I just want people to notice lol
AngInCanada
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I haven't been at work in a week and a half and was feeling awesome in my size smaller scrubs. Not one single person noticed so I felt a bit bummed out. Not that I expect others to acknowledge me, but just ONE person saying "wow, you've lost weight" would've gave me a little spring in my step. *sigh*
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Right!? I too wear scrubs to work. I think they make everyone look larger than they are. I call them my work jammys.0
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how much have you lost?
I think they say it take 4 weeks for people to notice?0 -
I don't know how much you have lost, but I have read that other people don't generally notice until 20+ pounds are lost. Just goes to show that all our obsessing about ourselves is pointless. Nobody else is much worried about how we look. They are too busy obsessing about their own bodies and not paying us any attention, lol! But hey! Keep up the good work. I know it feels great!0
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I've lost 12 lbs and 17" in 3 1/2 weeks. I see a noticeable difference in pictures
I will admit though. I love my work jammies. Lol. So comfy and pajamaish
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JAngInCanada wrote: »I've lost 12 lbs and 17" in 3 1/2 weeks. I see a noticeable difference in pictures
I will admit though. I love my work jammies. Lol. So comfy and pajamaish
That is great! Congratulations. You hang in there. People will start noticing (and getting jealous) very soon. Great job!0 -
I know what you mean....you are excited and want people to notice ! But you have just started, Honey ....give it some time. Before you know it, if you keep it up, everyone will notice. It could also be that not everyone is sure yet that you have lost weight, and they may be hesitant to say something in case they might be mistaken. I found that the month that I lost 13-14 pounds, no one noticed, but the month that I only lost 1 pound, suddenly it was noticeable to others and the comments came rolling in. You will get your chance, don't worry !0
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My coworker, a bit of a larger girl, lost 20lbs....and I didn't say a thing. I could totally tell, but I wasn't sure if saying anything was being rude or something. It wasn't until she said something that I felt okay to say something.
I guess along those lines of "hey, have you lost weight?"
"What? Do you think I need to lose weight?" Look of incredulity on their face...0 -
Hang in there! Personally I don't talk about other peoples' weight at all, so many of your colleagues likely feel the same. I asked a colleague once in my life if she had lost weight and felt strangely uncomfortable about it. She was overjoyed to be noticed though so it was the right thing to do!0
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I don't like it when my colleagues comment (I have lost 30lbs). It makes me feel really awkward like they are sub-textually saying "cos you looked awful before" (even though they're not!). I don't think I would ever comment directly on weight loss unless it was a friend or relative (and even then...) I would just say - you're looking lovely or something.0
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Don't worry, I have lost of 16kgs since January and my husband only recently told me that he could see I had lost weight because "my face looked thinner" and that was mostly because I had straightened my hair that day. I like to think that it also means he didn't really notice when I was really overweight and loved me whatever size I was.
Maybe people have noticed and just chose not to say anything for fear of offending you. Well done on the weight loss and smaller size scrubs though. 
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I've discovered that the best cover-all compliment is 'you're looking really well'. I say it a lot even if I don't necessarily mean it as it makes that person feel good and it's nice to boost self esteem in others 0
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I find it is when I least expect people to notice that they do. I work in a small shop in rural Ireland, where everyone feels they can make comments nice or not. Sometimes I lose weight and people say did you gain weight? Grrrrrr. It is because they notice a change. Other times I have none lost and folks say wow have you lost weight. Then when I do lose a few lbs, nobody notices. Life can be funny. You have a great loss in only three weeks, you must be thrilled.0
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Last time I was successful on LCHF it was about 20lbs when my manager said something (and I was wearing a fitted tank top), so that seems about right on for what the rule of thumb is.
