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Deal with lots of creepy-stalky knights in armour, do you? :) It's re-enactment stuff.

I don't weigh everything, but I log everything. For example I don't weigh apples or pears. And other portions are difficult to weigh from a communal pot. I try to eat the foods I like but in smaller portions. But I only get 1550 calories a day so I'm pretty much hungry all the time. But I'm set for a 1000-calorie-per-day…

mccindy is a mchottie. :)

I've never made it to maintenance, so I can't say. All I can say is I have lost weight many times and then gained it back. My belief is that the hunger never goes away. So if you eat to satiety, you will gain weight. I suspect I will have to be hungry forever. Same thing happened to my mother in law. Lost 60 pounds over a…

I can never log sushi because I have no idea what is a portion. Where I go we get little rolls about 6" long and about 1"-2" in diameter. I have no idea how many calories are in these. As opposed to the giant "log" things they make that are supposed to feed multiple people.

Drink diet soda. There are tons to choose from. If you just like the bubbles, buy soda water.

OK, I'm male, 254 pounds, and I've been on a calorie deficit since February. I'm down a total of about 33 pounds, about 20 since February. I'm going to start at the gym tonight doing resistance training with the circuit machines. As long as I continue to maintain a deficit, this will not result in weight gain, correct? If…

Lately when I get out of the shower it is around 80 bpm according to my scale. I'm 44.

It's very simple: If you get 1400 calories, and you exercise 300, then you get to eat 1700 calories for the day.

I don't track macros at all. Only calories. Down 30 pounds so far.

MFP is set up so that you get to eat your calories back. So if you are eating 1500, and you exercise off 300, then you get to eat 1800. Be aware, however, that MFP is often too generous with the number of calories MFP assigns to exercise.

The long story short is plateaus mean you are eating at maintenance. Regardless of what you think you are eating or how much you think you are burning. Gotta eat less or exercise more.

The fact that when they inject Leptin to restore levels to their previous high it makes the symptoms go away was pretty convincing to me. "Recent studies of the short-term administration of leptin to weight-reduced lean and obese subjects suggest that restoration of circulating concentrations of leptin to levels present…

It is. It's been mentioned many times, including by me. The whole problem is self-control. Evidently OP exercised self-control by throwing out the donuts.

This is great, as long as you discover all points of contention before you are married. The reality is, you never do. Here's another one: I can't remember if it was before or after we got married, but my wife said there would be no television in the bedroom. TV is not a big deal to me, so we have no TV in the bedroom. From…

I'm sorry you are unable to follow the conversation.

If your hubby doesn't like something to where he doesn't want it in the house, then you two will have to figure out how to resolve that situation. Someone is going to be disappointed. It just depends how bad you want something and how willing you are to disappoint your spouse to have it. What if you like guns but your…

I did not claim that a living animal was the same as a donut. I said bringing a cat home when your wife doesn't want cats in the house is no different than bringing a donut in the home if your wife doesn't want donuts in the house. Or shoes. Or cigarettes. Or guns. Or whatever. Both spouses get a say as to what can be…

So I assume your husband is allowed to bring absolutely anything into the home he wants? And if you say no to anything he can say, "GTFO"?

Exactly. Obviously the specifics are different. But the situation is the same.

Exactly. The analogy works perfectly, and you said it perfectly. It all boils down to one spouse wants X in the house and the other does not. They are going to have to work out who wins. You don't always get what you want when you are married.

Like I said, marriage is seldom 50/50 on every issue. But you are absolutely right - this is an issue she needs to convey to her husband and hopefully he understands and is willing to help his wife. She's not asking for her diet to be everyone's top concern. She hasn't even asked it to be her husband's top concern. She…

So does that mean that your husband can bring absolutely anything they want in the house and you just have to deal with it? Cigarettes? Cigars? Alcohol? Cocaine? Prostitutes? After all, it's your problem, not theirs... And that's wonderful, for your family. OP has stated she does not feel supported by her husband and she…

This. It's great that other couples have sorted out their food issues and can eat whatever they want around the other, or spend the food budget however they want on whatever they want. That's great! But not all couples are like that, and that's OK, too.

I'm not talking about smoking from an addiction standpoint here. I'm talking about the smell. My step-mother does not like the smell of cigarettes, so my father smokes outside. This is the concession my father has decided to make on this issue. Even though it's his house, it's also her house and so both people have a say…

If your spouse didn't like cats, and you went and got a pet cat, would you be showing a lack of consideration for your spouse's feelings on cats? The issue here is it's not just one spouse's home. It belongs to both of them, and as such both have a say in what can be brought into the home. This is true whether we are…

No one here has suggested, not even the OP, that they desire to deprive the husband of donuts. Nor that he cannot eat them. What OP wants is for him not to bring them in the home.

First of all, I am not equating cigarettes with foodstuff. I am equating the act of smoking in the house with the act of bringing foodstuffs in the house. My step-mother doesn't smoke. My father does. She thinks it stinks. So the arrangement they have worked out is that he won't smoke in the house. Is it terrible that he…

Exactly. Spouses are supposed to support each other through difficulty as they can.

I have not said anything about binging - you are the one who brought that up. I said she obviously has self-control issues if she feels, by her own words, that her husband bringing donuts home is sabotaging her diet efforts. If she had no self-control issues, why would this be considered saboteur? She would simply ignore…