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Agree! @newport3158 - this is fantastic advice! Thank you for sharing. For me another thing I do is when those cravings for trigger foods come in, I don't give in but I don't restrict 100%. My therapist has been working with me on avoiding restriction as it will lead to bingeing. So if I am craving a whopper for some…

COMPLETELY agree here - one thing at a time - small adjustments until that adjustment seems normal - then add another one - then another - they will build. When you feel stable enough try adding exercise in 2 a week - then maybe you can do 3x - if not, so what - give yourself credit every day for what you do and don't beat…

Thank you - the fact that it is nice enough to be outside finally does help alot. I have a bunch of 30 min exercise tapes, its just hard to get up. The sun is up earlier so maybe I can do it. I appreciate the encouragement.

I actually have taken to listening to podcasts. Funny ones. If I can distract myself and laugh then I drive write past dunkin and never even think about it.

I loved this program! Autumns workouts are awesome - stay with those consistently and your body totally changes.

I keep fantasizing about a binge and I know it is emotional. I feel so lost and alone right now and I would love to have some company (food). Getting through a stomach flu the last few days I really had to face why I missed food so much - it is guaranteed happiness to me. I don't have anything else in my life that makes me…

Try to separate yourself from the food. Serve yourself your dinner, a portion within your range (don't obsess about this piece though - just come close) and then leave the kitchen. Eat slowly and mindfully and pay attention to how you feel. Take deep breaths and just be present - eating is only running away. You are strong…

I couldn't agree more! Beating up on ourselves brings more negativity which just invites the binge. We have to break the cycle!

It has already helped me this week just knowing I'm not the only one who obsesses about food! Day 4 binge free :)

Just take it one day at a time - a binge day doesn't have to mean a binge week - the next morning is a new day and we'll all be here, fighting the same fight. Beating up on yourself will add fuel to the fire and make the binge harder to resist. The hardest part for me is learning to forgive myself - to let go of that "bad…

YES! Now I get what you were saying! Yes, eat ALL the chips so that they aren't there tomorrow to binge on because it is always going to be better - tomorrow... and the cycle continues. Totally relate!

You are taking a good first step by being here and reaching out, so good for you! There seems to be several of us that are in some sort of counseling or going to OEA or both. Either way I would recommend you continue to reach out for support in whichever way feels most comfortable for you. In the meantime, we are here too…

Wow do I relate to this - I would snitch stuff out of the fridge and try to chew and swallow it before my husband came back in the kitchen - or eat leftover food off my kids plates while cleaning up the kitchen - then the going out, fatty/salty - BINGO! I lost 30 lbs over 2 years and put 40 lbs on in the last 5 months.…

YES! :)

what an amazing and brave post - i am so proud of you for writing this - that you have the strength to share this proves you have the strength to beat this! I can tell you're awesome and i can tell you've got this!! :wink:

I hear you on the drive thru hell - i made the mistake a few weeks ago of going home a different way and discovered MORE that way! ugh.. I try to distract myself so I forget- I've been listening to podcasts - specifically storytelling ones - that are so hysterical or intriguing that I sometimes don't even notice that I am…

@jessvolpe I want you to read this. Hopefully this shows up in your notifications somehow...

OK - don't laugh - but my trigger is going home - so what do I do? not? lol Its really a stress factor and that there is just so much at home and i escape with the food - so stress management i guess? Not really sure how to do that. My schedule allows for so little time for myself its very challenging.

First - thank you to all that have posted - this has been so helpful to me in understanding how to reason with all of this and how to set attainable goals. I guess I didn't realize how long this was really going to take and that setting that 2lb/week goal was what was making that 1200 so low. I agree going with 1 lb/wk…

@Hearts_2015;31913605 I am on the same schedule as you - Day 3! and I totally feel you about the going out to eat - that is my weakness - at the end of the day I am so spent that the thought of going home and cooking or even waiting for my husband to cook is agonizing - I just want to eat, so restaurants loom like a…

I have absolutely been in tears before trying not to eat the things I want to - i get angry that I can't have them and then feel like I'm being punished for all the awful things i've eaten my whole life so im supposed to suffer and cry. Its a horrible, horrible cycle and feeling - lately I think I've hit bottom, but that…

I am 38 (for a little while longer), 5'4" and 192 lbs. At the end of last summer I was 153 and then I binged all winter (don't do well with NE winters). So I have around 40 lbs to lose - in truth I'd rather be in the 140s but I'm afraid I may never see that number again so am trying to be more reasonable and aim for 155. I…

I will try iifym and/or scoobysworkshop - but before I do and confuse myself more - what is the difference?

Fair question - I have no idea how I "decided" that - I am pretty easily influenced right now and am just trying to collect data. 1200 cals a day feels like a guaranteed failure to me so I was relieved to find something that said different. That is as honest as I can get.

OK - so if I play with MFP and tell it to auto calculate my calorie target setting my goal to no weight loss and no exercise and sedentary - it puts my goal at 1,940 cals. If I do the same on the calculator - only log sleep time and the rest i'm just sitting - it puts my BMR at 1589 and my TDEE at 2,220. Is this the fair…

So the way that I did MFP was sedentary with zero exercise because, unfortunately, that is just where I'm at right now. I said I wanted to lose 2 lbs/week. It said 1200 calories. Sedentary for me is - I spend a MIN of 2 hours in the car commuting, then spend 7+ hours at my desk. I sleep maybe 7 hours and the rest of the…

but there ARE monsters in my wardrobe! ;0)

PS - I'm still relatively new - so please add me if you want - i like friends :)

Wow - thanks for all the feedback guys! (This is exactly why I need to stay active on MFP) So i didn't have any calories left - was actually over for the day. It being my first day back at this I wasn't upset about that but I am trying to shrink my stomach so I don't eat so much. With the binges I've done I know my hunger…