It definitely depends how the comment is made. I remember the first time my MIL saw me with make up.. she commented on it several times until I really felt like the point was being made about how I looked WITHOUT make up, you know?0 -
I swim with a friend of mine every Tues and Thurs and one day she walked in to the pool area and I looked at her and said "oh my hell, you got skinny", she laughed. She had lost 40 lbs, but for some reason I didn't really notice until that one day. It was like it all fell off in one day, but I know she worked at it for about 4 months. She did one of the expensive programs and so she lost it fairly fast. So they may notice on a day you're not expecting it, but I do know what you mean, it's nice when it gets noticed.0
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This is funny to me. My coworkers notice EVERYTHING! and worse they say something to me about it at least 1x or 2x a week. I've worked with the same group for about 13 years, so I guess they feel comfortable saying just about anything, sometimes TMI! HAHA. I'm not sure if they are Bi&ches or trying to be friendly. "Oh, you look tired today, are you OK?", "Oh, love the pedi, you should go darker", "Oh, Those pants are falling off you", "Oh, we've got to get you some new glasses, the 90's called and want their frames back", "Oh, you need to wear tighter clothes to show off that bod."
I wish I could wear scrubs. I like non-binding wear, Give me a muumuu! HAHA it does camouflage a lot of what's going on underneath!
BTW - 12 lbs in 3.5 weeks is awesome. I'm at 3 weeks, not losing it as fast, but it's coming off. Keep up the good work and enjoy your new bod!0 -
I was just thinking about this yesterday, because nobody in the office has said anything about my loss of 29 pounds.... but then I started REALLY thinking about it and realized that I would feel extremely awkward if my supervisors said anything, because they are male and then I would start wondering why they're looking that closely. LOL. I think, like other commenters have said, that it's an awkward subject to bring up. I remember being pregnant with my first child and someone commented on my weight loss--which was actually a gain! I was like, "WTF is wrong with you?" in my head, but I think I muttered, "Actually I'm pregnant--thanks for noticing." Weight is such a sensitive subject that most people hesitate to say anything unless they are close friends or family.0
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Agree with most others that some people notice and just don't know what or how to say something. This world, where harassment and being sued is common, people just don't want to say something because it can be misunderstood. Also, sometimes, if you make a comment to someone about their appearance (positively), many times they will be relieved to respond with a comment, too. So make sure to notice when your coworkers try a new hairstyle, have a special glow that just makes them seem happy, smile all day, or whatever. If they ask you why, tell them you started a new thankfulness challenge, and you're happy to find one new amazing thing about each of them per week or something.
Plus, remember, that sometimes it is "the clothes that make the man." Maybe your scrubs hid the worst parts before and aren't fitted enough now for them to be sure (or if uniform, might be an unflattering color). A lot of people also don't know how to compliment you without making it sound like your were horrible/awful/gigantic before. And people get caught up in being oblivious these days...
I love to tell people, "I don't know what you did different today, but you look amazing!"
"wow, that color really makes your eyes sparkle!"
when someone turns sideways, "Damn, girl, where'd you go? You're disappearing before my eyes!"
"you're glowing today. Whatever you are doing, keep it up!"
whispered conspiratorially, "what's your secret? you look amazing today."
These things all highlight potential weight loss, but much like others above, when people see a change, for better or worse, is when they notice. Could be shifting of things, straight hair, pregnancy glow, a good color on you, new makeup, or just that inner peace thing....
Take heart - if you can see the difference, others can to, they just probably don't know how to say it. 0 -
AngInCanada wrote: »I haven't been at work in a week and a half and was feeling awesome in my size smaller scrubs. Not one single person noticed so I felt a bit bummed out. Not that I expect others to acknowledge me, but just ONE person saying "wow, you've lost weight" would've gave me a little spring in my step. *sigh*
I saw your pictures! I certainly noticed. Wear the old scrubs that are too big maybe? I think some people are hesitant to acknowledge weight loss unless they know you are working at it.0 -
It's the scrubs. My vet, her 2 vet techs, the office girl, all wear scrubs and have all lost weight(20-50 lbs) in the last year and I swear to god I couldn't tell till I saw them in street clothes. They are so jammyish that they kinda hide it all.0
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My coworker, a bit of a larger girl, lost 20lbs....and I didn't say a thing. I could totally tell, but I wasn't sure if saying anything was being rude or something. It wasn't until she said something that I felt okay to say something.
I guess along those lines of "hey, have you lost weight?"
