How it all began...how you plan to lose.

Kiismyaces
Kiismyaces Posts: 132 Member
edited November 22 in Social Groups
I was in a long term relationship but wasn't happy for most of it. I loved my other half at the time and I knew he loved me too, but we only damaged one another. I found myself in a lot of pain and turned to food for comfort as a lot of people do. I am now out of the relationship which is a big help to my weight loss journey and I plan on getting support on MyFitnessPal from all of you wonderful people. My excercise will be mostly swimming and dance classes at the beginning as my bones can't really handle my weight. I plan to eat healthy and drink mainly water!

My motivation besides that is investing in myself...for every pound I lose by Valentine's day I will give myself $50 to spend on Clothes or a nice vacation. I've purchased smaller sized clothes to motivate me, but It didn't help me much and I kept spending money. With this new way I feel excited and have something to look forward to at the end.

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  • suejabin2014
    suejabin2014 Posts: 116 Member
    I struggled with my weight since childhood, But it escalated when I had my first child and put on 3 stones, I did manage to lose that weight until I got pregnant again lol and put it all back, so here's me trying to lose for the second time but it's a little different as I want to have a different lifestyle change, and I want to fit in nice clothes and look good my husband. I feel like this weight is stopping me to do a lot of things and at the age of 26 I am ashamed to let my weight get the best of me, hopefully that all will change.

    I plan to lose hopefully around 45lbs by just eating healthy and exercise!
    Good luck on everyone's journey. It's our time to shine!! Let's do this!!!
  • JaiDessaT
    JaiDessaT Posts: 74 Member
    I grew up lean. I did track and didn't have a lot of time for healthy meals.

    I put on almost all my weight when I was playing WoW a few (5?)years ago. I gained weight with my pregnancies but always got down to a healthy weight for my height.

    One day my husband told me he no longer found me attractive. ..ouch. Wake up call.

    It's been a difficult road, finding what works for me. I"ve been realizing that time passes whether you take care of yourself or not. If you slip up, forgive yourself and move on. Try harder the next day.

    We can do this! One step at a time.
  • silverdwillow
    silverdwillow Posts: 15 Member
    I am 22 and 5'3 and weighing in at 158.4, as of this morning.

    I was always pretty fit growing up. It wasn't until high school (aka puberty and birth control) that I started to gain weight. My highest weight was 180 on my birthday last summer. I wasn't working out regularly or tracking what I was eating until about March of this year. So far I have lost about 15 lbs since March but have another 25 or more to go.

    I am always pretty hard on myself and feel like I am going nowhere with my weight loss. Every other time I have tried to lose weight it feels like it takes forever and then I give up on my routine, but this time since I'm lower in weight than I have been in about 3 years or so I've been pushing myself.

    I'm looking forward to seeing my own and everyone's progress!
  • xoxoamandaz
    xoxoamandaz Posts: 76 Member
    I am 26 5'4'' and I weight 242.

    Wow this is the first time I have actually be true about my weight. I have always been "thick'' but I gained alot of weight with my 2 pregnancies. Me and my boyfriend were young and had so much stress raising two kids and growing up to be adults ourselves that we would fight alot so I would just turn to food as a comfort. As we got older and wiser (lol) we have now grown to understand how to manage our stress and fall back in love with each other. I know that sounds crazy but its true. We get along great and rarely fight. (I said rarely because like every couple we have arguments but we are more equip to handle them now) So I want to get into shape to look and feel great. I want to be around a long time for my kids and to transform myself into a mom and wife that my family can be proud of. It is very depressing to have to shop at the plus size stores because I cant find anything in my size at regular stores. I'm just done feeling sorry for myself, this is a new start, and I cant wait for this journey to begin!
  • amsdragonfly
    amsdragonfly Posts: 152 Member
    I was a healthy weight in college from walking everywhere- I was one of the few who loved having classes all the way across campus! I also biked to work because I didn't have a car back then.

    Now it is many years since college, and my husband and I live out in the country in the middle of nowhere so you can't really walk to the store at all. I drive everywhere now, and teach full time. I found I gain weight slowly, almost gaining 10 lbs a year. I know that doesn't sound like much but it added up.

