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Sweet :) But most grown people don't cause a ruckus in public. O.o haha good line from Breakfast Club though :D

Did she ever live on her own before marrying you? You have been together since she was 20...that's young.

And this is my "whirlwind pickup" lol! :D However, if my husband threatened to take anything away from me so I'd be a better "little woman", I'd be done with that. I lived with a man (older daughter's father) who worked and I stayed home. I felt like a child. I got an "allowance". I was told what to do and how to do it.…

Not that this has anything to do with the OP....but....if it took 2 years to "train" her, she wasn't ready. There really shouldn't be any training for a child with the bathroom. The body should be ready (to hold urine/poop) and the mind should be ready. My mindset was that they weren't going to go to college in diapers.…

Yea. I'd probably just start saying no.

OP, I completely see it. I was having similar issues. I work, husband works. He has Sundays off and a random weekday off (he's a mechanic). He works Saturdays which means I'm with kids all day and I clean. Sunday is "family day" so I really don't like to go off on my own for my own time. On his days off, I'd come home to a…

And even then, all bodies are different. If the kid isn't ready, she'll have tons of "accidents" which aren't accidents at all. Her body just can't hold it. Wait until they are ready. That can be at 2 years-3 years of age. I taught preschool many years. Some kids were potty trained early on. I did most of the potty…

Wow. No. Potty training at 11 months is a no. And disposable diapers have too many chemicals for many people. They gave my daughter chemical burns on her labia. It was horrible. Plus, it's cheaper. Them using cloth diapers isn't the problem. My friend had 4 in diapers and they were all cloth and it worked. His wife just…

:) Everyone has a different set of reference for their opinions.

Ah. got it. She doesn't rinse out the diapers?! Ya'll got the toilet sprayer, right? And the bucket of ammonia? Dang. She really is not pulling her weight. Have you talked to her before? If so, what did she say? And if your job has mandatory meetings during lunch, that's a labor law infraction. Ya.

I don't think hitting his wife would help. O.o

"What it means to be a woman"? lolll I think that is "what it means to be HUMAN". Even animals don't sleep where they poop unless they are sick. His wife is lazy, yes, but it's not because she doesn't know how to be a woman. It's because she doesn't understand the role she signed up for. She's 24. I don't know many people…

Nothing needs to be done daily. Maybe trash and diaper take out, but that's it. She should be doing more. You get an hour lunch, she should too. The other nap hours should be household work.

The child is still nursed so probably doesn't sleep through the night. However, OP says he gets up with the baby (mom pumps) so that's still a moot point. I don't think it has anything to do with the baby at all. I think there are deeper issues.

This whole thread makes me want to move somewhere in the countryside and just "be". Get simple jobs...pay the bills...but ENJOY the family completely. :D Working our butts off for nothing.

Yea. I didn't have a swing. I had a sling and a jumper. She liked the jumper. But I'd never let my kid sit for hours doing anything while I cleaned. It was a hit it and quit it type of cleaning. lol. Put her in the jumper near the bathroom door---- scrub the bathroom down! Put her on a blanket near the kitchen, scrub down…

It is mindnumbing with an infant. But neither of my girls would be entertained for hours with a spoon hahaha!

Yea. we have some vacations planned but til then...oye I miss my class. I miss my time away from "Mommy can I" "Mommy will you" "mommy mommy mommy". I try to enjoy it because I know it won't last...but my oldest is 14 and I like her more at this age than any other age. My children are not 9 years apart by accident. OP, do…

OP, I see you are on a fitness site....taking care of your body, etc. Is she? The first 2 years after a baby is murder on a woman's body...I nursed for a year and my stretchmarks were nasty. I went from 120 before pregnancy to 150 after baby. Oh lord. lol. I was young and wasn't used to all the extra cushion. Maybe she's…

At the moment, I'm a SAHM...well, it's summer and as a teacher, I'm off (yet a paycheck still comes). It's horrible. lol. I mean..wow. I don't know how women do it. Kudos to you all. I'm so bored, I could eat my children.

Ok. I'm going to get a bit...crunchy. This woman (who is only 24), is your wife whom you love. You work 10-12 hours a day (my husband did 12 hour days...they are brutal), and she cares for the baby 10-12 hours a day alone. She won't do housework and expects it from you. She could be unhappy but says she isn't. She…

Oh I understand. I am just saying that the wife could be lying to him. She thinks she's supposed to be happy. And she is...but not how she thought she would be. All speculation, of course.

I love my job as a teacher. I'd not give it up. I was happy to go back to work once my child started daycare.

Does your wife know the household budget? Does she see what you do all day? I ask because in her mind, perhaps you just disappear for 12 hours and then come home. Like you've been on vacation all day. Do you include her with bill paying? Is it real to her? Did she clean before you had a child? I notice many young people…

Saturday morning was our day to do bigger cleaning. It worked.

I was 22 with my first baby. I had horrible PPD. I lied my face off about being happy because I was supposed to be happy! Our society makes motherhood into this magical thing and sometimes it's just not. I felt guilty for feeling the way I did and so I lied....smiles and lies. It was exhausting. In reality, I probably…

I wish I could talk to her. lol. I would teach her about the whirlwind pick up/cleaning that my girlfriends and I did when our children were young. You can clean all dang day but with kids around, it looks a mess...so we'd start about 45 minutes before husbands got home. House would look fine. Dinner would be simmering.…

You guys are still in a young relationship. It can be rough. I think it was around year 3 that I realized love doesn't overcome "all". You are almost 30, but she is 24. Our brains are not even fully developed until about age 25. http://www.bbc.com/news/magazine-24173194 (there's tons of research on this as well). I was a…

It's just their reflection of themselves. You losing weight makes them uncomfortable because they think they should lose weight too. Do what you do :)

Omg. Marriage and children haven't been a retirement. I dream of my retirement! LOL 14 years to go :D Marriage has been one of the most difficult things I've ever done. I'd not do it again. Children are easy though...past age 2 ;)