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Guys, let's not forget this is REALITY TV....and often VERY scripted and edited for our entertainment. Don't assume what you see is how it happended. I found her to be not very credible -- seemed to be a bad actor at times, crying without tears or snot -- sorry, but a clear sign of deceptive drama. Ask anyone in law…

I eat most or all of the exercise calories back -- following MFP (not other methods that are calculated differently). My weight loss and fitness and have been consistently improving since January, so I don't intend to change the approach. I get hungry and so I eat because my body is telling me it needs fuel. Just be…

Maybe you just don't like salad that much! Or put some chicken breast on it so you will feel more satisfied. If you try to force yourself to eat things you are supposed to like, you will feel deprived and not stay on track. Find healthy and satisfying foods you love. Be sure to exercise several times per week -- then you…

Um....NO....and No.

At your age you should not have a problem. Sometimes initially the skin seems loose in spots, but it does adjust. Imagine the health challenges you would face if you continue to carry your current weigth or gain over the years, which is typical. You will love the new confidence you feel as your weight and fitness improve…

I eat them back and that's been working well for me for several months. If you work out hard, you should be hungy enough to eat the calories. Be sure to do a reality check on the calorie burn, but if you feel it's accurate, enjoy. Deprivation and hunger are not good, not sustainable.

I think many of us are competitive at some inner level. We feel superior over others who struggle with weight or carry more weight than we do. When we see those others succeeding at weight loss, oh no...now there is a self-esteem issue. And yes, people feel uncomfortable when someone nearby is able to achieve goals they…

Welcome back -- it's a life long process of working at good health, so don't beat yourself up about it. I don't like the gym either, so I encourage you to find exercise that you love and maybe even look forward to each day. I get outside as much as I can for walking, running, and biking. When I can't, I am inside doing…

You can do quite a bit at home with free weights, push ups (modify if need), an exercise ball, etc. However, if someone's job at the gym is to help people, then ask for the help. Ignore the attitude and just be polite and appreciative. It won't take you more than a session or two to figure it out and you'll be a on your…

Exercise....you don't have to do anything extereme, but you need to get some cardio and strength training in several days per week. It's not just about weight loss -- it's about HEALTH. Start with brisk walking, 30 minutes minimum. Put some music on (iPOD) and enjoy the fresh air and the natural high and empowerment that…

I have capri style running pants that have a cell phone pocket at the waistline. I put my cell and house key in there. It's snug (spandex material), so it's never fallen out. There is a layer of fabric between me and the phone, so sweat/moisture isn't a problem. The pants are made by Champion (I buy them online).

An average 2-year old and an average human brain!

I think after you politely turn something down once, or twice, if people push and persist, just don't respond at all. Don't engage in having to explain to other people. Change the subject, get up and do something else, clear some dishes, get some coffee. I also don't think others should hear or see you spending a lot of…

There are so many confident, attractive, independent older women who are single, and they want uncomplicated sex with a guy that treasures them -- physically and otherwise. Many younger men are thrilled to have the opportunity to be with a woman who isn't shy about her body, is experimental and confident in the bedroom,…

Does your employer offer an Employee Assistance Program? It may include a few free counseling sessions. If you belong to a church, you might inquire about counseling or look at the community center for support groups that work for you. There are thousands of self-help books too that can help with whatever your internal…

She's definitely got issues, so be compassionate as best you can and move on. Get counseling to work through your issues. You can lose weight and still be a fat person inside...forever, until you deal with your issues. Suggestion also...as long as you say "she left me" you will not only sound like a victim, but BE a…

Spend some time in the emergency room and watch who comes and goes. I was there with a friend recently and it was clear the bulk of the people there were overweight or smokers, or both. Go to a local mall and watch people -- see how people move, and see how others, not all that old, struggle to move their bodies or walk. I…

Rest is so important or you will lose your mind in those early days. Use that stroller I am sure you have and walk -- good for you and baby (bundle up). Don't expect too much too soon. Caring for baby is most important in early weeks and weight loss is secondary (But eat healthy). I have two sons, now age 11 and 20, so I…

Eat well, but lightly during the day and do a double workout. Then don't overdo it at the buffet -- sample, but take very small portions only of things you really want, not all that is available. It's just food, and really is not more important than your healthy goals.

Take a hard look at what was going on -- why did you eat? Something emotional was going on. As others said, we've all been there and eating can be both comfort and punishment when we are not feeling good about our lives or ourselves. Be sure not to let others derail you from your goal. Get angry or hurt, that's fine, but…

I log my wine, and I have a glass of wine a few nights per week. I work out most days and in a sense I "earn" the wine calories. However, if I have more than a glass or two, it's clear I won't have enough calories for a reasonable amount food, which isn't good from a nutritional and hunger standpoint. MFP system holds me…

You have made incredible progess and should celebrate the milestones. Getting new clothes, even just one item now and then, can be part of that. Pardon my bluntness....Your sister does not sabotage you -- you let her sabotage you. You've made too much progess to let someone's comments derail you. I used to let my mother…

That's excellent progress! Any more than that and I think it could be concerning -- too fast, won't stay off, etc. I'm surprised you are not seeing or feeling changes though. If you are working out several days per week, both cardio and strength training, you will notice changes and your clothes will get loose as you firm…

I would eat the usual breakfast at home and at the restaurant, just have coffee. The fruit is a great idea too. It's not a big deal if people inquire -- "Oh, I eat breakfast early, so I am just going to have some coffee and fruit." Good luck.

I have to say I loved to see this community provide such positive support. It's really amazing. MFP is so much more than how we look or what size we are -- we are talking about our health. We cannot give up on that. Good luck to all of you.

Well, I am an early riser, so I wake up at 5 AM (usually before my alarm) and sip coffee, read email, watch morning news, etc. before I get going. I have Quaker Oatmeal (with splenda). By 6 or 6:30 I get changed to go for a run and by then the coffee and light breakfast are not a problem. I only have time to run about 30…

Sugar snap peas, Safeway parmesean breadsticks, fuji apples with peanut butter, pickles, air popcorn, almonds, dry cereal such as Crunchy Corn Bran or Cheerios, red wine...oops...I like that one, but that may not be what you meant!

You may have a stress fracture in your foot. I had one once and I needed to do non impact stuff for a while to let it heal (stationary bike, swimming, etc.). I had been running on the street, and it's just too hard, and there is usually a crown in the road, so it's always a slight slant which strains the foot. I have since…

Yes, cranberry juice, and yogurt (not at the same time). Yogurt twice a day can really help UTI or vaginal yeast infection if it's not too bad yet.

I hope it's been stored carefully!