Feeling a little cross
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Sunny_Bunny_ wrote: »<snip> it seems like these kind of comments only come from people that are heavy and not trying or interested in losing weight themselves. Not all the time, but very often. I think it's often related to an emotional response that comes from seeing someone else do what you perceive to be either impossible or extremely difficult. <snip>
Bingo.
I've had a few of these, usually from people who later offer me things that they know I can't or shouldn't have. They want me back on their misery train and I ain't getting on board. Later, they'll comment I'm too skinny. Again, they miss me as a passenger on the misery train. Tough *kitten*.
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Saboteurs are everywhere! One of the people I consider to be a "bestie" gave me a bag of carbage for Christmas! Chocolates, and pecan brittle! She is now the biggest she's ever been and really doesn't like being the biggest of my circle of close friends! I had questioned her true friendship when she told me I would regain weight after weight loss surgery! Now, I know she's not!0
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The comment I get the most is "are you sick?" Yes, I've lost over 80lbs, but still have another 30 to 35 to go. So it's not like I'm sickly thin. People are just rude.0
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So yesterday I reached my 2nd weight target. The one that I gave myself after I reached the original one and thought I could do with losing a little more, so yay for me. I'm was all happy and feeling good about myself. So lunchtime today, in walks the lady from the cafe/restaurant next door delivering lunch for one of the lawyers at my office. Looks me up and down and says in front of everyone "Your too thin now, you've lost too much weight". Why do people feel it necessary to make judgments about how people look? Found myself telling everyone I'm not losing anymore and am happy how I am (not entirely true as I need to start working out a little more and get fitter) but was annoyed that I had to justify myself. I have worked hard to lose this 30kgs and have had nothing but positive responses up until now. I know I shouldn't feel bad as she probably didn't realize that it would hurt me, but I do feel really cross about it. Feel like losing another 3 or 4 kgs just to spite her lol jk
I really feel what you are saying! Isn't it funny, that when people are way overweight and medically speaking, a wreck, people will sometimes downplay your appearance with expressions like, " you look ok...you're big boned...you're not THAT fat, etc OR secretly think you look awful....and those same people, especially those closer to us, would visit us in the hospital or send a card after bypass surgery!!!!!!! (Or the funeral parlor, heaven forbid) But, when you take the stand to shed harmful weight, you get all kinds of people needing to validate THEIR perception of what looks healthy, by making such remarks. Compared to the majority of people, who unfortunately are overweight or obese, you may look too thin, when in actuality, you probably looked more like what people looked like 30 yrs ago. NORMAL LOOKING. When I was young, you rarely saw big people. Oh well, I've rambled long enough. Hold your head up.... You have achieved what many only dream of doing.0 -
Ugh, I'm sorry. The same happened to me when I went on to a second, lower, goal weight a couple years ago. It was exasperating.0
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cynlyn2010 wrote: »The comment I get the most is "are you sick?" Yes, I've lost over 80lbs, but still have another 30 to 35 to go. So it's not like I'm sickly thin. People are just rude.
Yeah a friend of ours asked my husband if I had cancer.... I was never hugely overweight to begin with either, and I'm no where near being underweight. My bmi is around 23-240 -
I think the 'are you sick, do you have cancer, are you purposely losing weight' comments are because keto is such a fast acting way of losing body fat compared to the old 1 or 2 lbs a month CICO low fat style - people assume something may be wrong if the weight drops that quickly. Lots have no frame of reference for a WOE that works so quickly for our better bmi & general health.
I just laugh if someone says something to me like the OP heard from that woman.0
