"Desexualizing self" and clothing (men)
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I am a T-shirt and jeans guy. While I like the idea of dressing more trendy, I just don't know where to start. Plus I don't want to look like a D-bag.
u can look nice without looking like a D-bag. Even the most casual things can look nice like a nice pair of jeans and a polo it just depends on the fit and the way you carry yourself.0 -
I think most women and most men do not care about why the other is wearing as long as they're attracted to them. We all have preferences though. I prefer the all American guy. I love when my guy where's a cap, jeans and a nice tee. If we are going out, then a nicer top.
Of course, if my bf would have shown up all sloppy looking (ripped up tee, dirty jeans etc), I don't think I would have been attracted to him. So though clothes matter, it's more of a package deal. I wouldn't worry about where you shop, I'd be more concerned you're wearing what's comfortable and what makes you feel confident.0 -
also, sometimes you can get some ideas online, I've used polyvore a few times to get ideas for looks that I would like to try.
I believe they have a version for men: http://www.polyvore.com/men/collection?id=178127
look around and see what style is similar to yours and get ideas of how to polish it up a bit0 -
I'm not the right person to ask at all. I'm the girl that's content in the jeans and tank top 90% of the time, and I could care less about mens fashion - except when the hems are rolled up so the pants become high waters. No one looks attractive in that. I prefer my men to be dressed down so that we're fine chillin' at home, or if we feel like picking up and going on a hike all we'd have to do is put on shoes.
I hear ya. When I'm at home, I'm most comfortable in a t-shirt (white under shirt) at least in warmer weather. but I want to dress better than I have been in public most of the time, which means better professional attire when required for school/work, and more trendy clothing when I'm on a date with a lady.
What is the female equivalent to wearing a t-shirt (undershirt) at home, anyway? T-shirt? Tank top? I want a girl who is comfortable like this at home.The fit of your clothes matters 500x more than the brand name. You also need to dress for your audiance so we can't say "wear such and such" as it might look out of place in certain situations.
I agree, to a point. Like, what you mean is brand really doesn't matter, but it's how it fits. Can you give me an example of what you consider well-fitted for casual guys' clothing?
I live in tank tops and tights or fuzzy pants at home.. BUt I wear tank tops out alot to....... Usually with jeans but since I go to a lot of dive stlye bars my attire is appropriate
Bobbie Fett
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Interesting site. I would like to see more if there are other sites geared toward getting ideas for men's fashion.0 -
if you Reddit, there's a mens' wear subreddit0
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I am a T-shirt and jeans guy. While I like the idea of dressing more trendy, I just don't know where to start. Plus I don't want to look like a D-bag.
u can look nice without looking like a D-bag. Even the most casual things can look nice like a nice pair of jeans and a polo it just depends on the fit and the way you carry yourself.
I didnt mean to imply that guys that dress nice are D-bags, bit rather that some that do look like it. :P0 -
if you Reddit, there's a mens' wear subreddit
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A man can never go wrong with a loose tee (plain, not a tee shirt but rather a more tissue-type tee) and a good pair of jeans in the summer and a flannel plaid button up in the winter. Plaid makes my heart swoon. Later when I'm on the computer I can show some examples from websites.
Male no-nos:
- jean shorts
- immature logos on tee-shirts. You're a grown man not a child.
- clothes with holes and tears. If your jeans have a tear hike your booty down to the store and get more.
- Ed Hardy
- clothes with logos plastered all over.
- socks with sandals. Why do men do that!?
Learn what looks good on you. Take some selfies and see what you think. Take your clothes for a test drive with the tags on and if they're awkward return them.0 -
A man can never go wrong with a loose tee (plain, not a tee shirt but rather a more tissue-type tee) and a good pair of jeans in the summer and a flannel plaid button up in the winter. Plaid makes my heart swoon. Later when I'm on the computer I can show some examples from websites.
Please do. Tissue type T- ?0 -
A man can never go wrong with a loose tee (plain, not a tee shirt but rather a more tissue-type tee) and a good pair of jeans in the summer and a flannel plaid button up in the winter. Plaid makes my heart swoon. Later when I'm on the computer I can show some examples from websites.
Please do. Tissue type T- ?
Like a thinner material. Not like a Hanes tee-shirt.0 -
I think it's harder for a man to "desexualize" himself than it is for a woman. As far as looking good, a guy can look great in a pair of nice jeans and a nice T-shirt or a polo and sneakers. Now I personally think jeans and a T-shirt (or flannel shirt in winter) paired with work boots is very hot! The biggest issue is that the clothes fit properly not be all baggy and frumpy looking.0
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I'm not the right person to ask at all. I'm the girl that's content in the jeans and tank top 90% of the time, and I could care less about mens fashion - except when the hems are rolled up so the pants become high waters. No one looks attractive in that. I prefer my men to be dressed down so that we're fine chillin' at home, or if we feel like picking up and going on a hike all we'd have to do is put on shoes.
I hear ya. When I'm at home, I'm most comfortable in a t-shirt (white under shirt) at least in warmer weather. but I want to dress better than I have been in public most of the time, which means better professional attire when required for school/work, and more trendy clothing when I'm on a date with a lady.
