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Turned 40 recently, feel free to add me! Log daily but don't always remember to submit it. Am trying to lose the last 10 lbs...but know (from experience) that I need to stay here for maintenance : )

I haven't thought about skating in years; it's cool to see so many who are into it. Core strength is what caused me the most problems, probably obliques.

Congratulations! I'd also feel surprised if I lost that much and didn't go down at least more than one size (that sounds super frustrating) but we're all different... I know that generally (depending on the brand) it takes me about 15 lbs to go down a size on the top and probably closer to 20 or a little more to go down on…

I quit almost 12 years ago (smoked for about 15). It took me about 2 years to start to lose, but lost about 30 lbs. Kept most of it off for 10 years : )

One of the best things I've watched on netflx in the past few months was Bronies: The Extremely Unexpected Adult Fans of My Little Pony. It was very sweet with lots of awkward adolescents that I wanted to hug : )

Not sure I'd try to focus on both things at once. I'd get a handle on quitting, accept that it might be a rough time for weight loss (aim for maintenance or minimal gain). When things feel more under control then focus on weight loss. I quit many years ago, but it required tapering and acceptance that I'd mess up…

Not wrong at all as long as you communicate that. I'd just worry that sometimes people don't believe you when you say you are only seeking something casual- or they think they can change your mind. Also, be clear if you do change your mind. My experience with that is that I didn't express a change of heart about wanting…

That is an excellent emoticon! That stereotype (trench coat and fedora) totally flashed me in a library.

If I were in this situation, I'd try my best to pick up my feelings and split before the feelings were so intense that I found myself involved in some kind of love triangle or heartbroken and spewing feelings all over the place. It sounds like you already know that you don't want to interfere with his relationship and the…

Even "best foot forward" can sometimes be manipulating who you are to a degree, and everyone does this unconsciously at first. I do worry that vulnerability will be taken advantage of, so I'm sure I come off as being a lot more independent than I probably am. I also think that some people are just kind of void, and end up…

I agree that around the 2-3 month mark people tend to assess things differently than earlier in the relationship. I definitely think about relationship "evolution"- what does that mean and look like, why do I want what I want, and do I trust myself to pick the right person? I think there's probably some truth to the gender…

Some of these are kinda cute sounding, and I might do some kind of niche thing with a general music site or maybe the book one, but it's so limiting! I don't think most people need any additional rule outs. My current man friend would never have made it through if I were screening people on shared interests. He loves cats…

Geek love : ) The only people I seem let into my inner friend circle are geeks. My favorite just gave me an extensively researched gift- this list is super true.

This. I didn't date for 4 years after my divorce, but having a tiny kid also contributed to that delay. Regardless- after 10 months I could hardly make eye contact with men.

So, you have a complicated history. I think the only way I could go into this dinner/reconnection without being completely insane and over-analyzing everything would be to put a lid on it."We have a history. The end." . I'd try not to filter every word or gesture through the history- just be in the moment. If things go…

I don't even post here that much, and I remembered that last name- cute and rhymes with skittles. So, I confess that I've been eating ice cream and pizza and jelly beans all this week because I'm exhausted and sad about an old friend who was murdered last weekend. He tried to intervene in an altercation over a credit card…

My first thought was that I'd probably not waste my time because I'm just not down, but on second thought- swinging isn't some kind of permanent fixed lifestyle state. If you're maybe bored and he's interesting, it might be just fun to ask some questions?

This. I have a male friend who is adamant that he won't date anyone without a full body shot because he's felt mislead so many times. I don't think the label matters that much as long as your pictures are honest. I always left body type blank, but had multiple images. I think the average/curvy/a few extra is a topic that…

This. Nobody likes being put on spot like that by someone that you don't know. This kind of thing is a huge t red flag to me. If you ask me a question that will obviously make me uncomfortable in the early getting to know you stage- no thanks.

Phew- now all of my woe is me I secretly want to get married again feelings are put in perspective, AND the self pity that I didn't have a wedding or a ring the first time because we were idiot graduate students with no money is finally abated! It's simply cost volume profit analysis! But for real, I used be a records…

Tig Notaro is a bad *kitten*. Love : )

With the example you give here, I'd probably be hyper-aware and invested in reading the other person's output. But- just to lend an opposing example: I read A LOT, the person I'm seeing wrote a book a few years ago and am NEVER going to read it unless he asks (non-fiction topic that is super boring to me- but is his life's…

A voice can definitely get me excited- or unexcited, but not enough to be a deal breaker. I'd be talking to no one ever if i let myself dismiss people because the sound of their voice was kind of lame- I dismiss enough because of the crappy close minded words that they say. Strangely, I can remember the sound of most…

He noticed my hair looked different after I changed my shampoo routine. Dramatic sigh.

I got a small truck in college, and Immediately got exponential amounts of attention from ladies who like other ladies : ) Boyfriend hated it though.

It makes sense that self esteem might correlate in some way with how receptive a woman is to sexually suggestive stuff in the early stages of knowing someone, but I'd maybe argue that it could go the other way, too. I think that when people perceive themselves to be "low value" they'll put up with behavior that that people…

16 Even though these kinds of quizzes are kind of fun and I usually take them (and I have a gender one I might post if I can find it) I also hate them : ( Am I weird? What do I think? How do I feel? Do I measure up to the shadow ideal? Edit: "Are you turning boys off?" "Are you one of the boys?" and "Should you call him?"…

I think I'd be done with this situation- given the description, but I'd want to have a conversation just to find out what's going on.

Isn't this usually an unfortunate truth? This made me sort of hate boys A LOT in high school. "I listened while you talked about boring girl stuff/feelings- now you need to let me touch you even though I know you have a boyfriend" This was like every encounter I had with a male through teendom. I learned about "but I gave…

I confess that I'm an idiot who can not use her words, despite constant internal rehearsal all effing day long. Ugh.