csmullins78 Member

I think it's wonderful that your husband wants to take you out on dates and vacations. Sounds like you've got a man who really enjoys your company. I've lost 50 pounds (actually 100 if you go from my highest) and I still have 50 pounds to lose, so we may have similar caloric and dietary needs. I know this is going to sound…

I used to do all the passive aggressive nonsense because I didn't like confrontation, and I probably felt like I wasn't worth being treated right. Now, I'm completely open and honest with everything. BF tells me yesterday that he wants to do something that I am not OK with, I tell him that if he does this, it will really…

This time last year, I had a very hard time with some serious depression. Shoot, last Thanksgiving (and the whole weekend) I was a blubbery, crying mess. One of my friends sent me a text with a therapist's name and number and told me to call her TODAY and make an appointment. She had a cancellation and I got in the same…

I always wear heels to work. At my heaviest, I could only wear 2" heels (and I spent a lot of time on my feet). Today, I'm wearing 4" heels in a shoe a half a size smaller. I walk easily in these shoes and they look great with my business suit!

When someone loses weight and makes big changes, people around him/her notice. It sounds like you work in a small office (12 people?) and in those types of environments, people really notice the big changes others make. Having a co-worker say you're a healthy eater may have made you feel uncomfortable because it focused…

Perhaps you're being too sensitive. It was kind of the co-worker who said he would have purchased something dairy-free for you. And, it's doubtful people saw you as a jerk for eating healthy. It might have simply been a compliment.

It was a combination of things, but the main catalyst was a health problem. (Sad but true).

I had a very painful break-up at the end of the summer. I read a good book: "it's called a breakup because it's broken." It was helpful to me and helped me feel somewhat better. My therapist suggested "doing the next best thing" whenever I was missing him. So, I couldn't be with him, but I could take a long walk. I did…

I'm sure we've all heard someone say, "you have to be ready to make the change." To quit smoking, give up alcohol, overcome a drug addiction... all of these require the person to really be ready to change. I always thought that was kind of a stupid saying. I'd say to myself, "I want to lose weight! I'll do the next fad…

confidence, confidence, confidence - always working on it.

Aw, honey, I completely understand. I've been there, and here's what I've learned: self confidence is sexy. Period. I'm also reading this great book on Buddhism and the writer discusses being kind to ourselves and others, and not letting your bad emotions get the best of you. It's called "A Buddhist Walks into a Bar" and…

Our minds are funny things, aren't they? I look at myself in the mirror in a bra and panties and I still look exactly the same way I did 100 pounds ago. Even though I've had to give 75% of my clothes to Goodwill because they were too big, I still don't see the difference. This is where my friends and coworkers are so…

Have you ever noticed that when you've accomplished something, you want to share your success with others? Weight loss surgery is not for everyone, and those who have had it still have to struggle with re-gain after a few years (and some never reach their goal at all). It may seem easy, but it's not. I know quite a few…

Am I a weight loss expert if I've gained and lost over and over again for my entire life? LOL. You know, I've tried everything. I've done weight watchers (was moderately successful until I got pregnant - 9 years ago). I've done Atkins, South Beach, The Zone, Sugar Busters, Eat Right For Your Type, Jenny Craig,…

I LOVE those Tumblr pages! (Public Defender, here)

I know that there is some correlation between stress and weight, but I wouldn't let that be your main focus. Maybe I'm nuts, but I still subscribe to the theory that one just needs to eat fewer calories than one burns in a day and weight loss will happen. 3500 calories = 1 pound. My life can be super stressful. Yoga and…

My law school years were such hectic hell that I still have nightmares. That being said, you probably have some days where you have a break between classes. Of course, studying is probably what you're doing, but a walk will also be productive. Take the kids. To the park on the weekends... Get exercise and play in. The most…

Ok... this hits close to home for me. Why do we feel like rejection somehow means we weren't "good enough" for another person? Maybe it means nothing other than that we weren't right for each other... Or, perhaps it means that the problem is with him! I fall into this same trap. I ask myself, "why wasn't I enough for him?"…

Richmond :)

It's scary how your life changes when you lose weight. So much of your identity is based upon being larger (maybe you're the fun and good-natured friend, life of the party), but when you lose weight, this changes. 5 years ago I dropped 65 pounds (and pretty much maintained it). The changes were scary. All of the sudden, I…

Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. -Eleanor Roosevelt

You may want to consider looking at the site http://www.obesityhelp.com/ for information about the different types of WLS and the life the patients lead post-op.

Me, too! I'd love to have a pair of boots that fit over my calves!