Up and down

Sajyana

I'm really, really struggling. The past few months have thrown a few curve balls in my direction and between the stress, the tiredness, taking care of everyone and trying to deal with the issues, the carbs have been jumping up and down in front of me as an easy solution for food.

I've been rubber banding. A couple of low carb followed by a couple of days of carbs usually between 50-100g with a massive carb day every couple of weeks for good measure. I know it's an emotional/stress related response and I'm trying to keep a handle on it. The good news is that I've managed to maintain my weight. I've been up and down the same few pounds.

I'm hoping that putting it here under the spotlight will help. One choice at a time.

KnitOrMiss

Just wanted to send hugs... I'm a mess right now, but my goal is just not to gain anything else until I have my head surgically removed from my behind. Got caught up in the stress and my head and being illogical.

mlinton_mesapark

Sending you ladies lots of love! If you are maintaining amidst the stressors, @sajyana, I'd call that a win.

@KnitOrMiss, if it weren't for your posts to remind me, I'd never guess anything was troubling or distracting you. You seem very clear-headed. But I take your word for it and will keep you in my thoughts.

(((Hugs)))

KnitOrMiss

mlinton_mesapark wrote: »

Sending you ladies lots of love! If you are maintaining amidst the stressors, @sajyana, I'd call that a win.

@KnitOrMiss, if it weren't for your posts to remind me, I'd never guess anything was troubling or distracting you. You seem very clear-headed. But I take your word for it and will keep you in my thoughts.

(((Hugs)))

I can stay very clear-headed/focused/logical/connected - I save my mental moments for my BFF and fiance! My problem is that I realized I'd been slowly self-slowing my losses and such because I was afraid of what it meant to take the next step. I'm just working through it. This last 4 weeks has been heck here personally due to a financial matter, a legal matter, being broker than BROKE, and just LIFE, so I'm fighting my way back. I figure if I don't grow out of my pants, it's a win! This is a long term goal for me, regaining as much health as I can, so a little slowing here or there, it's all part of the process. Doesn't mean it's not annoying, but it's all part and parcel. Thanks though...

Sajyana

((((Hugs))))

Life!!!

One step at a time.

Kitnthecat

You guys have been such amazing sources of inspiration for me @Sajyana and @KnitOrMiss ! You are two of my heroes here, and I am so sorry to hear that you are struggling. My heart goes out to you.

I think we all have moments of more stressful events in our lives. I would say that for myself, this woe has helped me immensely when dealing with stress. Isn't it funny that we still reach for carbs when feeling stressed, despite the fact that we believe to the centre of our being that carbs have not done us any favours in the past ? I know that when I fall off the wagon now carb-wise, I don't fall off as far as I would have years ago when dieting.

I think now when I slip up, it really comes down to consciously making a decision to be kind and forgiving of myself, while reaffirming my dietary beliefs in order to move on. I never had the ability to do this with other diet schemes I have tried. I have to admit that being an emotional eater, I need to come to terms with my ability to handle stress in a healthier way. I'm trying to undo a lifetime of unhealthy eating and emotional patterns. It's really hard ! But I'm doing it ! I can see myself changing thought patterns and resulting patterns of behaviour. I can still be a mess though....but my recovery time is much more positive.

If it's any help, I find that once I go overboard on carbs for a day or two, sometimes planned, sometimes unexpected.......then get back on track, I always see the scale come down. I'm learning how to nip it in the bud and move on. I tell myself that this is what maintenance will feel like once I get closer to my goal.

I wish you two, and anyone else out there who is struggling...all the best.

FIT_Goat

Sometimes it's just about doing the best you possibly can each day. Maybe you haven't really lose any weight, but you haven't been going backwards either. Just keep working towards the end goal.

KnitOrMiss

My life has been nothing but stress as long as I can remember. As soon as one thing eases, another begins. But I'm working hard to change that now, and I'm making strides. FINALLY

That being said, yes, struggling, but ANYTHING WORTH HAVING IS WORTH FIGHTING LIKE HE!L TO EARN, RIGHT?

If it isn't hard, it's probably not worth it.

So I really don't mind fighting to earn my health, because I'll appreciate it more when I get there, and I'm far less likely to take it for granted.

But thank you, @Kitnthecat... I'm not sure how I got elevated to "hero" status, LOL, but I'm glad to know that something I've done somewhere along the way has helped you. That brings me a lot of joy and personal satisfaction. I'm working on discovering "what I want to be when I grow up" and this whole adventure to better health has helped me grow up mentally so much too! Wishing you luck.

And @FIT_Goat - I couldn't agree more. Making the better choices where possible, holding steady while dealing with life, and all that... I am actually up a few pounds per the scale, but I still fit my current size of pants, so I'm not going to sweat it, as I know my body will catch up eventually.

And I have to say, focusing on gaining health factors and not on the scale going down has made this part of everything actually possible. While it's still nice to watch the scale drop, feeling better than I ever have as an adult makes all the difference in the universe!

slimzandra

@Knit - I hear that sista. The saying, "that which does not break us, makes us stronger." If that's the case, then we are the strongest fighting, m'fing, btches you are ever going to meet! I keep telling myself, I must be one heck of a bad *kitten* to be able deal with this~*&.. "@..a financial matter, a legal matter, being broker than BROKE, and just LIFE, so I'm fighting my way back."

Ditto -"I really don't mind fighting to earn my health .. appreciate it more ..
And I'll add, for me, they can take everything, but the one thing no one can't take from me is my new attitude, my soon to be new smoking body and how energetic, strong and healthy I'm going feel. So, in your face haters! LOL.

@Sajyana, when life throws you curve balls, hit them back out of the frigg'n park! But, duck at the fast balls, they come out of nowhere!

If it helps, try to put it all aside and stay focused on the goals..YOU. Don't let anyone or anything derail your efforts.

I felt like raiding the pantry last night and opening up a bottle. I did stop myself! I cooked a fried egg with guac (which was over my cal limit, but my nerves needed it and I felt it was a better choice.) I then made a Twining's Herbal Nightly Calm tea and went to bed early. I feel better today.

Thaeda

Ups and downs definitely happen. Since I have committed to LCHF as a lifestyle, I feel less anxious when I "jump ship"-- ok, so I had an evening binge, or I had popcorn at the movies, or whatever--- if I choose, I can make my very next bite LCHF. In the past, when I was "dieting" the being off-plan would go on for DAYS until I felt miserable and then I was "back on the diet" again. It was awful and such an emotional roller coaster. Now, I do the best I can each day. Some days I am right on track. Other days, not so much-- but EVERY day I am more and more practicing taking good care of myself and being kind to myself, regardless of what my food choices were.