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This. Or buy some nice belts. Loose pant waist is a problem for me, too- but I think it's a fairly small problem to have.

I like this question because I really can't answer it. I've probably been in love twice, both ideal at the time, both with qualities that I'd look for now, but completely opposite of each other, so I 'm not sure I can define ideal because neither of these people appeared in any way ideal to me at first. One of them is a…

Aww,second the congratulations! I loved voting for the first time- the old lady running the line announced it to everyone and they all cheered for me. Voted 3rd party for a socialist (a woman) back then because of youthful idealism : )

Don't know if i can vote in favor of this idea. The few symphonic male musicians I've known have been at least as complaint prone or difficult as some of the dummies in regular bands I dated when I was young. Maybe "manners and breeding" were different, but I'd say they'd all potentially be demanding and entitled as…

Thanks for explaining. I'm always curious about how closely related fate thinking and religious faith are, and whether you were coming from a religious perspective. No judgement- just have a very different perspective.

I really don't believe in any kind of destiny and can't pinpoint any related trauma for this thinking. Wondering why you think it's connected to trauma or tragedy? (Not trying to put you on the spot- just wondering)

I avoid men who work do lower tier social work, case manage kids, juvenile parole/probation. I come into to contact with these guys a lot, and almost without fail they are personal space invaders and completely sleazy. Have had some bad experiences with being talked down to by science/math industry guys, but still try to…

High fiving both of these things. The first because sometimes a person just has to (I'm heading this direction with an ex- feeling unmotivated to date). The second because dogs are just the best things ever. Congratulations! I spent part of the weekend hoping my dog wouldn't die because of all of the candy wrapper foil she…

There are so many ways to look at this type of thing. Depression, anxiety, more serious mental health issues, fears rooted in past experiences (abandonment), poor boundary definitions, issues around control or lack of, soo many possibilities. Regardless, it feels bad, and kind of desperate (for something that isn't even…

Agree with everything above, and will add that a complete lack of challenge is boring. I definitely need to know that someone is interested before I put in any effort, but I like thinking that I need to step things up and flirt etc.

Ha- I'm at lunch creating a bingo game right now. You've sent him a total of three messages and he's expecting texts throughout the day?! Run.

How exciting, but yes, with potential problems. I'd go out with him simply so you can figure out what his real situation is without having to assume. Then- make your decision. I went out with someone over the summer who was probably 40-50 lbs. overweight, but was super appealing, regardless. I asked him out because I…

I heart Prudence, too! I definitely think this happens. While my example doesn't involve actual dating, or even meeting- still relevant, maybe. Before I shut down my dating profile I started talking to someone who appeared to be my definition of awesome- South American writing professor who played lots of soccer, single…

I think I'm also on board here. I appreciate certain levels of emotional validation and connection, and whether or not that's considered to be high maintenance depends on the other person. I have a male friend I'm hanging out with a lot lately, and he probably thinks I'm a little high maintenance in this regard because he…

I met my 3 yr old doppelganger while trick or treating (we were both snow white). She was initially speechless, and just walked toward me with her mouth open- pointing. Finally she said "You are ME!!!!" My daughter thought this was the most hilarious thing she had ever seen.

Lol- point taken. My optimism tries to cancel out the reality of suckiness.

Early 90's- was probably 14. Went a few times dressed as Magenta, but it always conflicted with going dancing or punk rock shows. Watched it again recently on the couch with a friend, and it is exponentially both better and worse than I remember.

I think the point about getting creative with what you have is important here. A cheap first date involving a walk somewhere nice, coffee/frozen yogurt/ free museum I'd be down for, but a restaurant that someone needs a coupon to afford- not so down for. Being creative involves thought and lets someone know you value their…

I wish this weren't the case because I'm all about men who are financially responsible, but this would be a no go for me in the early stages. First impressions and appearances are important and this sends the wrong message (especially because I'm most comfortable in casual/ethnic restaurants on the first date- which isn't…

I'm not online for a number of reasons, but this definitely describes one. This sucks, but I ignored a message from a guy who was 5'5 (my height) for no reason other than height and I really don't have a height criteria in real life (currently crush on a guy who is shorter than I am). I got sucked into the simulacrum.…

Did it over the summer with 2 rest days a week. Results were quick, but Jillian Michaels is a condescending B, so I had zero desire to do any of her other stuff.

Agree with the mental health professional here. I had a break-up for similar reasons at your age. He had a fast onset, and it was devastating. Zero contact was hard after 3 years, but was absolutely for the best.

Single mom of 7 yr old girl. Have her basically full-time, so finding time to exercise can be tough, but am really trying to get it into gear right now. Open to all single mom friend requests- add me if you'd like : )

I'd agree that the 12 steps could probably help with smoking, but have to disagree with the idea that the physical piece to addiction is bull****. I've watched a family member detox twice from narcotic painkillers. The second time required a pretty intense med. intervention. He says it was comparable to quitting nicotine,…

Well, I think you fulfill my stereotype for cultured smartie pants British young lady. Companion to the 93 yr old puts it over the top. I do educational disability evals for children (learning,emotional, autism) coach teachers on how to work with them, and teach a small group reading intervention (8th grade who read at K-1…

This is what must have gone through my dad's head when he saw me reading it in high school. He's on the other end of the spectrum (I'd probably guess close to Chomsky style socialist libertarian). I read about 1/2, and learned what I needed to- but yeah, a phase people have to orient themselves.

I think you already know this, but don't compare this guy's texting habits to a "young one" for obvious reasons. A "young one" taught me all about text oversharing a few years ago. Yuck. I dated someone in the vein of your marine. He'd text me a short sentence and then ask me what was wrong or assume something was wrong…

I'm all about this character list, Esp. copping to the bro-crush- everybody has these! I would add Spike from Buffy and Peter Murphy (who Spike reminds me of). And a lady-crush on Rashida Jones. Real life crush on unavailable co-worker who I should have gone out with when he asked a year ago : (

Denver- La Casita (awesome tamales) Brussels National- Nicest staff ever Do not like- Toronto (despite nice people) hate taking the shuttle between terminals

Excellent list; the above two were the most important when I experimented with online dating. As far as sharing phone numbers, I wasn't interested in texting or talking on the phone pre-date, but I always asked for their # and offered mine in case anything came up at the last minute. It ended up being nice because almost…