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Am I one of the ladies you're typing about "pushing and/or working through, carrying on, mostly shrugging it off." then asking "Do you attribute that to having reached goals here in the past, and that it helps you cope better with the future?"

Huh?

If you mean partly me, I really try not to waste anymore than minimum time and energy worrying about what might be, or about things I can't do a bleeping thing about. That just ruins the present by borrowing troubles from the past or future. You've seen me type "The wisest sign in the world is one we see everywhere: It says 'You are here'. Only spot from which we can take our next step." 😆

If anything had an effect that made that mindset more possible, it was the roughly two years in my mid-40s when my father in law died suddenly (in my presence), my husband died of esophageal cancer two weeks after diagnosis (ditto, and in our living room), my work life went through the madly stressful run-up to Y2K after which the non-IT members of the world decided it'd never been a problem in the first place (idiots!), my mother-in-law's dementia advanced so much she needed to go into full-time care, my fully independent 83 y/o dad fell off a workbench and blinded himself so had to move into assisted living after nursing home rehab, I got diagnosed with advanced breast cancer (and had to tell my dad his only child had the disease my mom died of, just as he was moving into that assisted living - the hardest thing I think I've ever done in my life), my basement flooded to about 6" one day when I was at work, and probably some other stuff I've forgotten about.

These days, if no one's currently or imminently dying in my vicinity, including me, I'm fine. Other stuff is is just "OK, I guess this is what's next. Let's deal with it."

Yeah, I got useful lessons from weight loss, too. But I'm now less anxiety-ridden about nearly everything, and lots happier on average, largely because of lessons learned in 1998-2000.

My scalp surgery is tomorrow afternoon, so we'll see how that goes. I'm anticipating no big deal. I'm also hopeful that the pathology analysis of what they remove will be as favorable as the biopsy - I think that's probable.

I got back the CT scan results, looking at the lung nodules we're tracking. Still stable. That's good news.

I'm doing physical therapy for my knees again, just getting rolling but good so far. Basic issue seems to be that I'm too quad dominant, and it's pulling my knees out of best situation. Working on getting my hamstrings and glutes to do some work, too. The home exercises so far are nearly all things with my feet on one of those big exercise balls, so there's some core challenge in the mix, too.

@springlering62 , I hope the Celebrex is a big improvement for you.

@SummerSkier Thanks for your kind well-wishes! I hear you on the injury recovery issues. I'm really glad I chose MFP when I started calorie counting, because its concept of logging exercise calories separately has really helped me with understanding what the concept of "in check" is, when I can't follow my normal workout routine. Doesn't make it easier to cut out what I need to cut in order to adhere to that, but at least I have a decent estimate of what I need to do.

Injury recovery is maybe even a little bit extra of a calorie-balancing act, because I want to stay very close to maintenance calories during any acute healing, so I'm fueling the healing via both calories and nutrition. During last November's post-skull-fracture period, I had a couple of weeks where - surprisingly! - I struggled to be eating enough. I was just so fatigued, struggled to get it together to cook/eat. I hope you have either energy enough, or people around you to help enough, that that's not an issue for you.