What is the female equivalent to wearing a t-shirt (undershirt) at home, anyway? T-shirt? Tank top? I want a girl who is comfortable like this at home.The fit of your clothes matters 500x more than the brand name. You also need to dress for your audiance so we can't say "wear such and such" as it might look out of place in certain situations.
I agree, to a point. Like, what you mean is brand really doesn't matter, but it's how it fits. Can you give me an example of what you consider well-fitted for casual guys' clothing?
I live in tank tops and tights or fuzzy pants at home.. BUt I wear tank tops out alot to....... Usually with jeans but since I go to a lot of dive stlye bars my attire is appropriate
Bobbie Fett
lol I still have that tank top and wear it all the time0 -
A man can never go wrong with a loose tee (plain, not a tee shirt but rather a more tissue-type tee) and a good pair of jeans in the summer and a flannel plaid button up in the winter. Plaid makes my heart swoon. Later when I'm on the computer I can show some examples from websites.
Male no-nos:
- jean shorts
- immature logos on tee-shirts. You're a grown man not a child.
- clothes with holes and tears. If your jeans have a tear hike your booty down to the store and get more.
- Ed Hardy
- clothes with logos plastered all over.
- socks with sandals. Why do men do that!?
Learn what looks good on you. Take some selfies and see what you think. Take your clothes for a test drive with the tags on and if they're awkward return them.
The only things on this list I agree with are jean shorts, Ed Hardy, clothes with logos all over and socks with sandals as no-nos. Oh and crocs.
A good fiting hanes' t-shirt can be sexy with a pair of well worn jeans with a couple small holes.0 -
A man can never go wrong with a loose tee (plain, not a tee shirt but rather a more tissue-type tee) and a good pair of jeans in the summer and a flannel plaid button up in the winter. Plaid makes my heart swoon. Later when I'm on the computer I can show some examples from websites.
Male no-nos:
- jean shorts
- immature logos on tee-shirts. You're a grown man not a child.
- clothes with holes and tears. If your jeans have a tear hike your booty down to the store and get more.
- Ed Hardy
- clothes with logos plastered all over.
- socks with sandals. Why do men do that!?
Learn what looks good on you. Take some selfies and see what you think. Take your clothes for a test drive with the tags on and if they're awkward return them.
I like T-shirts with logos/ quotes on them ......And some tears are supposed to be in the clothes lol.....But yeah no sock with sandals..ever .............
Ed Hardy always makes me think of guys having thei mid-life crisis0 -
I'm not the right person to ask at all. I'm the girl that's content in the jeans and tank top 90% of the time, and I could care less about mens fashion - except when the hems are rolled up so the pants become high waters. No one looks attractive in that. I prefer my men to be dressed down so that we're fine chillin' at home, or if we feel like picking up and going on a hike all we'd have to do is put on shoes.
I hear ya. When I'm at home, I'm most comfortable in a t-shirt (white under shirt) at least in warmer weather. but I want to dress better than I have been in public most of the time, which means better professional attire when required for school/work, and more trendy clothing when I'm on a date with a lady.
What is the female equivalent to wearing a t-shirt (undershirt) at home, anyway? T-shirt? Tank top? I want a girl who is comfortable like this at home.The fit of your clothes matters 500x more than the brand name. You also need to dress for your audiance so we can't say "wear such and such" as it might look out of place in certain situations.
I agree, to a point. Like, what you mean is brand really doesn't matter, but it's how it fits. Can you give me an example of what you consider well-fitted for casual guys' clothing?
I live in tank tops and tights or fuzzy pants at home.. BUt I wear tank tops out alot to....... Usually with jeans but since I go to a lot of dive stlye bars my attire is appropriate
****, at home I wear as little as possible. Clothes suck. If my roomie is home I'll throw on pajama shorts and a tank top, but if I'm by myself it's naked time.0 -
I think most women and most men do not care about why the other is wearing as long as they're attracted to them. We all have preferences though. I prefer the all American guy. I love when my guy where's a cap, jeans and a nice tee. If we are going out, then a nicer top.
Of course, if my bf would have shown up all sloppy looking (ripped up tee, dirty jeans etc), I don't think I would have been attracted to him. So though clothes matter, it's more of a package deal. I wouldn't worry about where you shop, I'd be more concerned you're wearing what's comfortable and what makes you feel confident.
There's a difference between not caring about clothes and being slovenly and unhygienic :laugh:0 -
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I would say DONT roc this with dad jeans
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If you're really that concerned you can always meet with a personal shopper0
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I had to look up Ed Hardy. When I did, a derogatory slang word starting with "d" and ending with "g" came up as one of the first results.
Ewww.
I hate jean shorts (but had a couple pairs in grade school when they were popular), and I never wear sandles (even without socks).
The tissue t-shirts sound like a poor excuse by factories to use less material and would probably not last long the way I'm rough with mine.
What in the world are dad jeans???
I usually end up buying jeans a little loose, because the ones that are the right for my waist size (30 inches; that would be a size 31) always end up way too tight in the crotch. I can't sit in them.0
