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To me, she is really slim and hot. I think this is why I cannot understand it. Fat and flabby is me, not models!

Maybe I am too fat to see flab on a light person. I sort of see what you mean in the pic but I would never say she was anything like fat in either pic.But interesting how you can transform without lose weight.

I am like 350lbs, if a skinny person told me they are actually simultaniously fat, I would tell them they have a funny meaning of fat!I think I'd quite like to be skinny fat because hard bodied adonis is not a good look for me I think.

Because I'd look good and people wouldn't call me fat, they might even think I was hot!

picture. I think that is the only way I'd understand, and maybe noteven then, haha.

lol I wouldnt mind if I was fat 'inside', long as I looked good, hehe

Is it one of these body builder terms where they think everyone wants to be muscly like them. which they don't. :/ I just cant imagine how such a body would look. skinny and fat are opposite!!

rice cakes are bad?? Well, I'll go back to eating chocolate cake instead, that is better for me right? hehe sounds fun!

thank you all. on someones advice i wrote a list of reasons for losing weight and reasons against and i have more reasons FOR so i think this will help me. i made slimming world chicken kiev for tea so thats a start. when i was at my best i did slimming world recipes aaaaw the time.

i used to have to climb it to get back from work, it never got any easier, part of the reason i quit that job,haha

aww, thank you all for kind and helpful comments. ah ha, i hate those steep streets, still kills me!!! lol xx

Well sorry if that is how you understood it, it of course wasn't what I meant. I can't beleive that yet again I have to say, of course I don't fancy my sister!! I suppose getting back to what some people said, maybe I WAS slightly hurt that he gave her 100% of the attention and didn't give me any, and made it so that I was…

Most of my friends are white, even relationships, because i live in a mainly white area. You are being ridiculous. I never expressed anything like this.

naaah he not my type, and not for racial reasons. He was the uncoolest with his fawning. I guess some people might like the dynamic, I think my sister not one though, lol.

Some very astute points there! BEP I think those guys are very patronising to you! Ugh. So true, Jonette, about confounding expectations. The best way to challenge people's views that you are less intelligent or beautiful, for race or sex or any other reason is confound it, I guess! what thread isn't here? They must have…

Me too (not insomnia, it is day here) but itis interesting. I don't mean to sound like 'ahh just trolled you all' because I was verymuch sincere here- but beginnning a debate that engages people and brings many different responses is quit good way to pass some time I think. Just glad to get lots of views here I suppose.…

oh righ aaah right, least I got a little moderation to my views, no need to laugh at me :p

Do I contradict myself? If so it is because I am weighing up different sides. I did not come here with a fully formed view, no point in asking if I had. Maybe I did do a 'crappy' job. I am not an academically gifted man, my intelligence is low, this is a fact. I hope that dosen't undermine my view though, I have enough…

I agree that people shouldnt be too offended about race, and look for offense. Yeah, my sister just laughed it off mostly, kinda found him annoying. Well some define racism as prejudice plus power, and there is a power imbalance there. But whatever, I don't suppose I am changing any minds on this, I have known this debate…

It is reassuring that some people at least sort of get where I am coming from. Like, it is just sort of patronising to a black woman to be treated this way. I know I may not have been totally fair or rational, just stating my feeling. I'm not a bad guy really. I don't feel like defending myself about not being racist, I…

Ok I'll try not to say it agin, just I don't know how else to say, when people say I am 'racist against white people'. I am not, regardless of if it is possible or not.

As I have said, I have no problem with mixed race relationships- I am black and live in a meainly white part of the world, so most of my relationships also have been mixed race. Also what is controversial about my comment that I rarely perceive racism around me? Surely that is a good thing. My sister mainly just laughed it…

YES because everyone else can see this is NORMAL... you are the weird one for thinking any expression that someone is beautiful must mean you fancy them!! Of course I don't fancy my family, you are being very silly. Everyone can see that. And I think you need to remind yourself of the forum rules, because you just being…

I don't know what a 'guy like me' is but for sure I am interesting and a good guy, so I am sure there is lots to say :) I don't know, as I explained in the first post, I did feel, and had some evidence that, the interaction WAS influenced by race and his feelings about it. But I am not saying I am definitely right about…

Internal racism is more about being racist on your own race, in my view. Also, it is a whole other debate whether black on white racism exists at all. A big whole other debate so I shall not start on that right now! Thanks Denise. He was scuzzy, that much is true- I am basically certain there was some kind of entitlement…

In what way am I expressing internal racism? Genuine question.

Actually, I rarely perceive racism around me. I am not like that at all, sorry if I some how accidently give this impressions.

The air of entitlement would have suggested arrogance, maybe misogyny. I wouldn't have liked that guy either. But it would be harder to say racism, unless some kind of internal racism, idk. Taunto, I will not listen to any more of that from you, I am not a pervert, I am a real gentleman whichis why this behaviour annoys me…

Come onnow, Ido enjoy a healthy debate but that is just unkind and unfair. I am NOT a racist, and I am DEFINITELY NOT a pervert. How is it wrong to think your sister is a beautiful lady. Don't look now but I also think mymother is beautiful. There is nothing sexual in that, obviously. You being mean :( I don't know, maybe…