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raige123
raige123 Posts: 352
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So trying to figure out the best thing to wear to be approached at a bar. I was told once I was very intimidating because I was dressed in jeans and a hoodie. I don't want to dress sleazy to just pick up ... but I want to wear something to catch a certain someone's eye. What is the best thing a girl can wear out for a night at a bar with live music to catch a man's eye?
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  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
    The expression "little black dress" comes to mind. :happy:
  • SoViLicious
    SoViLicious Posts: 2,633 Member
    I simply walk into the room.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    Wear whatever you feel good in, and then go talk to the guy instead of waiting to catch his eye.
  • TyTy76
    TyTy76 Posts: 1,761 Member
    Wear whatever you feel good in, and then go talk to the guy instead of waiting to catch his eye.

    This.

    Some/most guys are dumb and just won't get it.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    So trying to figure out the best thing to wear to be approached at a bar.

    If nothing else, they'll want more beer or wings eventually.

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  • TheKitsune6
    TheKitsune6 Posts: 5,798 Member
    Tank top? Not sleazy but still shows a bit of skin.

    Then stop being passive and go make yourself known.

    Luck is when opportunity meets preparedness.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    Confidence and a sundress or jean and a nice top. You don't have to look slutty but feminine and not dressed like a guy.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Walk up and talk to him.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    Confidence and a sundress or jean and a nice top. You don't have to look slutty but feminine and not dressed like a guy.

    I like dressing in guys clothes.
    Right after. Sometimes I keep the clothes, sometimes I give them back. And trust me, it's hot.
  • MissingMinnesota
    MissingMinnesota Posts: 7,486 Member
    Confidence and a sundress or jean and a nice top. You don't have to look slutty but feminine and not dressed like a guy.

    I like dressing in guys clothes.
    Right after. Sometimes I keep the clothes, sometimes I give them back. And trust me, it's hot.

    That is a certain guys clothes not a guy in general. Totally different.
  • Tube_socks
    Tube_socks Posts: 808 Member
    My rule of thumb is if you're showing a bit up top, wear pants or a longer skirt/ dress.

    I'm famous for wearing skirts and dresses and like to show off my legs. So my boobs are always covered.

    Don't get a makeover for this guy, but a little sex appeal (LITTLE) has never hurt anybody.

    Even like kits said, a tank can be sexy as well. Be confident and approachable. Smile at everyone.
  • LGrill27
    LGrill27 Posts: 337 Member
    How about something that stands out? Something that shows your a strong, bold, free thinking, individual; yet who has a fun spirited, somewhat whimsical lighter side. I guarantee you will turn all the heads with this contraption.

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  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    Wear a skirt, dress, or low cut top, whatever shows off your assets best and makes you feel confident. I probably wouldn't approach someone in jeans and a hoodie, there's nothing sexy about that.
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    I probably wouldn't approach someone in jeans and a hoodie, there's nothing sexy about that.

    I would. I guess it depends on the guy. I agree with everyone saying wear what you like and approach the guy yourself.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    I probably wouldn't approach someone in jeans and a hoodie, there's nothing sexy about that.

    I would. I guess it depends on the guy. I agree with everyone saying wear what you like and approach the guy yourself.

    The OP clearly has a destination (a bar) and even a certain guy in mind, so a hoodie probably wouldn't work. But I'm interested in your split opinions on this otherwise... what if it were a rainy Saturday at Starbucks? Would a hoodie (or just less sexy, not necessarily a bum look) really be that much of a dealbreaker?
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    The OP clearly has a destination (a bar) and even a certain guy in mind, so a hoodie probably wouldn't work. But I'm interested in your split opinions on this otherwise... what if it were a rainy Saturday at Starbucks? Would a hoodie (or just less sexy, not necessarily a bum look) really be that much of a dealbreaker?

    If I was at a bar looking at a pair of identical clones (I do a lot of drinking in the future), one of which was wearing a short skirt and the other jeans and a hoodie, I would approach the one in jeans and a hoodie. My perception is that she would be easier to get along with, more fun to hang out with, and we would have more in common. It's incredibly judgmental of me, I know, but there it is.

    Edit: this is all other things being equal and without knowing anything about them.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    The OP clearly has a destination (a bar) and even a certain guy in mind, so a hoodie probably wouldn't work. But I'm interested in your split opinions on this otherwise... what if it were a rainy Saturday at Starbucks? Would a hoodie (or just less sexy, not necessarily a bum look) really be that much of a dealbreaker?

