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Thanks for the support :) I need to clarify that I have't been ashamed to be fat for the last 15 years. It's been a long road to that acceptance. I just wanted to put a spotlight on shaming and how it can undermine anything you try to accomplish. I love myself now, enough to make the changes I need to make. That's where it…

Thanks I'd like that!

That sounds exactly what I am looking for. I have endurance, but I am very very slow.

thanks I'll look into that! Sounds fun. I've bee swimming for 43 years so going to have quite a few bad habits to break lol

I did the mile in 77 minutes today! I ended with 235 laps for the week, 6.7 miles. My goal for next week is 10 miles. Fitness pal says I burned 15,717 calories this week with 759 minutes of swimming, so take 30% off that? Keep in mind I weigh around 400lbs. So that's why my calorie burn is so high

I found out my membership I get a free 1 hour session with a trainer so I will ask them. Thank you to all 3 of you for the encouragement!! I mix my strokes, front crawl, dog paddle, side stroke, back stroke, mostly I do what I call the polar bear crawl. It takes me 90 minutes to swim a mile. I am an inefficient swimmer,…

I swim and this calculator seems ridiculous. It has me burning 1981 calories for 105 minutes of leisure swimming.is there anything more accurate out there?

I prefer the old fashioned oats because they are chewy. I hate instant because it gets all slimy. I prefer cream of wheat to oats though.

Maybe you don't go to the right sort of places to get hit on. When I am going about my daily routine no one ever bothers me. I don't go to bars, but I was my niece's maid of honor and at her bachelorette party I was groped by a stranger at the strip bar we went to and on the street this man followed us and asked me for my…

This made me laugh. This is what all of those hateful comments about too. Just blah blah fat blah. It doesn't matter. My friend was upset because a car load of guys drove by and mooed at me. I told her if that car load of guys ran off into a ravine and all died it would have zero impact on me or my life....so why let their…

I don't know why it always comes as a suprise to me how incredibly cluessless and insenstive people can be. Was she from an older generation? I find older people love to give me dieting tips. Complete strangers in line at the market. They mean well, but it's annoying as well. They usually come up and put their hand on my…

Habits are very hard to break, and especially eating habits. I've made several small changes. I hate drinking water with a passion, but giving up soda means I can use the calories somewhere else. I drink water now or unsweetenened green tea. It's taking me a while to make this conversion. Maybe just start there, or choose…

There was nothing wrong in that post. I think you need to work on your reading comprehension.

This was in the early 80s and it was just people from town in the group. If I remember this lady was 20 lbs overweight, but her family made fun of her so much. She had very poor self-esteem. She thought she was offering good advise. This is how she tried to motivate herself. At the time my weight didn't bother me, but it…

When I was 12 years old my mom put me in a weight loss group called TOPS. My mentor advised me to get a picture of a pig and put my face on it and put that on the fridge. This picture would then remind me when going to the fridge that I was a big fat pig and this would dissuade me from stuffing my fat face. Hate yourself…

I do the same thing I love my filtered pitcher!

lol this is perfect!

The best thing would be to focus on healthy eating choices and exercise and keep up the good work of not commenting on her body. Also, anyone who makes comments on her body I would take them to task for it. I wish I had understood that healthy eating and exercise were important versus the number on a scale. Many times I…

thanks good tips. I like the tip in the comments about pushing a toothpick in the end to see if it's soft yet.

I try this....I gently squeeze them they aren't soft....the next day they're soft and brown and mushy....

Have you ever tried kicking her in the face? :laugh:

In the lunch line in school when I was in 8th grade, a boy was telling me I was a fat cow. I told him to shut up or I would kick him in the face. He said "you're so fat you couldn't life your leg high enough to kick me in the..." before he could finish I had kicked him in the face....I kind of grazed his cheek. My…

When I was a kid I used to go get my grandma's groceries for her and pick up her newspaper. The store would have everyone's paper laid out with their name on them. I brought her groceries in and had forgotten her newspaper. She called the grocery store where my mom worked and told her "That fat and forgetful Diann forgot…

My weakness is pizza rolls. I can eat an entire bag of 16 pizza rolls myself. If I get the bigger bag, I think it's 32 or 36. I eat half for lunch and half for dinner. Soda is also my weakness. Sometimes I can go a week or longer without one. It depends on if I fill up my cup with water for work, or if I am lazy and just…

This is very true. When someone comments about me being fat I used to tell them their nose was ugly....no one likes their nose. Of course now I just ignore them because it's just not important enough to me to hurt someone's feelings just because they're attempting to shame me.

I have a theory that this same car of guys just travels the countryside yelling this. So we've all been yelled at by the same cursed individuals. They have no other purpose in life, but to yell horrible things at people out their windows. It's their curse. I am hoping Supernatural does an episode where Sam and Dean have to…

Every one is different and there are people who pretend they're full and then stuff their faces later. I used to do that when I was younger. "oh this apple is very filling"....thinking "and so is the box of mac and cheese I will eat later"

I'm with Sophia...who cares what men prefer. I prefer my hair up in a bun. I like to be comfortable.

How big was the bag? lulz I get full on carbs very easily. My man makes awesome pancakes. I eat three of his pancakes and I am full almost the rest of the day. If I ate 3 eggs I'd be hungry again in 3 hours.

I am 44 years old and have been fat since puberty. I have a giant laundry list of crap people have said to me over the years, but I don't dwell on it anymore. It caused a nervous breakdown when I was 18. I was in the hospital for about a month. I used to go over and over every cruel thing said to me. The best thing for me…