    I am 160 lbs now, and want to get back to 135 lbs. I am trying my best to walk or jog with my dogs as much each week as I can. For the first time since high school I am going to a physical therapist to learn how to get stronger to fix my own back, as per her instructions I also am doing pilates core exercises because I have a back injury. It has been slow going, but I took this summer (summers off!) to work on my therapy. I also want to get healthy again, so I joined MFP 17 days ago and have logged in each day to log calories.

    My biggest hurdle has always been myself. I have tried to start these things by myself in the past (eating healthy and jogging) but at around two months I stop for some excuse: either I get a cold and never get back to exercising, or I get injured, or something where after I am better I make excuses. I am hoping this group helps me stay on track! <3
  • pianississmo
    pianississmo Posts: 2 Member
    I'm 5'3 and used to weigh under 120 lbs. At the end of my pregnancy (Well, I should be clear: My little one just had his 6th birthday :p ), I reached 160 lbs!

    Few years back, I lost most of the weight in few months by establishing healthy habits but stress in life added those extra pounds back (and more!). Now I have 45 lbs to lose and have 13 months before turning 40. I want this to be a life style change (not just weight loss), be active and be mindful of what I eat (We are what we eat, right? :) )

    Really love this group's energy! Let us help each other to stay on track!
  • emilytay23
    emilytay23 Posts: 10 Member
    I've always been the bigger girl. My lowest weight was 128lbs but that was from not eating as a result of sadness from a terrible break up - not healthy at all. Living in Malaysia where food is at the heart of almost every aspect in life, it is infinitely challenging to try and eat right.

    I want to bring more balance into my lifestyle with eating and exercising out of love rather than hate. Hopefully the kilos will fall off as I follow through with this.

    I'm going to krabi on November 9th for a rock climbing expedition. So hoping to be bikini ready by then. Although I do want to do it healthily and not starve or limit myself in an unsustainable way.

    Here for the change just like everyone else!
  • glitterr0cks
    glitterr0cks Posts: 18 Member
    Wow, hmmm...well In high school and my younger years (pre kids) I was always fit weighing in at around 128-n 135. I always had big everything and did not value my "assets" until AFTER I let myself go. The most I ever weighed was after I gave birth to my second child, my daughter and remained a size 13, weight 167-170. After I vowed to never let myself get that big unless I'm pregnant. My obsession with my weight sky rocketed when I was in an unhealthy relationship where this person loved women/porn. I was determined and insecure with my body. I worked out hard and got a lot of unwanted attention, but never from the one I needed it from or wanted it from.
    Now that thats all in the past I want to do this as a lifestyle change for myself. I'm 30 and it has become so much harder to lose weight and so much easier to gain. I want to be fit and sexy for the woman I see in the mirror. I am happy and confident and secure inside so I want my outside to match what I wish to see.
    Also I want to be the hottest I have EVER been in my life! #revengebody #myhappiness #formykidsexample
  • angelaraedesigns
    angelaraedesigns Posts: 68 Member
    edited August 2015
    This is totally inspiring to read and to be a part of! thanks @Kiismyaces for getting it all started.

    me in a nutshell.

    Height:5' 2.5"
    Age: 40
    Start Weight 170.4
    Current Weight 154.4
    Goal Weight 120 - 125

    November 2014 Diagnosed with Hypothyroidism. Couldn't lose weight. Gave up. Ate and drank what I wanted. July 1 Sat on a chair and broke it.

    July 2nd wake up call diet and lifestyle change.

    Today, I've lost over fourteen pounds since my wake up call and feeling super optimistic that I won't be breaking any more chairs. At least not by accident anyway.

    My plan
    Doctor assisted treatment plan for 12 weeks. I've only got 7 more to go. Should be at my intermediate goal of either 135 or 145. I want to transition off the Doc's plan and maintain that weight for a month, then enter my slow and steady weight loss phase 2 plan to drop the last 10-15 and get my biceps and six pack back. Just kidding I never had a six pack. But would be cool to have one at 40. then I could exclaim, I'm the fittest I've ever been!
  • CowboySar
    CowboySar Posts: 404 Member
    Here's my story.... As a kid always on the heavier side but always active in sports so I was never really over weight. Got into body building in my late teens and early twenties, and actually was able to get down to 2% body fat. Started working as an adult away from home, bad food and a party lifestyle and things started to slide. Change of jobs to a long haul truck driver and that was the end of ever not being over weight. It has been a steady climb over the last 20 years. I am 40, have two grandchildren I want to see grow up, I am tired of being fat, I want to be healthy.