"What? Do you think I need to lose weight?" Look of incredulity on their face...
2x on that thought process.
It is hard to say anything without calling the person a fat person. I think it takes about a 30 pound loss before many feel free to bring up you are or have been FAT.
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It took me losing a quarter of my mass before anyone noticed (over 60lbs).0
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In the past its taken about 50lb. For others to actually comment. I've lost 30.6lb. with this woe and it looks like lots more to me and others! When I notice other's weight loss I use the your hard work is showing line. I stay away from telling them how much better they look. Just sayin...:-)0
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Some people are also just oblivious. We've had a friend go from short poofy fro to shaved head and it didn't occur to me that something was different when he walked in the door. I don't notice differences in people's body sizes unless it's 1) gigantic, and 2) not someone I see all the time.0
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I've lost about 13 lb and no one except my husband and my mom has said anything. It's ok; I'm not sensitive about it and I'm sure people will comment eventually. It would be nice for a neutral party to comment though, lol.0
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I lost over 20 lbs before it was really noticed at work. Family and friends were much quicker to notice.0
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Congrats on the weight loss! That is fantastic for such a short period of time.
With that said, I try to never comment on people's weight, good or bad. It's just awkward, and it makes me feel awkward when they say something to me about my own weight.
I do try to take any comments like "wow! you've really lost a lot of weight!" as a positive. I know I was too fat. It doesn't hurt my feelings if someone also believed I was too fat. In fact, I don't like it when people say "oh, you didn't need to lose weight". The hell I didn't, are you blind?!?! I was obese in 2011 and approaching it again in 2014.
Of course, it is always nice to know that some folks are not paying close attention to these things, as it probably means they pay more attention to who we are than what we look like, and that is a blessing.0 -
I only comment on the weight loss when it's a close friend and I know they are trying.
Otherwise, I don't know the reason for their weight loss. It's might be deliberate, but it might be illness. So I just tell people thy look great, if they are friends.
I've lost 35 pounds and no one has noticed. Not even my husband has said anything (but he really doesn't want me to lose weight)0 -
We definitely comment in my family and with my inlaws if we see someone has lost weight. I wonder if that is just us or it is a cultural thing? It's not at all offensive to me to point it out or have it pointed out to me. The guy who runs the local dairy (corner shop) told me I lost "a shitload" of weight and I was so pleased!
I never understand how congratulations for an improvement could be an offense.0 -
We definitely comment in my family and with my inlaws if we see someone has lost weight. I wonder if that is just us or it is a cultural thing? It's not at all offensive to me to point it out or have it pointed out to me. The guy who runs the local dairy (corner shop) told me I lost "a shitload" of weight and I was so pleased!
I never understand how congratulations for an improvement could be an offense.
That seems to be because you are an intelligent human being with a balanced emotional response. For many, it can be an emotional trigger to feel inadequate at their former weight. You seem to be one of the luck few who hears the compliment and gets the warm fuzzy feel, whereas some hear the comment and HEAR, "Wow you fat *kitten*, it's about time you got you behind moving....you were a jumbo whale before!" Consider yourself lucky!
I'm mostly like you (once in a while the "you used to be SO BIG" type comments get me a little) wherein I'm doing a happy dance when people notice, of course mine hasn't been sudden, but 5+ years in process, so it's gotten a little old and expected for some folks!0 -
I was just thinking about this yesterday, because nobody in the office has said anything about my loss of 29 pounds.... but then I started REALLY thinking about it and realized that I would feel extremely awkward if my supervisors said anything, because they are male and then I would start wondering why they're looking that closely. LOL. I think, like other commenters have said, that it's an awkward subject to bring up..
This is exactly why I feel torn about this subject. I'm only 6 pounds down right now so it isn't an issue. But a few years ago when I lost weight I was depressed because none of my co-workers said anything to me. Then, when I was down almost 50 pounds, people finally started commenting. When my boss said something to me...I thanked him, but suddenly I felt uncomfortable.
I try not to comment on others' weight either, but if I know someone is trying to lose weight I will always try to be encouraging and comment on their loss. 0
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