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Very wise; I totally agree.

I also have that going on with my eyes, but I don't really worry about it. My ears have been pierced to shreds-left ear has something like 15 holes that I don't wear earrings in, but you can see where all the little holes had been.

I agree with your statement about those ideas coming from a place of pain (and bias-probably to a lesser degree). My last relationship was a good example :ex- wife sabotaged the relationship with infidelity, thus he was super suspicious of everything I did, and assumed everyone I knew was trying to sleep with me. It had…

Your friend doesn't have any real strategies or solutions, but wants you to find love. Easy to blame you because there isn't anyone else to blame, I'm guessing. Sorry.

I have a few male friends (guys in their 40s) dating multiples via online dating, and they always just assume I'm dating multiples, too. Not the case. Yuck. I'm sure this happens more in urban areas-more choices and more anonymity.

Happy to not know what poking is; no facebook because my job requires a level of privacy, thank god. Regarding the article, I didn't date in my 20's, but I did I hang out with boys/men. We went to see music, films, and paired off without formal dating. I don't think it's really necessary to formally date in your 20s. In my…

I'm such a voyeur; I loved reading all of these! By comparison, I feel kind of lucky: I was in 7th grade, he was in 8th, it was on my friend's parents' bed, and it was totally wonderful! It even got horizontal for a minute before I realized that that was probably a bad move for me. I still love him a little.... : )

I'm sorry; your situation sounds hard. I also agree with the sentiment that a person is never too busy if they're actually interested in pursuing something real. Being alone in a new country can be so isolating (which you've indicated you realize) and feeling isolated can lead to idealizing people when they don't…

Yay! I heart statisticians. I have a math inclination, but am missing the voice of reason, usually.

I'm sorry you feel badly! First, I wouldn't assume that the weight comes off easily when the thyroid is managed. There are many here who would disagree, and I vehemently disagree. However, 69 lbs is awesome, and you already know that you don't need people at work to validate all of your hard work. You feel it everyday,…

Grey hair and/or highish foreheads. (But this might just be what's out there in the age range that I tend to date- and I like it) I've had multiple men approach me because they liked my front teeth. Everyone has their thing?

I like aragon oil (there are different brands/price points out there). Recently, I did a salon keratin treatment, and will probably look into doing it again when money is less tight (about 100 for an express treatment that lasts about 6 wks and 2-300 for 12 wks)

Another reason I'm glad I didn't have a ceremony! (Although at the time I didn't feel this way) I have a neighbor who made some lacy old lady style pillows out of hers. Not sure if that's your style, though.

I'm not sure my standards have changed, per se, but I probably pay more attention. For me, it's more about body type-I tend to gravitate toward guys who were super thin in youth-and some extra adult weight is usually fine with me on that kind of frame. (Obviously this is superficial, and other things are more important,…

I definitely have a butt, and certain Diesel cuts are all I will wear (but some of their cuts are way too straight). Also, sometimes sfam, but their waists are usually too big. Generally, I think sfam are decent jeans for moms.

The end of a recent relationship of mine was rooted in a similar issue. There was an obvious reason that his marriage ended, but he couldn't see/take responsibility for his role. He seemed to have very little idea why his wife took the actions she did, despite his ridiculous intelligence (both intellectual and emotional-so…

Diagnosed with hashimoto's about 10 years ago. My tsh hovered 5-7, and it's been less than 1 for the last 8 years. Strangely, I felt absolutely no difference between a tsh of 5 and 1. Also, basal temperature has remained at 97.0. It really doesn't interfere with my life, and I don't think about it other than to take and…

I'm wishing I were ready to delete. I suspect that the self loathing that I was sometimes satiating with food is now being played out via tortuous online date shopping . Yuck.

I'm half jewish/half super white, and people think I'm hispanic, asian, or middle eastern. My best friend in elementary school would ask me if I was chinese about once a month.

As said before, it will get better. Day 6 or 7 I could almost deal with it. I really don't think the stretching at the end is adequate at all, and I extended it. Seemed to help.

My reaction if someone from a dating site (who believed we were strangers) were texting me to come over to his house would be to run. You know what he wants; if he wanted more he'd bother to take you on a date (or preferably more than one or two dates). Yuck. He's being lazy and already testing to see what he can get away…

Are they really only about a calorie a seed? All of the calculators I've used say between about 4.5 and 6.5. If they were only a calorie each I'd start eating them again.

I'm so sorry. I am in the "this is actually reality and he's gone, but it's still unbelievable" state. You aren't the only one. Lots of love to you.

So true! Twizzlers Cookies sunflower seeds

I've used a stronger percentage for years. Love it. It's the only thing that keeps my skin from being a complete disaster (and I've tried everything). It will definitely take some adjustment time- maybe a month, but it's worth it. The improvement in texture is really significant (although I always peel a little during the…

Not sure I'd want to cut myself off this way if I really needed a job. I have a half sleeve tattoo, but I absolutely made sure my interview clothes did not show it. It hasn't compromised me at all; it got me in the door. I'd estimate that 30% of the people I work with have large tattoos, and it's fine to show them, but I…

Agree. Unfortunately, hiring managers don't have the luxury of getting to know the "real you" and part of their job is to pick up on every tiny clue possible. Conservative appearance at a job interview is a relative societal norm, and if one doesn't show they can easily follow those norms (even around miniscule things) it…

Evenings after my kiddo is in bed are sooo hard. I look forward to my quiet time all day, but don't know what to do with myself when it comes, so I eat. Ugh!

Wow- I love to see the mommy body change (I sort of thought I was hopeless at one point). I'm inspired!