    Thanks for this group and its a perfect date to shoot for as that day is also my anniversary.
  • Queen_Celeste
    Queen_Celeste Posts: 33 Member
    I have always been fat, and never been active. I grew up in a family where you had food for failures and food for success. Everything was rewarded in food. The better or worse thing are going the more and worse we would eat. If you meet with family, you eat. If you do well at school, you are rewarded with food. If you do poorly, you eat away your misery. I also packed on even more weight with each pregnancy and after thanks to postpartum depression and the medications to help made me so tired I ate all the time to have the energy to be awake and care for my kids. I also learned I have a cat allergy after buying a house and moving in two weeks ago. Nothing goes great with eating badly like packing on 10 lbs and having your eyes swell shut in the first 48 hours of being in a new house. (I have lost 5 of them and can open my eyes again just taking an allergy med, but either the med boosts my appetite or I am eating worse.)

    Today is day 5 of potty training my non-verbal son with autism. Its been great 'fun' to put it mildly. In some ways its not has bad as I expected, but its still so very draining on my energy. The worst part is that I am so stressed and busy I am skipping meals then massively overeating when I do eat. Its bad, and considering how long this will likely take I can't keep eating this way until it ends.

    I had lost 25 lbs since April by exercising and tracking my food, so I am hoping that exercise AND eating better will help me meet my goal - and maybe even get back to a before kid weight. But, since I don't want to fail, I am making the following goals.

    Height: 5'5"
    Current weight: 286
    Goal weight: 240 (what I weighed while pregnant with my oldest)
    Non weight goals: Meal prep once a week. Wear out a pair of sneakers. Try one new exercise once a week.
  • Kiismyaces
    Kiismyaces Posts: 132 Member
    Thank you all for sharing. Every single person has a different story, but when we all come together like this we get the chance to be a part of each other's story. It might only be a small chapter or a single page, but it could be one of the most important ones. Can't wait to see how we impact one another and achieve great results!
  • amsdragonfly
    amsdragonfly Posts: 152 Member
    btcowboy wrote: »
    Change of jobs to a long haul truck driver and that was the end of ever not being over weight. It has been a steady climb over the last 20 years.

    Hey btcowboy, my brother had the same problem. He was skinny through high school from running track, went to college and gained a bunch of weight when he became a long haul truck driver because of how hard it was to eat healthy- he used to tell me about how at truck stops you were lucky to find something not fried or super sugary. Now he is trying to lose weight by eating healthy- he is no longer a truck driver (he's a yard jockey now) so he is hoping that a more regular schedule can help him out.

    One thing he did start trying before he quit trucking was making/prepping sandwiches and stuff and bringing a cooler in the truck. When he had breaks he'd try to find a grocery store and get stuff to prep for his cooler. Not sure if that would help you but that's an idea. :)

  • EttaWB
    EttaWB Posts: 201 Member
    It's been a struggle for as long as I can remember. Though not obese, I remember being one of the thicker kids in school and my neighborhood. My dad, who has never been overweight, would have dessert after every dinner and we looked forward to it. It wasn't always fatty but it was most of the time. The craving for ice cream or ice cream and cake or pie set in at an early age. I averaged 150 and remember when I hit 185. By that time, eating the fatty foods and sweets was a habit, required no thinking (easy to satisfy tastebuds), and was convenient. I am truly working on a habit that's been with me most of my life.
  • tamh170obust
    tamh170obust Posts: 12 Member
    Height:5' 5"
    Age: 31
    Start Weight 197
    Current Weight 186
    Goal Weight 169
    from USA (Michigan)

    I have never really been small nor do I really want to be I want to be healthy I weighed 135 when I graduated school weighed 150 when I became PG with #1 fully PG was 176 went down to 155 got PG again went up to 198(highest weight) and was back down to 175 slowly as the years went by I got bigger and bigger I am looking to weigh under my fully PG weight with #. my goal was to be 170 my July of this year (oops) and I set that last August looking for motivation, ideas, competition of sorts gotta get re-re-re-re-re-re motivated

  • CowboySar
    CowboySar Posts: 404 Member
    btcowboy wrote: »
    Change of jobs to a long haul truck driver and that was the end of ever not being over weight. It has been a steady climb over the last 20 years.

