Monday, January 11, 2016

valmaebel

valmaebel

Just quick checking in! Yesterday went well. It was a trial run of how my routine should go and everything went fairly smoothly! I got a small nap in, and still managed to get meal prep done, and all the things for church set as well. Really trying to stick to a routine this week.
I have my marathon next week, and then the week after I have my oldest child's birthday party and my friends baby shower that I'm planning. So should keep me busy!

Today I'm meeting with a friend to plan the baby shower. I'm also going to head to the grocery store and get my shopping done. Otherwise, it should be a low key day. No piano lessons for oldest this month so that frees up my Monday nights for the next few weeks.

Taper week is well underway, so I only have some short runs to do this week. Tomorrow I have some sprints and a two mile run.

Hope you all have a great start to your week!

FromHereOnOut

Hi!

Well, had errands and ended up with a good step count, but some calf aches. Dinner got started a little late and in my rush to just get stuff cooked, I did exactly nothing to the chicken breasts. Yuck. DH fried some for a sandwich for him and son. I made a spinach salad with mushrooms, feta, beets, rodi, balsamic for the chicken. It was good and lil miss "I'm not hungry" ate half a bowl of the salad, at least. Healthy stuff, followed by extreme chocolate cake, because it's my daughter's favorite stuffed animal friend's birthday (she informed us).

agingwithfitness

Day started off ok until painter came and we lost can of expensive paint. Hubby had major fit and finally went to paint store and bought another one. After he came back we realized that it was the painter who switched lids!

He is a good painter working for cheap so Mike didn't want to get mad at him and we probably needed another gallon to finish, but the stress it caused my hubby was the problem. I told Mike its not what happens but how you react to it.

He left right after he found out it was the painter said he would be back in a few hours, I think he needed to settle down. It was a mistake we all make them and we had 4 different colors and the two that got wrong lids ice age blue and pale aqua look almost alike. We should have moved all the blue cans to the side.

I wish my hubby was leaving like yours Sherry I could use a break from his constant flipping out when stuff happens. Doctor and I are trying to get him to counseling but he is fighting it.

Getting bangs trimmed then going for walk, girl in hiking group invited me to a free yoga session tonight, I might go and check it out.

FromHereOnOut

I have to say, I know what you mean Marla and sometimes feel lucky having hubby gone but wish it weren't so far. My husband's issues are a little different, but I totally understand. At times I've tried to encourage him to see someone about Prozac or something (and I'm usu pretty anti-drug, or at least last resort). I just can't stand the grumpiness or understand why anyone would want to go thru life so grumpy (for lack of a better word). Life is so hard and so irritating to him, so he just checks out sometimes (headset, YouTube, hours). Sometimes the only time I get him to go out is if I tell him we are meeting friends. A couple times the friends couldn't make it and we were "out" with kids on a little trip to the mall or to the coast and I think to myself that maybe I should fib sometimes and say we have to meet somebody, just to get him to come with us. Sadly, he doesn't usually have a good time, but at least the kids will have memories of him there.

But odd coincidence, he got paint today to paint lil girls room but ran out of time due to the impromptu birthday party for lil girls softy. Lol.

agingwithfitness

Mike is the same way, its a shame to live life so unhappy. For him its all about not being able to get over the past with his ex and daughter. She is 28 and it still upsets him he didn't get to raise her and that she is closer to her mom. He thought he was doing the right thing not fighting ex with anything, let her have custody to not drag kid into it, spent time in Keri's class every day to see her volunteering. Now he wishes he would have fought for custody. I think Keri learned not to respect him because he never stood up to ex, when I met him she was 12 and ex would do all sorts of manipulative things and he let her do them.

We went to daughters house a few months ago and pics all over it of mom and not one of dad. It must hurt him.

First 5 years we were together, both working long hours and I barely saw hubby he worked swing shift so I didn't really see what was happening until after he retired and we moved.

I long for those days now, isn't that awful? He won't leave the house like you said unless something is planned.

FromHereOnOut

Marla, this thread sparked a conversation with DH last night. I was just trying to figure out "when" he is happy. I also brought up that I've seen sme improvement ("I no longer want to slip Prozac in your coffee!" Lol, we both laughed). I didn't realize it until later, he was asleep and I was trying to sleep, but I think joining the gym has been the source of his improvement. He goes almost daily to lift heavy and is always talking about his progress. I practically begged him to join but he never would. Then after I gave up on him, like a couple weeks later, he joined anyway and has been going strong for a year now. I hope your husband might find something like that, but regrets like those can be hard to break down unfortunately. I fear I'll have the same kind of regrets some day because I've always wanted another child and husband won't let me. I fear that desire will never leave me, but only turn into a regret later. :-(.

Interesting these things coming up. Trying to lose weight, to be healthier, self-improvement causes people to dig deep inside themselves. I just think ppl in self-improvement journeys are always a bit deeper, and those who aren't in the same kind of journey ( like spouses) might get sort of "left behind" in the nonverbal conversation of living.