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It probably is whining (no, that's not my internal motivation, LOL). I can either whine out loud and try to figure things out, or whine internally and get nowhere. This is my process for trying to figure out what my internal motivation is. I don't know at this point. That's why I posted this.

Feh... my husband doesn't care if I wear a bikini or not. Even that isn't a motivator. I might try doing a diet bet. I don't have the money to go on a vacation or anything like that. Maybe the fear of losing what little I do have might force me to lose the extra weight. I do some exercise, but it's a chore and nothing…

We are all in this together. Right now I'm playing the role of Eeyore... depressed Debbie Downer. But there's a lot of people here that are ready to offer ideas and suggestions anyway. Part of why I'm depressed about it is because I feel like I've let myself down, like everything that has happened up to this point on my…

I'm already doing bellydancing - been doing it for several years now. I'm not a big fan of Zumba... to me there 's just no point. It's repetitive and the music doesn't do much for me. Yoga is much the same... it's relaxing, I guess, but aside from that I don't get enough enjoyment out of it to pursue it. it's just boring…

You may very well have a point. Aside from the fact that I'm wearing the same size, everything is the same.

Thank you for this. I am at a point in my life where I'm trying to discover who I am but not sure if I'm happy with what I'm finding out. Sadly, I'm 45, not 15. I'm supposed to have all of this figured out by now :( but instead I seem to be regressing. This really resonated with me.

Yeah, that might work. I'm just in a major funk about all of it right now and feel like I'm completely lost at this point.

Thanks for sharing. I did learn to ice skate, along with my husband, but I don't really enjoy it that much. I mostly do it because it pleases him and he wants an activity partner. He wants to go really fast and get the heart pumping, but I prefer to just glide along and take it easy... and then he starts urging me and…

it's people like you that make people like me hate social media :) I don't post anything on it for that reason alone... my life is not interesting enough to share with others. I just lurk... or used to lurk... I have been working on avoiding even doing that lately.

I am waaaaaaay too uncoordinated and big-boned for ballet, LOL. There is a reason why I bellydance and don't pirouette. Unfortunately, ballet has never appealed to me.

Per my original post, I'm not into sports at all. I'm not a sports-oriented or athletically-oriented person. Right now at this point in my life I don't have this intrinsic motivation to reach my goal weight just because it's there. That's why I'm struggling with it :( I am looking for some sort of motivation. I just can't…

I'm glad I'm not the only one... and I almost feel like something of a failure because I see all of these other people that are all like "Get out and climb something! Build that six pack! Make a chart of goals and hit ALL. OF. THE. GOALS. Kill it kill it kill it!!", and that just makes me want to crawl into the fetal…

I picked that weight because I've been that weight in the past and it's well within the normal range. I don't like to think that I'm done at this point, but I'm stuck in this mindset where I can't get myself to move forward... I am really not sure why. That's what I'm struggling with at this point.

I'm on the fence about whether or not I'm happy at this point. Technically I'm still slightly overweight... I'm right on the cusp between normal and overweight. I'm shooting for another 20 lbs because that's what I weighed several years ago. It's a weight that is still within normal/healthy weight and one that I've reached…

I understand... I was in someone of a depressive mood when I wrote my original post so I was reticent to give a whole lot of information about myself and who/what I'm about. I'm still there to an extent, but not as severely. I do walk to different places whenever I can. Unfortunately my work is 30+ miles from my home, and…

Aside from bellydancing, I'm mostly a sedentary person... I like gardening, reading, making stuff, creative writing.

Yeah, maybe that's it. I dunno. I think part of it is that I look around me and see that so many people are so strongly motivated by these super-healthy, super-active things and they seem to want to get in shape or achieve a specific goal to accomplish those things and I just can't relate to it... and part of me wonders if…

I guess I am not good at explaining myself :( I don't enjoy sports. I hate competitivess, against myself or with others. It's great for a lot of other people, but not me. It just gives me a lot of frustration and anxiety. I get the opposite of an adrenaline rush.

But, see, that's the thing... I am looking for something that I can readily implement into my life. If I want to travel, I can do that regardless of my weight. Getting to maybe travel someday doesn't inspire me to lose weight now :( I'm not trying to be argumentative... I'm just frustrated with myself because I don't get…

I'm battling this right now... and to make matters worse I don't get inspired by fitness or activities at all. I have no interest in joining a hiking club, climbing a mountain or taking a fitness or activity class. I am struggling to find something yo keep me going.

I've never had the desire to do any of the things you listed, unfortunately. Even if I did, I don't have the money to travel and I live in a place that gets very little snow. I do bellydance but I was doing that long before I lost weight. For some reason I'm just not motivated by the idea of taking on sports or physical…

smitty328, you look fantastic in that hat :)

I've lost so much motivation lately... things have been really stressful at work and the only thing that seems to calm me down even a little bit is gorging on junk food :( The stress, on top of working late hours, is really taking a toll on my diet and exercise. Looking at all of these beautiful women has the opposite…

I can't tell from this pic, but I'm going to guess that I'm not. I'm not sexier than ANYONE here, so it's a safe bet :)

This guy is so funny - and cute!

I'm assuming you are tracking your food intake here on MFP, correct?

You know, I have tried this a few times, but found that it didn't work for me because: a.) I had to pay for it, so it wasn't really a reward... it was money out of my pocket b.) If I had the money to pay for it, there was nothing stopping me from buying it whether I reached my goal or not. I need someone to buy my rewards…

No, I appreciate the lengthy explanation... I need all the help I can get. Thank you!!

Thanks for your heartfelt reply? So what exactly is a "pro and contra list"? I have a lot to learn from you!!

Am I the only one who thinks she looked better before? More natural and proportioned? I don't get the purpose behind doing this.