    Hey btcowboy, my brother had the same problem. He was skinny through high school from running track, went to college and gained a bunch of weight when he became a long haul truck driver because of how hard it was to eat healthy- he used to tell me about how at truck stops you were lucky to find something not fried or super sugary. Now he is trying to lose weight by eating healthy- he is no longer a truck driver (he's a yard jockey now) so he is hoping that a more regular schedule can help him out.

    One thing he did start trying before he quit trucking was making/prepping sandwiches and stuff and bringing a cooler in the truck. When he had breaks he'd try to find a grocery store and get stuff to prep for his cooler. Not sure if that would help you but that's an idea. :)

    Thanks AMS, I guess I never quite finished my post. I did switch over to making sandwiches and only eating truck stop food once a day, but I still drank 24 cans of coke a day when driving. I quit trucking probably about 16 or 17 years ago, got a trade and became an electrician. Being active in the tools I was able to maintain my weight albeit overweight, around the 240 mark. About 8 years ago I moved into construction and maintenance management, that meant a desk, frequent wine and dine meals, donuts, coffee and high stress, low and behold that's where I sit today, at 315lbs.

    I know with that with support and commitment on my part I can once again be fit and healthy
  • magerchuk
    magerchuk Posts: 25 Member
    Well I'm not too sure how all this weight snuck up on me. I used to be a healthy 140 or somewhere around that mark without having to watch what I ate. As I got further into university and became less involved in sports and more involved in sitting on my butt studying I got bigger and bigger.

    When I started working I thought that I would have more free time and less party time (drinking and poor eating) and the pounds would start coming off. But they aren't. I still kept getting bigger. My eating habits and lifestyle have changed significantly (not to mention my metabolism as I get older).

    I need to start a serious change and get that number on the scale headed in the right direction. I would really like to be slim(mer) for my wedding, and more importantly healthy when we start having children.

    I'm going to start by drinking more water, counting calories, and PLANNING my meals.
  • amalik3511
    amalik3511 Posts: 104 Member
    I am 30 yrs, 6 ft from CT, USA. I have been bulky since childhood. But since getting into college, the records broke. Long study hours, sedentary work and life style and more than that been away from family for the first time, sent me into a eating frenzy (pizzas, chicken, red meat, sweets, snacking) with no workouts at all, after college job, getting somwhere in career and then marriage and all that kept me busy with physical activities down to none.

    But it was recently that I became father to a daughter and this is for her that I want to lose weight, live to see her grow up and become a person in self. Make sure that she does not feel let down by an overweight father who cannot go hiking or play with her.

    I have started cycling 20-25. miles/week and as well walking around 6 miles/week for now, plan to increase the intensity gradually. As for diet, aim to eat less than 1500 cal/day which I have been able to do in past 10 days.
  • Chrisv44
    Chrisv44 Posts: 27 Member

    I have struggled with gaining weight for as long as I can remember. I remember my weight creeping up to 175 and thinking, "as long as I don't get above 190" and years later being 240 and thinking, "as long as I don't get above 250..." At my heaviest I weighed 280 lbs. about 2.5 years ago I used MFP counted calories, walked and did bikram. I managed to lose 40 lbs. I kept the weight off until recently.
    I am starting my third semester of nursing school. Yes the challenge of finding balance between school, work, kids, and everything else has lead me back to where I was before. I'm starting over. My ultimate goal is to lose 100-120 lbs. I started a program through my doctors office and have started walking. I'm determined to be at least 50 lbs lighter by the time I graduate in May 2016.

    5'4"
    SW: 275.4
    CW: 271.0
  • xoxoamandaz
    xoxoamandaz Posts: 76 Member
    Kiismyaces wrote: »
    Thank you all for sharing. Every single person has a different story, but when we all come together like this we get the chance to be a part of each other's story. It might only be a small chapter or a single page, but it could be one of the most important ones. Can't wait to see how we impact one another and achieve great results!

    You are so right!!!!
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