toddchelmick

I would have calmly but firmly called the waitor over, asked for a new drink and why, and quickly gotten back to the conversation. Your lunchmates will get to see you in a potentially horrible situation and be impressed with how cool you handled it. Then when you get home you can write your colorful, strongly worded email.

I shall rise to the task. My friends list is short, and we all need encouragement.

Jane should expect an apology for his jack-*kitten* comment, but then have an honest conversation with him about futures. A marriage under coercion is doomed from the start.