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For me, it wasn't all about men, but a lot of it was relationship based. For some reason I guess I figured I would lose the weight and it would be a shoe-in to find a great man.... Little did I know this wasn't going to be the case. With the loss in weight the self confidence came, and while attention was uncomfortable…

Thanks everyone for the replies to the OP. I am having one done on December 19 and although I realize the risks involved, I know it will change my life. I got up to 280lbs in 2005 when I was pregnant with twins, and I am now down in the 160's and my stomach is shot. I am taking 2 weeks off work (had to use holidays to get…

I didn't read all the responses. I am on a birth control pill called Seasonelle, it's meant for 3 month cycles but I take it continuous and end up having a period about every 5-6 months. I haven't noticed any weight changes no, not even hormone changes. I do notice sometimes I will get cramping and my discharge changes…

LMAO Agree!!!

I am a single mom of twins and I work full time. I schedule exercise like I schedule everything else. I work out 3 times a week at the same time and I don`t veer from that. It`s like work, I have to go. Kids come with me to the gym, as they have a daycare. I have to adjust some if their sports interfere otherwise, they get…

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I agree, good luck hun!!! I know I probably couldn't do a LD relationship unless it was already well established and short term (work related?). I give you props for even trying. Some of this comments to you lead me to believe he isn't sure it is for him either - ie when he mentions don't pass up potential happiness if you…

As a single mom with a set, structured schedule I totally get. I agree change can be made when we are on board with it, that being said -- change should only take place when you are comfortable with it... you change for YOU not for someone else. Like pa_jorg said, when the guy is right/time is right it will feel normal,…

It's possible he just finds it easier to come over and hang out, or he wants to get in your pants. if you aren't comfortable with him coming over for your 2nd date then say so - if he is a classy guy and he is interested in YOU, he will have no issues respecting your boundaries. If he doesn't, you weeded him out quickly! I…

Me too! I was down 86 and found myself with 10+ on, summer just got way too fun! now I am on a mission to lose this weight before Christmas due to a surgery that depends on it. You can add me if you wish. We did it once, we can do it again.

It is uncomfortable, but it comes as you get more comfortable with your new body and your self esteem/confidence improves. Also with practice with respect to the dating!! Losing weight not only changes your external appearance but you almost have to redefine who you are on in the inside... it's like, for me anyways, that…

It doesn't really come with an instruction manual, you have to find it online!

Not only do the Walmarts here in Canada need liquor stores they need cheaper gas too!!!

Chuck E Cheese as a salad bar, hehe, ok jokes aside. I think it depends on the salad bar becuase not all are created equal. Shannon's place in royal oak sounds neat, something I would try out -- but yes its by COP/end of Country Hills BLVD so very far from you When I eat out I tend to stick to places that have healthy…

I agree that you could approach it and use 'I felt this way' instead of 'you did' My boyfriend of 4.5 months was super distant this past week and although he told me he was super stressed with work and even acknowledged he was being quiet and not talking much it still had a big effect on me. It was the first time I had…

Good job! I have a hard time believing what you weigh :) You look awesome!

Standing up for what you want/need in a relationship or when there is confusion is not needy. It's how you approach it, IMO! I have dated a few guys like this and I realized in the end we just weren't compatible. I dated a guy for 9 months who would pull away HARD atleast once a month, at work the ladies and I used to…

awe, that's great. And you are right, it does take some pressure off!

I need some motivation, fitness related... summer has been so fun and I find myself up 10 lbs... probably booze pounds... it's soooo hard to get back on track!!! So I am open to hear everyone's ideas too!

Agreed 100%

I think Canada is different... but I could be wrong, since I have never tried...

I don't think allowing him to discipline was a mistake on your part, unfortunately he was just polar opposite of your discipline style. It's tough, because they are a role model for your child and at some point have to take a discipline approach too - depending where the relationship is, etc. - but I think you need to have…

Good correction lol, I also don't want more kids so I am seeking a man who doesn't as well :) and oops, I found him :)

While my kids do come first, I realize that I need to take care of me, and I have no issues doing so. Relationships are important to me and that is where the compromise comes in. I am sure my boyfriend feels like my #1, even though I have 2 kids, because I can strike the appropriate balance.

This is a big assumption. That is up to the person themselves, and worth having a talk about upfront.

I really think there is a lot more that comes into play, I don't think it's that simple. I used to think I needed to date a single dad because they understood the challenges, the time constraints, etc. Because I have dated childless men who just didn't get it. but my current boyfriend is kidless and he is fantastic. I know…

I know, screams desperate!

First off I agree with Christine. I think if you slow down a bit, get some firm boundaries in place, realize what's important in a partners etc and finally, trust your gut dating wouldn't be so difficult. Yes you will still meet d-bags or nice men that aren't for you but you can move on quicker with no doubt. Situation is…

Generally I don't feel bad poofing after the first date -- makes it easier if they don't try to contact me! If they contact me, or it's been more than one date I usually just say politely I am not interested.

Also agreed! Should never start out a potential 'relationship' feeling pressured into anything! Like the app idea!