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Short but sweet haha. Thanks, that actually made a lot of sense ;)

Nice to hear from another ex-pat! Thanks for the suggestions. I know I need to do those things, I think I just let myself get a little overwhelmed at times. It is a wonderful opportunity and I am very grateful for it. It's learning how to handle the more complicated mental side of it all whilst settling in :) You're right…

Hey, I agree and sometimes it helps to get a reality check on your situation. I feel like it's silly to get down like this too which is why I was asking for others experience. It helps snap you out of being so absorbed, or so I feel. You weren't being harsh, don't worry. I appreciate the honesty :)

Yes! I do need to snap myself out of it and get out of my own head sometimes. I'm glad you were able to find your way with time to yourself and I need to do the same. Some days get to me more than others and you're right, I will thank myself later for getting out there :) Take care

[/quote] I mean this in the nicest possible way: This doesn't sound very healthy to me. I understand missing him and feeling lonely at times since he isn't around but you seem a bit too focused on him. From the snippets posted above it sounds to me like the beginnings of codependency. Maybe do some research about…

Thanks! That is good advice and it's nice to know someone else is in a similar position, although not military. Right now I am trying to get used to being alone half the week when I know it will soon turn into 4 or 6 week stretches. I think maybe I am thinking about the future trips away too much and getting anxious about…

Hey, Thanks for your reply. Sounds as though your situation has been a little tough. I'm glad you have been able to fill your time and feel busy and better about everything! That is nice to hear :) Having a full time job like that surely takes up time and it's good to have something to focus on out of the house. Good luck…

Hey, I knew he worked away but I moved here when he was having a very busy period and so I think it came as a little shock to me! I have actually found a voluntary animal charity that I would like to start going to on my days off. I agree working for something like that takes your mind of your own situation. Thanks :)

I am certainly trying to give myself daily structure like you mentioned and it does help. I'm just starting to learn Italian so that is exciting. I teach English part time and am trying to increase my hours :)

I will try that again! Just getting used to using these forums and the posts :) Thanks for the suggestion, it's very useful actually to have that perspective on the situation and to be more aware I think will help me :)

Hey :) I had a look at 'culture shock' and it's an interesting read. I am definately taking note of it, thanks for the suggestion! :)

I'm in on this! Perfect timing :)