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Thank you for your insight. It is nice to know that someone was in my position and worked through it. I appreciate the replies and advice. I appreciate everyone's advice and well wishes. Thank you.

I don't have a lake house. That is my lifelong dream to have a lake house. It is something I save for when I can. Shelling out thousands for a therapist would certainly detract from reaching the lake house goal though. I would love to do it sooner rather than later so my parents can enjoy it while they are still here and…

Absolutely! I would almost prefer it because then we have something big in common and we would truly understand each other's struggles with being overweight since we have both been there. A side note on BMI, though... I don't think it is accurate. Yes I still weigh around 325, but after losing 130 lbs, I switched to…

Thank you. I really mean that. Thank you.

Honestly, I don't know. A lot of the suggestions are great. And a lot of them I have already done. I just feel lost and like there is no hope. I'm probably going to give up on it. I am going to just focus on the gym, my hobbies, my career, my house, travelling, and things like that. My biggest goal is to build a lake house…

All I have mentioned is that I wanted to meet someone special, develop a long term relationshup and eventually get married. Why is it ok for most people to want that exact same thing, but I mention it and it is turned around into all these supposed horrible and unreasonable things I am asking for? This is so damn…

@pamplemousse21 Thank you so much for such a lengthy and well thought out response. I really appreciate all of your advice and insights and you taking the time to write that all to me. Thank you.

At first it was all fun and nice, but then she started to snap at me for anything and everything. We were playing a game of Uno one Saturday night. She asked me to buy it one the way to her place. So I stopped at Walgreens and bought a deck of Uno cards. This deck, though was newer and had new special cards in it that I…

That's the whole point. I am trying to. But one 3 month "relationship" in my 38 years isn't much at all compared to my efforts. It's not like I am passing up on those opportunities. I am just never given a chance. That one was an exception for some reason. It's been a whole hell of a lot of rejection, and this one time…

I can see how you compare me to your friend, except the one night stand thing. I am not into that and am actually a virgin at 38 years old. I agree with #1. But I don't agree with #2 so much. Yes I want a special wedding and something memorable, but it does not have to be the standard. Whoever I am with does not have to…

This translates to me as... despite all your hard work and effort, you are still not good enough for women to want to be with. I most certainly have a choice in who I am or am not willing to be with. I don't want to raise some other guy's kids. I don't want to deal with another guy being involved in my relationship with…

I think I am being misunderstood a bit. I am not saying everything has to be the first time with someone. I am not naive. All I am saying is I want to get married to someone who has not been married before and has no kids. That's it. I have been on many first dates. The longest I was able to date someone was 3 months. This…

I'm not being narrow minded. I just wanted something special. Some girls dream about their wedding day all their life. Well, some guys daydream about that too. I am one of them. I wanted to experience it all together with someone for the first time, not be their second or third choice. It's like when you have a new…

I want to thank everyone for any nice things they had to say to me here and for advice that was given. I have tried many of the things suggested like joining groups and trying out different things that make it easier to meet people. I have done a lot of things like taking cooking classes, book clubs, volunteer, etc. One of…

40 Year Old Virgin

Ever felt away with me Just once that all I need Entwined in finding you one day Ever felt away without me My love, it lies so deep Ever dream of me Would you do it with me Heal the scars and change the stars Would you do it for me Turn loose the heaven within I'd take you away Castaway on a lonely day Bosom for a teary…

At life's four-way stop The tinges in your shadow drop Fate pulls you down for the count With broken promises to amount Time seals our ways To the heart of our hiding place When all our lifelines have been crossed Some scars can never heal from what we lost To fail the test and depart the strong Is to light the way where…

July 4 when I went to Paris by myself.

I think people care what others think of them out of a fear of loneliness, or at least that may be the case for me and people like me anyway. People want to belong and be welcomed or fit in somewhere. When there is a possibility that you don't fit in or are not wanted, then that can be terrifying. You are obviously a…

I just finished reading The Opposite of Loneliness. It is a collection of short stories written by Marina Keegan, who was killed in a car accident right after graduating from Yale a couple years ago. Her former professor helped get her work published into this collection that became the book. She was a very talented…

I am 34 years old and have been fat my whole life. I have been 400+ lbs (452 lbs being the highest) for quite a while now. So, I have never been able to be successful with getting a girlfriend or having a sex life. My body is ruined because my flaw in my life has been overeating. Even if I lose the weight, I will be a mess…

I am 34 and am not married, have no kids, and have never actually had a girlfriend/relationship. Not having kids does not bother me. After a decade of helping out with my sister's 4 kids, I think I have learned that I don't want kids of my own. Having nieces and nephews is enough for me in that regard. Not being married…

Entombed

Solstafir

Looks like Chewbacca. Call him Chewy.

My starting weight was 452 lbs. I am currently about 424 lbs. In honor of this thread, I am going to make my goal weight 350 lbs, not even the horribly obese 175 lbs, but the starting weight of your example... 350 freakin lbs. Judge me.

Da Bears over da Broncos in a close one... a hunerd an fifty tree ta six.

Bachelors of Science in Electrical Engineering. Minor in Mathematics. I work as a Senior Software Developer for a company in the Willis Tower downtown Chicago.

Nice!! I love Amon Amarth. I saw them a couple months ago in Chicago. They just announced another date at this venue 5 minutes from my house and Sabaton will be touring with them!!! I am so excited for that show. It's in October though. A little ways to go yet. haha.

Ah yeah I misread that. Oh well, back to feeling bad about being the biggest fat *kitten* in the world.