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I just looked it up actually...I had to put it in perspective for people who have never seen him. What is so wrong with wanting my husband to be in a healthy weight category...geeesh Overweight is no better!

because we ate the same things! I just ate much less! I didn't tell him that the 2 burgers he ate were 300 calories each, plus hotdog, plus buns, plus coleslaw, plus chips, plus condiments etc. It's when I do tell him this gently that I am the food nazi. I can't win.

...he's 5'5 and could lose 20lbs. He is 180lbs BMI of 30, so ya, obese.

Thank you for all your replies. At my heaviest I was 145lbs post baby and stayed that weight for 2 years after our daughter was born. Now I am 127lbs. I worked damn hard to get to where I am and I love being healthy. I just want to share that with my spouse. I believe that there is a definite weight limit that your spouse…

Thanks for the reply. Honestly though, he works out for 3 days and loses 4lbs! He has no problem losing it, he just has no desire to workout or eat right. He ate 1100 calories in one supper last week alone.

I believe that relationships are give and take. There are many things that I do for my spouse because he has expressed they are his needs and wants, in this life and our marriage. I expressed mine. Is that so wrong?

My concern is that he will get back to 210lbs. You guys are taking the 10lbs out of proportion. It is his LAST 10lbs. It's the 30+lbs that I am not wanting back in our life because of his eating habits.

Only 10lbs and I would feel better. I am not asking for a six pack. He is stalky and has a solid build but carries all his weight in his belly. He could lose 20lbs total but I would just like the belly diminished...it ages him greatly...he just turned 40 and I am 28. We have been together for 7 years and the more years go…