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Agree, good points. Actions can have undesirable consequences despite one's intentions. Not really an excuse to blow off responsibility connected to the consequences (a child). I'm surprised by a sort of feigned naïveté on this issue. I don't take everybody at their word, and if I were a guy who did not want to impregnate…

I've wondered if there's a generational divide on this, too.When I was a teenager, I took a field trip to the county health clinic with my first boyfriend before I let it get anywhere close. Disease and pregnancy- both terrifying. The older kids that I work with constantly reference birth control and who is and isn't…

Rules. I could make a very long list detailing the ways I rebelled against rules when I was younger and have had to pay for it (often involving authority- I'm now older so mostly reduced to driving too fast) but dating and relationships are completely compartmentalized from any other stupid rule breaking I might be prone…

I don't read all of the threads here, but did read this one and was thinking about a response before it got deleted. I think the reason she might have gotten so upset is because the poster she was heatedly engaged with initially said something about along the lines of her thread not deserving 5 pages of responses (because…

We can't smoke freely yet, takes effect in January.

Edit: delete

So, for me personally, this is a black and white issue, too. Never could I imagine any kind of adulterous scene in my life, ever. My marriage was faithful, and it’s really a sacred thing to me. In terms of guilt/innocence- if I were pressed I'd say that it's equally shared by "other" and adulterer. But! When it’s not me, I…

Wait, I came here for an actual confession. I had a very emotionally draining day at work, and my last bf (awesomely lewd and absurd) texted a suggestion- maybe "pubic rhinestones that say something clever like CUM IN" I think I'm still in love with him? Not sure what I'm doing : )

So, I remember awhile back there was a thread where you posted your career goal as special education teacher (I work in this world, so remembered- yay you!). Just knowing that, you might be a magnet for neediness and not realize it (often veiled neediness)? Don't know if you've experienced that before, but I ran into it in…

These questions!!! What you describe is probably acceptable, but it depends on the kind of woman you're looking for. Some things that people geek out about are fine with me, others aren't. I would be (and have been) okay with a tiny unobtrusive stash of simpsons stuff, music, electronics, books, etc. but honestly, I don't…

He completely sucks .It's one thing to blow somebody off because you don't have the balls to tell express that your feelings have changed, but it's another to try to effing lie and string somebody along as an option. Gross- hate him for you. Also, sleep is one of my biggest pet peeves are far as excuses. Even if you didn't…

Agree. You look great.

I have hashimoto's thyroid, and my body temp is usually about 96, so I am all about socks (collect cute knee high pairs). This is good information, I struggle getting there occasionally : (

Yeah. Bigmouth strikes again.

Now you know how Joan of Arc felt....

This thread is political in lots of ways, but I question whether the intention of the op was to covertly brainwash this group with an argument against the doctrine of rights. I might have skipped some posts, though : ) Edit: thinking john locke, not kant

Yuck. Unfortunately, your friendship will probably suffer. Maybe a lot. A couple of years ago a friend's husband got weird with me (nothing like you're describing, but still...). She and I still love each other, but have only seen each other a few times since this happened. I understand her position, though. I really hate…

5s going for 9s, so bizarre to me. I understand that maybe a lot of men just send out lots and lots of lines to pretty young women hoping to get a bite. Like playing the lottery, but it's free. What I do not understand are the guys who put great time and effort into messaging women that are not realistic looking at all or…

Good title. I also thought I'd never eat duck again. (After eating multiple courses of duck culminating in skewered duck hearts a few years ago) Might try this someday...

I can see how a marriage could be stronger with outside support in some ways. I thanked god for my ex husband's work wife once open communication about their relationship was established, and I could see the benefits to all of us. But- if they had started having sex the benefits to me would have been that I'd have had my…

Divorced for a little over 5 yrs, with a year long relationship that ended this spring.I waited waaay to long to start dating- over three years. Met the boyfriend through our daughters. OP- we live in the same city, so if I knew the kinds of things you're into I could make some suggestions? Here is what I do right now:…

This is why I'm planning to become a stage mom and force my daughter to go to a women's college. I'm looking forward to the vicarious life.

Off topic, sorry, but this kind of silliness is how I totally envision college life at one of the seven sisters!!! Although I understand reality could look like potential meanness for being unfamiliar with simone de beauvoir or something dumb. I'll take that confirmation because I totally remembered all of the words to…

Ha! Calm down- also posted earlier about being hippy and flat chested : )

About 15 years ago a friend asked me to wait in my car in a museum parking lot at night when she met some guy she was talking to online. I thought it was totally weird and stupid and got cold, so after 10 minutes of them standing in the dark at the side of this parking lot, I marched over to announce I was going home and…

I'm not curvy at all because no boobs- but my hips are also 12' larger than waist, and if I had boobs, I'd be curvy. I just creeped your profile (you and your pugs are super cute) and I think you are TOTALLY curvy. You might be heavier than you want to be right now, but I don't think that negates your body's ratios. A true…

Totally cheap shot. Sorries men. But, I'm just so not into the premise of "back to basics-let's all be communal and explore screwing everybody because that's natural" because it still keeps women at a disadvantage. So now that the ladies have managed to reconcile and adapt to all of the bull**** subjugation they've been…

I will totally admit that I am fascinated by what ladies do with their parts- I might be the pervy lady checking people out in the locker room because it's so interesting to me. I don't really care that much about guys as long as they shower enough, and it's not like steel wool cutting me or something. In my 20s I was a…

I didn't watch the video because my speakers suck, and I haven’t read Sex at Dawn, but I had a conversation with someone about it a year or so ago, and I remember feeling like – hey, that’s interesting- love thinking about the development of mating rituals and everything, and I’d like to suspend moral judgment and be down…

My marriage ended when I was 30, and my advice is: do not hesitate to start your life. I focused entirely on my daughter for the first few years (understandably since she was a toddler) but I do regret not making efforts to make new friends and date sooner than I did. You'll be okay!