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Something about the online process seems to take away realistic standard. Like the predetermined "ideal" is somehow more attainable because there are more choices, and you don't have to go out and make an effort to find someone. Like I"m just going to stay in tonight, drink beer, and be dismissive: no, no, maybe, ugly…

Seriously? Who calls someone "sex kitten"? The whole description strikes me as set up for a really unpleasant break up/possible stalker scene. It's hard to imagine how it could go right.

: ) This place got their first human specimen about a year ago. It was a fail. I sort of assumed this was horrible and grossly fascinating enough that people already knew all about it?

Totally fixated on vacation ideas lately! Am going to a national park next week to freeze my *kitten* off. Parks can be fun with lectures and the nerdy group activities they sometimes have. Not sure of your interests, budget, whatever, but I usually start planning with museums that I'd like to check out., but researching…

So, I had no idea who Evan Marc Katz was, but computer magic says he's a "relationship and dating coach"- which sounds scammy. Which would align with being scammy and and withholding information. But- who's to say when the relationship is at that point? Maybe 6 months was the right time for this guy-the OP said he knew she…

This is a good point. I can't justify why I felt this way, but on certain occasions have definitely felt off the hook somehow when it's established in conversation that I had a marriage. I don't think I'm projecting this, and I don't think the other person (usually someone who is married) would ever have said anything…

This makes me feel old and cranky, but I don't remember St Patricks Day being another "women wear as little as possible" holiday? Like Halloween- lots of green fishnets and bobbed green wigs? Apparently, I overdressed and drank Guinness.

Oh no- I'm not trying to call you out as needy : ) I think your post implied that you didn't want to text this much, and you were trying to feel out what other people's limits were.

I'd assume he's not interested in more than friendship. I have a friend like this. He probably initiates 90% of the time. He's just never on my mind unless I haven't heard from him in a month or so. I like him, and we have a lot to talk about when we get together, but I'm not interested in more. (He knows this though- I'm…

Totally agree with this. 3 hours would be a big red flag on fire screaming "needy" or "vampire".

I texted a lot (substantive content) with someone I dated about a year ago, and in hindsight- totally bad idea. It ended up creating a weird structure to our communication that wasn't natural, and then we felt locked into it. We broke up and started seeing each other again months later; texts were a lot fewer, and a way to…

Please post after this weekend- I want some schooling!

I don't think there needs to be an explanation if you've never met/ have only been communicating for less than a week or two. I don't think I'm owed anything at that point. I'd rather it all be stealth and without excuses. When talking to people online, I'd want to meet relatively quickly if the person is local. That…

Absolutely! That's why I have the 82 and not the 55 -humming audibility : ) edit spelling

@Veggiehottie- I played that Cure over and over in the 7th grade- lamenting my first love : ) 1.Mark Ronson ft. Lily Allen- Oh My God 2.Ravel (Celibidache)- Bolero 3.The Passenger- Iggy Pop 4.Mark Ronson ft Ghostface Killah- ooh wee (instrumental) 5.Midnight City- M83 (not all French music sucks like I’ve always thought?)…

The only reason I can imagine that would cause someone to seek another who wouldn't "speak their mind" is insecurity.

Wow, that IS wassup- can you put your number in my phone? I love that they thought he was an idiot when he complimented them, laughed a little more when he complimented himself, but when it was really about the girl and phone- they were pretty willing.

I've never seen a woman be rude and not accept a door that was held. I'm sure it happens, though. I'm not sure it's a north/south issue, either. I'm not southern, but embarrassingly accepting of any kind of courtesy (to the point that I'm afraid it's made me lame). The women in my family are both totally, completely bad…

Future children are probably not what people are holding in their conscious minds when clicking through profiles, but I think we're all programmed to look for whatever "the best" is, and lazy writing or lazy proofreading does not signal "the best". The biological drive behind wanting "the best" is generally procreation, so…

Basic scatter plots, yo. I guess not. Why is there something rather than nothing? Maybe that's closer to all the way.

Whatever the argument is, the lady in question isn't looking at the graphs, and I'm not sure what posting them here is really trying to illustrate? But! Now I can refer to this when I'm asked "why are we learning line of best fit in math?" I can say "to let you know that in 15-20 years all of you middle school girls will…

I think this applies to everyone, right? Not having ever had sex makes it somewhat more complicated, maybe, but I don't think that the "right man" will care very much either way. He's probably the same person/type of person regardless of your sexual experiences. I definitely feel I'm also looking at a needle in a haystack…

Kits, I'm curious about the connection you make with less need for procreation. I get what you're saying, but I' m not sure I want to think that that kind of evolution happens so quickly? Not sure. I've never met anyone who identified as asexual, but I wonder if there is any related biological evidence? Sexuality is so…

I wonder why a guy would want to text back and forth before meeting? I can kind of see why women might want to do this, but I don't think I see texting as "taking it to the next level" after a few message exchanges on a dating site. I think the longer all the preliminaries get drawn out, the more likely things will just…

The halcyon days before children and divorce! (But- I think all of it has made me crazy resilient and better at my job- so there's good) Keeping it at schedules is probably a good idea- had not occurred to me to define it that clearly. Interactions with my ex are few, but nobody needs to know his scene- that makes me look…

I understand why you're hesitant to say anything and scare him off, but if you don't- resentment builds? I know if I were sitting around trying to read his mind, and wanting him to bring up seeing me more, but hadn't- I'd be grumpy as hell. So then you're left with this guy you see once a week,uncertainty, and maybe some…

I love this! There is a song, The Origin of Love, from Hedwig and the Angry Inch (culty play/movie about a transgendered rock star from E Germany) that tells this story with some really similar animation scenes. Love.

Unicorns are pretty telling. Please water this down.

I don't know, not sure how much of a crap shoot that actually is. I think a non sequitur like that (sort of implies good natured heretic) is more informative than 30 paragraphs of "I love to laugh, and want to take advantage of all life has to offer..." The right lady will pick up on that- a good way to weed people out. I…

1) is it just a sweet gesture that makes you want to push the guy to the friend zone or does it build chemistry and give you something to brag about to your friends? Probably sweet gesture, but depends.... Someone I was seeing awhile ago left a bag of meds and little things on my doorstep when I had mentioned feeling bad.…