Help with lifting program please?

LoLoGB

So I have started lifting to lose weight and to get more fit/lean/muscular and stronger. Also, thanks to @heybales I upped my calories to 1375. Some days I am super sore that night or next day and other days it's very very mild or not at all. But I rep to failure...so am I doing something wrong? My current program is below and I plan on increasing weight each week. I'd appreciate thoughts and advice. Thanks!

Monday:
Dynamic warm up (jumping jacks, windmill, jumping rope, butt kickers, etc) - 2 min

Push ups 3 sets/8 reps
Walking lunges with bicep curls 3 sets/8 reps/10 lbs
Curtsy lunge with bicep curls 3 sets/5 reps each arm/10 lbs
Seated dumbbell overhead shoulder press 3 sets/10 reps/10 lbs
Dumbbell row 3 sets/8 reps/10 lbs
Plank 3 sets/45 seconds

Tuesday:
20 min cardio (recumbent bike, walking)
Yoga (sometimes. 20 min)

Wednesday:
Dynamic warmup- 2 min
Push up with row 2 sets/5 reps each arm/10 lbs
Deadlift with bicep curl 2 sets/10 reps/14 lbs
Step ups with bicep curl 2 sets/10 reps/14 lbs
Dumbbell shoulder raises 2 sets/8 reps/8 lbs
Sumo squat with kettle bell 2 sets/10 reps/20 lbs
Superman 2 sets/10 reps

Thursday:
20 min cardio (recumbent bike, walking)
Yoga (sometimes. 20 min)

Friday:
Dynamic warmup- 2 min
Close triceps push ups 3 sets/8 reps
Lateral lunge with bicep curl 3 sets/10 reps/10 lbs
Squat with overhead shoulder press 3 sets/8 reps/15 lbs
Iron Cross 3 sets/10 reps/5 lbs
Single leg dead lift 3 sets/8 reps/15 lbs
Bent over row 3 sets/8 reps/15 lbs

Saturday/Sunday day: Only one of these days
20 min cardio (recumbent bike, walking)
Yoga (sometimes. 20 min)

Balance_Moderation

Have you considered doing a well constructed program that has a progressive arc? There are so many. I am going to be starting the one that is put out by the EM2WL group. It is a 12 week program broken into 3 phases of 4 weeks. I don't think that there is anything wrong with your program, but instead of doing, say for instance, a deadlift with a bicep curl, just do a deadlift and focus on getting stronger with your DL. I guess I am not big on the isolation moves like bicep curls I am more of a believer in the compound movements like the rows, the OHP, the squat, the DL, etc. Say for instance, if you do a squat with an overhead press, you're not really working to build up the muscles for the squat, you're going to have to go lighter because of the combo with the ovherhead press. You're doing 15 pounds which is fantastic for an OHP but you're not going to be able to build much on the lower part with the squat. Does that make sense? Do a squat then do an overhead press. You can really focus on the squat and building up the muscles there and then you can really focus on the OHP and then build up there instead of combining the two. Maybe some of the more seasoned people here might have better suggestions, but that is my 2 cents. Some excellent programs are:

New Rules of Lifting for Women amazon.com/New-Rules-Lifting-Women-Goddess/dp/1583333398/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1428106470&sr=8-1&keywords=new+rules+of+lifting+for+women
StrongLifts 5x5 stronglifts.com/5x5/
Nia Shanks has a whole bunch of them niashanks.com/shop/
Sean Flanagan has a good 4 week program seanflanaganwellness.com/4weekhomeprogram

heybales

Ditto.

Same principle as jack of all trades, master of none.

Now, that type of training program may fit perfectly for some specific goal.

But the lower body getting a good workout for those muscles is usually going to be hampered if it's the upper body muscles determining the weight that is used.

Reps to failure or almost is good, especially if starting out. Sore is good.

But is it really equal soreness in both sets of muscles that were supposed to get the workout?