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Hmm, so you've lost no weight at all in 5 months? That is problematic for sure...are you sure you are doing everything accurately (logging, weighing, measuring, HRM etc?)? If so, maybe a checkup to rule out a medical issue?

No offense, but I would be annoyed too, even though I count strictly no one wants to hear that. Even if you were talking about the calories in the carrots I was eating...if someone is concerned, they will know about the calorie counts. If they aren't concerned they don't need to know, so you don't need to mention it, it…

Excellent point. Puffy ones are an abomination.

NO absolutely not! I hate people like that so I keep my mouth shut. No one wants to be preached to - if someone asks for advice or what I'm doing, I tell them. Beyond that, I only talk about weight/diet/fitness stuff here on MFP.

You need to eat your exercise calories every day.

Absolutely agree. My cousin worked at VS when she was in college and she said she was never taught to fit/measure bras, but did it all the time and just guessed. Also, VS vanity sizes. I don't know where you are seeing size "34" sports bras - all of the decent ones I've seen have a cup measurement too. I used to be a 36G…

Cut off a limb, done!

Ok so this thread & demoralization are pointless, I can fluctuate like 5lbs in a day...not sure why people get so frustrated when they weigh after eating - that food has not digested yet, the water you drank is still sitting there, etc. Of course your weight is going to be higher, you wouldn't be human if it wasn't! You…

Seems to be goin around :P. I'll throw you a bone - the ink/arms are sexy!

That mohawk!

I'm confused about this...so you've lost 5lbs this month, but gained back 2 this week for a net loss of 3lbs? Or....? And how are you figuring this 2lb "gain", did you weigh at the same time, without clothes, etc?

QFT. There should be a banner at the top of the site saying this!!

Maybe you're lost because you aren't reading what I'm saying or are making assumptions that are incorrect...If you know the update was after the original post, why did you say you didn't see the reason for my post? I cannot predict the future - at the time I made the original post, I did not know he was going to say these…

I'm 5'4", 176.6lbs right now, 12 or 14 bottoms (been leaning towards 12 recently!), L tops (occasionally a M)

What helps you lose weight is creating a calorie deficit - whether that means you eat green smoothies or pizza. That being said, I make them sometimes with a ton of spinach, water, frozen pineapple/mango, and half a banana.

Yes, because I use the MFP method so my calorie goal is net calories.

I have a Polar FT4 HRM and I love it! Scale - I have a $30 one from Target, not sure what the brand is but it looks nice (glass on a metal base) and seems to work well :)

Anna, thank you, I'm glad someone understands! I am going to talk to him about it clearly, one time - not trying to change or control him, but I think its important that people set out their relationship expectations up front. If he says he is just not like that/can't do that/doesn't want to communicate, I will move on…

I toooooootally disagree! Hips thighs and booty are part of being a woman, why would showing that shape be a bad thing. I have no hips whatsoever and skinnies look awful on me, I don't want to look straight up & down! I would kill for some hips so pear shaped ladies rock on with your skinnies!

Sigh. Again...he said the bottom line was that he liked me and that I don't need to overanalyze or overthink things, he is a direct person and if he didn't want to pursue something serious with me we wouldn't be hanging out, he would tell me if he wasn't interested, and that I need to trust him on that. So there it is. So…

I'm not getting upset, I'm concerned about the future and how this is going to progress - yes, you are right, he is a nice guy, he is doing good things. But I don't know how we can build anything without regular communication. I'm used to guys wanting to keep in constant contact - as annoying as that is someimes, I get to…

You're right, there is no need for personal attacks, thats how your statement came off. And you are welcome to have whatever impression you want but you might want to understand the issue first. I never said I need him to call and check in to assure me that he still wants me - perhaps thats what you want so you're reading…

LOL for wanting a guy to talk to me between dates? Seriously? Its called having standards, look into it.

Ok got it, I think the intimacy and depth of our conversations, as well as frequency of our dates (ex - twice this weekend) has been increasing so I see what you're saying and it has been happening. As I've said several times, I'm not ready for the exclusiveness talk so I don't see why he should be either - doesn't mean I…

Uhh, I don't text him, ever (I have maybe twice, only to confirm plans. never just random chit chat) - is that too damn much for you? Not trying to sound mean, you're hilarious. Maybe you should stop projecting your issues onto me.

Kimad - I expect him to treat my like he is pursuing a relationship, something he does in every other way except this aspect. I really don't understand this, so you're saying that the communication is fine for now, but tomorrow if we decide we are going to be in a relationship he will have to start calling me every day,…

We can agree to disagree on that then, I don't think it magically turns from casual dating to relationship overnight - either you are dating just for fun, or you are dating with the intention of it turning into a relationship...the latter makes it more serious and you should be pursuing it as a relationship. He has been…

Sorry to break this to you buy korma is very high cal! The gravy is made of nuts and cream - heavenly deliciousness but lets put it this way, I'm Indian and haven't had it since I started this journey in January lol. Tikka masala also has lots of cream in the gravy. You can keep it really low cal with tandoori items…

You are right to not say relationship, because it is not a relationship as I said in the OP, and *I* am also not identifying it as such (it isn't all up to him!). But I completely disagree with the rest, we are dating to see if we want to pursue this further, so him now "owing" me anything doesn't really make sense. The…

Don't worry about it, you've done great so far, just remember tomorrow is a new day! I often fall off the wagon on weekends - it's tough being social and keeping up with this, but instead of just giving up then, I start over the next day. This is a lifestyle so there are going to be times when you can't stick to your…