - it would take an awful of resolution bravery and "true grit" to put pen to paper and make your hand sign the relevant document, or to put foot…

I'm just starting a long weight-loss journey, and was/sort of still am so obese that most of my clothes are pretty baggy anyway ("body-con" in a 28W is not something anybody needs to see me in). I went through a few weeks ago and sorted out all of my too-big clothes. I'm keeping the nicer coats and sweaters until spring:…

Wow. You are what I call - and it is a gender-neutral term of genuine respect - a serious tough guy.

Uh, that's not what I said. I did not say: "the program works." I said: "For $27/month, LadyBoss prettily packages information that can be readily obtained elsewhere for free." I wish, oh how I wish, that people would read my posts before responding to them.

See, that's the thing. It is a leer, albeit a small one, because it is invasive. When you tell me to smile, you're invading the connection between my mood and my facial expression. That connection is a thing internal to me. I never invited you in there, and yet you're trying to insert yourself and your demands into the…

Additional Rule of Thumb: If I can't tell the difference between you being nice and you being a pervert; maybe, just maybe, you're not being as nice as you think you are.

No, it isn't. Let's assume for the sake of argument that you are a heterosexual man: One morning, you wake up feeling hellish. On the way to the bathroom, you discover, with your bare foot, that the cat has thrown up on the carpet again. You clean that up and head into to the kitchen, where you discover that you're out of…

The one I hate the absolute most: "Eat To Live, not Live To Eat."

"Too much milkshake makes too much Marsha."

If it should ever happen that I savagely beat someone into a frothy pulp, it will be because that person picked The Wrong *Kitten*ing Day to tell me to "Smile!"

Replying to this because I'd never heard of Fat Pad Atrophy, and because I get to quote a source with the intriguing name of Lower Extremity Review: (*nb. "comorbidities" means other diseases or conditions occurring at the same time. Also, "pedal" here probably means "having to do with the feet," and not "that thing on…

I'm really sorry I came off sounding harsh. My post was indeed meant out of concern rather than criticism ("oh no! this poor person's driving themselves to the point of exhaustion and physical breakdown! we gotta stop them, quick!"). And of course; just as you can track anything and everything that you eat; you are also…

An informal and probably not overly accurate tally of the things people have mentioned so far - Pregnancy: 11 Menopause: 2 PCOS: 2 Depression: 8 Abuse: 7 Alcoholism: 3 Anxiety: 2 Eating Disorder: 3 Bad nutritional & weight-loss education/information: 4 Other Illness, Injuries, and/or Medications: 6 Death of loved one…

I became fat as a child because of abuse; and then got fatter in response to bullying about my weight (among other things). I had terrible problems with endometriosis throughout my 20's and 30's, and gained a lot of weight during that time. Then, in my early 40's, I developed fibromyalgia so severe I had to quit working…

I'm going to step up in defense of snarky remarks. Not just because of my earlier post ;), but because I have found that they sometimes work for me. I was brought up to be nice and to not go around insulting people - or at least my mother tried her best.* But I've sometimes found that the thing I'm struggling so hard not…

I think what happened during your training session may have less to do with tracking; and more to do with pushing yourself harder than usual, training 7 days a week, skipping rest days, and forcing yourself to lift heavier and work out longer. Plus not increasing your calories enough so that you don't feel hungry all the…

Apologies to OP for hijacking the thread with this plane business, but this comment made me wonder - We drink all those bottles of water to keep ourselves from getting dried out by the dehumidified cabin air. At the same time, we're doing ankle rotations and toe scrunches to keep our legs from swelling. But can a person be…

Hey, waydda minute.... If a 747 carries 524 passengers from New York to LA, and each person gains 10 lbs of water weight en route, does that means that the plane is 5,240 pounds heavier at landing than it was at takeoff? ...Geez, no wonder airline tickets cost s'darn much. ;) (End of silliness. We now return you to the…

That sounds really good :) (And I'm relieved to find out that the recipe doesn't call for peas. ;) )

A couple things: 1) The closer you get to your goal weight, the harder it is to lose. And you're pretty darned close. (About which: Congratulations!) 2) You need to use a food scale. You really do - Measuring cups can be inaccurate for any thing other than liquids, be cause you never know just how much air there is between…

I wonder if maybe your mom could have some sort of ED? She was very skinny in grad school and isn't overweight at all now, this despite being somewhat older than you are and having had at least one child. IMHE, many skinny people, especially women, are skinny because they work hard at being skinny, not always in healthy…

I've seen the first two episodes and I'm enjoying the series. It's a cerebrally light, comedically dark, satire expressed through the teen/trash/soap opera milieu. It's painted in broad strokes, and some of the humor is very crass, but there are some subtleties here and there. It's entertainment and not much more, but what…

There are all kinds of things that help, but the only real way to make a change is to Make That Change - and then stick to it. One of the things that helps me is to start small. I started by just tracking what I ate - everything, including the junk food. (My diary is open, if you want to see: junkiest dates are August 25 &…

One response I've often found useful with the kind of bully/idiot/self-appointed-dispenser-of-questionable-wisdom this guy seems to be: I smile as sweetly as possible and say: "Thank you. I didn't know that." It's not untrue; and, weirdly enough, it often seems to satisfy them and they walk away, thinking they have have…

Thanks. I like my cat, too. :) (And she likes my dish drainer.)

Well, you don't have to be there yet. (& with luck, you didn't promise a timeline on just how long after reaching your goal weight you had to fulfill the promise. ;) )

See, now that's a raw deal for you. ...I guess the upside is that you can walk more easily on sand & snow?

I like Reason #1. Maybe you could get one of the theatrical "fat suits" that actors wear for playing fat people, just for whenever you're going to see your mom. Re: Reason #4. Dare one ask what the promise was (unless you'd rather not share)?