    If I was at a bar looking at a pair of identical clones (I do a lot of drinking in the future), one of which was wearing a short skirt and the other jeans and a hoodie, I would approach the one in jeans and a hoodie. My perception is that she would be easier to get along with, more fun to hang out with, and we would have more in common. It's incredibly judgmental of me, I know, but there it is.

    Edit: this is all other things being equal and without knowing anything about them.

    Damn, why do you and those amazing ab muscles have to live on the other side of the country? :sad: :blushing:
  • jesusHchris
    jesusHchris Posts: 1,405 Member
    Damn, why do you and those amazing ab muscles have to live on the other side of the country? :sad: :blushing:

    Isn't that always the case! ;)
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    Damn, why do you and those amazing ab muscles have to live on the other side of the country? :sad: :blushing:

    Isn't that always the case! ;)

    And you have a dog... now I'm just gonna go pout for the rest of the day :grumble:
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    I'm a jeans and tank top kinda girl....usually accompanied by flip flops but thats because I live in South Fl and they are basically the only footwear allowed
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    I tend to run relatively simple with clothes.

    To the bar I typically wear jeans and a blouse. I love the new sheer ones. They cover your skin (I'm not a big fan of showing cleavage, it makes me uncomfortable and I end up tugging my shirt up all the time). I have a few go-to shirts. I go for stylish but comfortable for me. I think jeans and a loose but beautiful blouse is a great compromise between dressing too dressy and dressing too casual.

    I did go to the bar in a hoodie the other night, but I was out of town and we weren't interesting in meeting guys we were just grabbing a bite to eat. I love hoodies! But typically where I live they are not bar-wear.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I say go for something stylish & classy that you feel comfortable and confident in. No point of wearing something that you are worried about all evening!

    I tend to wear a dressier top (tank or 'blouse') and a pair of jeans/capris.

    Just show off a bit of skin, but not too much... gotta leave something to their imagination.. and you can look hot while dressed classy not slutty!
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Take initiative. Talk to a few guys and hit on them if you like them.
  • lacroyx
    lacroyx Posts: 5,754 Member
    I probably wouldn't approach someone in jeans and a hoodie, there's nothing sexy about that.

    I would. I guess it depends on the guy. I agree with everyone saying wear what you like and approach the guy yourself.

    I would too, especially if it was something geeky related.

    To the OP: wear something that makes you feel sexy and confident.
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
    OP, I love shirts like this.

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    It's covered but sexy because of the bare arms.

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    This is classy but looks incredibly comfortable.

    Sexy doesn't mean showing all your assets, it's about working what you got! Do your hair a little, put on some makeup...and your sexy and classy!
  • Roadie2000
    Roadie2000 Posts: 1,801 Member
    The OP clearly has a destination (a bar) and even a certain guy in mind, so a hoodie probably wouldn't work. But I'm interested in your split opinions on this otherwise... what if it were a rainy Saturday at Starbucks? Would a hoodie (or just less sexy, not necessarily a bum look) really be that much of a dealbreaker?

    If I was at a bar looking at a pair of identical clones (I do a lot of drinking in the future), one of which was wearing a short skirt and the other jeans and a hoodie, I would approach the one in jeans and a hoodie. My perception is that she would be easier to get along with, more fun to hang out with, and we would have more in common. It's incredibly judgmental of me, I know, but there it is.

    Edit: this is all other things being equal and without knowing anything about them.
    Hoodies and jeans are fine for casual wear, and I agree with Chris that somebody dressed casually is perceived as being more friendly and easier to get along with than someone that is all dressed up. But when I'm at a bar, and since my male brain usually has only one thing on it's mind, I am much more likely to notice and be more attracted to the one that is more dressed up. And I'll probably be more likely to friend zone the one that is dressed more casually.

    But most of the girls I've dated have been more casual dressers. They don't normally stand out in a crowd and I didn't pick them p in bars anyway. Usually if they want me to notice them they just flirt with me.
  • UsedToBeHusky
    UsedToBeHusky Posts: 15,228 Member
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    I would not wear that top with those shorts. The top is over-dressed and the shorts are under-dressed. It's a bit of an oxymoron and makes my head hurt just thinking about it.
  • dbrightwell1270
    dbrightwell1270 Posts: 1,732 Member
    I always think that a woman's outfit looks the best when it's at the foot of my bed!
  • christine24t
    christine24t Posts: 6,063 Member
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    I would not wear that top with those shorts. The top is over-dressed and the shorts are under-dressed. It's a bit of an oxymoron and makes my head hurt just thinking about it.

    Neither would I. I was talking about the shirt. I would pair that shirt with tight skinny jeans or colorful shorts.
  • raige123
    raige123 Posts: 352
    Thank you all for your opinions! I love this place! :)

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