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You don't need to forgive him (unless you want to of course) to let this go. You realise it is hurting you and your kids so concentrate on that as you feel your anger rise and consciously force yourself to relax and let it go. Meditation is pretty cool as well as some stoic philosophy.

Eating out more when in a relationship Increasingly sedentary activities when in a relationship (Netflix & chill...and falling face first into a bowl of ice cream) Generally eating bigger portion sizes (especially for women who match their OH's volume of food) General laziness It's official. Love makes you fat.

No, given my income level. If I was poorer I would simply buy a cheaper alternative.

Nah, I'd imagine the correlation if there is one would be rather weak. As others have said there may be a susceptibility to religion due to poverty and poverty leading to a susceptibility to poor health outcomes.

Look up the Stanford Marshmallow experiment and you'll go some way to understanding why...

You know what caught my eye about that headline? The "people are furious" bit (which is admittedly a bit click baity but still.) This goes back to what a number of posters have said on this thread - most people don't like this crap, don't like actions which are hurtful or lack decency and will call it out when they see it.…

Good. Get on it. Obviously these kind of feelings over the long term are not likely to be beneficial. But as a short term feeling it can prompt action and commitment leading to results. And success begets success.

I don't think it matters unless the person falls into BOBFOC territory. *strokes beard wisely*

Early morning or early evening.

Right. Personally I think it comes down to having some common decency and / or good manners. And most people I think are that way.

All of this.

False dichotomy.

Fair enough. I will call it Kevin instead. I'm sure that will make all the world of difference.

Hahaha! The struggle is real sister and I feel your pain ;) Consider it good training for your mental and emotional resilience which will serve you well for the rest of your life. Other people's words only have the power that you allow them and don't let other people's opinions to knock you off course from the path that is…

I love this debate almost as much as the “McDouble is the cheapest, most nutritious, and bountiful food that has ever existed in human history” debate. If drinking diet drinks doesn't have a knock on effect on causing over eating (for various reasons) then have at it. It will help keep you hydrated if nothing else.

I think you should just grit your teeth and keep with lifting weights. Being bored for a total of an hour a week isn't the worst experience in the world and it is probably the most time efficient method of helping you achieve your goals. Alternatively who can incorporate another form of training which you prefer which…

You should try being from a SE Asian background. One day: Eat, eat, why are you not eating? Eat. Now eat some more. You bring shame on the family. The next day: Ayeeee. Why are you so fat? Fatty fat fat. You bring shame on the family* Personally, I think the humour / eye roll / tune it out / agree with them but keep doing…

Yes, absolutely. One of the things I love most about running and cycling is the chance to be by myself, in nature and with the company of my own thoughts. The rest of the time there is always someone wanting to talk to me, help them with something, get an opinion and so forth so it's a great release valve.

Not that I can see. You are being compassionate and I think that is a fine trait in a person. It comes down to intention with statements or conversations like this in my view. If you intend to be caring then cool. If you intend to be a jerk then you get drop kicked. I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt in such…

Ah, ok. Going back to the point about how the fat acceptance movement has become tainted by radical political ideology I do think that is the heart of the problem with the negative perception of fat acceptance / body positivity. In reality are the vast majority people actually against treating people who happen to be…

I think that's minarchism (as opposed to anarcho-capitalism which favours the elimination of the state entirely in favour of individual sovereignty.)

No, I haven't because it sounds like a waste of money. And I like money. If ACV was such a boon to weight loss and given the sheer number of people who are literally desperate to loss weight would it not stand to reason that ACV companies would be all over the news reporting they are richer than Google? Given they are not…

1. Realised I didn't like them. Used the rest as frisbees.

I wouldn't say that. It is possible to be fat and in good health but it is statistically less likely than being at an appropriate weight and healthy - it's playing the odds. Movements tend to be defined by their leaders and / or loudest voices. The big problem with much "social justice" type activism these days is the…

^^^ That. The biggest determinant of your calorific needs by a long margin is total mass so pick the one you identify with and tweak depending on results over times as necessary. Best of luck.

To be fair, I understand what you are saying and it does seem very annoying. Highly palatable food can also so be highly calorific for little volume making it easier to over consume. I truly admire people who can eat two small squares of chocolate and be satisfied, I truly do. I just look at it and think "Wut, is that it?"

Without meaning to ask the blindingly obvious - how tight are you gripping the bars? Many beginner start out with a death grip because a road bike tends to be a little more skittish than a mountain bike so try relaxing generally and see it that helps. Fit does seem to be a likely issue though.

But that's the bewildering thing, right? Women carry their kids, heavy shopping, handbags which contain everything including the kitchen sink and the Lifting Heavy Police don't suddenly come running up with sirens blazing and say "Ma'am, put...the...shopping...bags...down. Step...away...from...the bags..." However, if a…

A what now?!? I cannot tell you how much this thread has made me laugh. Thank you, OP. Thank you. On a more serious note, I guess the point here is obvious. In the absence of any compelling evidence either way the OP can choose to perceive this incident in any way she chooses, no one else. Therefore perceiving it in a…

Damn right! Next time you see her be gentle. Walk up to her, put your arm around her shoulder and while looking kindly at her say "Sister, I know about your burning pee problem and I want you to know. I'm here for you girl. I'll pray for you." Then go about your business in the gym knowing that you have made a difference…